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Author:  "The Gift" [ Wed Apr 04, 2012 10:28 pm ]
Post subject:  Why don't I want sex?
No, it's not me not wanting sex... as such. Let me explain.

I've slept with one girl. She was my 'childhood sweetheart'. I was with her from 16 years old until now (20 years old). We parted ways in Nov'11. I'm not 21.

This was my first girlfriend, and only girlfriend. The only girl I've slept with.

4 Months have passed. I've been back to 14 girls houses. I have not f-closed. I've done pretty much everything else with them. I see my self, as good with girls I have a good understanding of how it all works.

For some reason I have this mental block there, when I'm in bed with them I just don't want to sleep with them. I think I value my self too highly, as I'm thinking. I've only slept with one girl this girl is not worthy of being number 2 and to break this mental block.

I know that if I am in the moment, and very attracted to the girl. I will F-Close, but that moment never appears with previous girls. The girls I go back to I never feel that connection. My friends are surprised when I tell them how many girls I've slept with as they always see me leave the bar/club with a girl(s).

My friends say, just do it, do the deed. Once you've fucked one girl you'll break it and f-close all the others you go home with. But I think, this is my life, I use what I know to benefit my life. I make the choices with who I sleep with, and if I don't want to sleep with her, why should I. I don't give a shit what my friends think.

So writing out this post, I think I've gone from asking for an opinion on what do next to writing out and thinking...I won't change my ways. But I'll post this anyways just to get your guys opinions.
Author:  Thedutchone [ Thu Apr 05, 2012 11:38 am ]
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You don't want a change, nor will you change your behaviour.
Good for you I guess...
Y bother posting if this situation doesn't bother you at all?
Author:  matlo [ Fri Apr 06, 2012 2:34 pm ]
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wow i thought i was the only person who had this problem, i was with my ex for 4 years and she was my first love and first person i had sex with.

i found that i just needed time to get over her
Author:  doni [ Sat Apr 07, 2012 7:33 pm ]
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this is regualr problem for some guys I mean it's nothing out of the ordibary
Author:  Soncheese [ Sat Apr 07, 2012 9:07 pm ]
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My ex was a HB10 and i know i would off still liked to have been with her now but we broke up.

I dunno maybe just high standards? like mine because i kinda want girls like my ex if not better so i cant really find the will to f-close HB7's etc

Soncheese x
Author:  xZEROx [ Sat Apr 07, 2012 11:30 pm ]
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I find this a strange situation to relate to, if a girl is attractive to me and 'sexy' i will almost always have the desire to fuck her, thats why i am in the game, sex and girls are awesome fun!

Maybe ask yourself why you are in the game? There are many different goals guys have, though i suspect the vast majority want to just get laid.

On my first f close in the game i actually stalled a bit, as the last girl i fucked was my ex girlfriend.

I say, just fuck the next one, just because, it may answer some of your own questions, i.e. do i REALLY not what to fuck these girls or is there some other reason.
Author:  "The Gift" [ Sun Apr 08, 2012 2:38 am ]
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I find this a strange situation to relate to, if a girl is attractive to me and 'sexy' i will almost always have the desire to fuck her, thats why i am in the game, sex and girls are awesome fun!

Maybe ask yourself why you are in the game? There are many different goals guys have, though i suspect the vast majority want to just get laid.

On my first f close in the game i actually stalled a bit, as the last girl i fucked was my ex girlfriend.

I say, just fuck the next one, just because, it may answer some of your own questions, i.e. do i REALLY not what to fuck these girls or is there some other reason.
I've only realised recently, that I am probably looking for a girlfriend. I'm just screening. But I have SUCH high standards for a girlfriend I know I won't find one anytime soon who's gunna sweep me off my feet. The whole game thing right now is a hobby. I get kicks out of seducing girls, and getting back to theirs. Knowing I can.

BTW, The number is now 15 as of Thursday night. I have only pulled a couple of girls who I would of genuinely slept with. One of them is coming to visit me this week, so should be interesting.

But I guess people learn game for different reasons, and have different goals.
Author:  225collegekid [ Thu Apr 12, 2012 1:22 am ]
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try meeting girls in the daytime, or change up your venue. if you dont feel like fucking these girls right now then dont. do what feels right for you.

it sounds like your still not over your first girl. take things slower with girls you meet dont jump straight to sex. get to know a girl better before you get sexual. this shouldnt be a problem because you already arent. sounds like you need a nice girl thats sexy. try and find that. go find those types of girls at coffee shops, bookstores, outside , etc. not bars
Author:  "The Gift" [ Thu Apr 12, 2012 2:36 am ]
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try meeting girls in the daytime, or change up your venue. if you dont feel like fucking these girls right now then dont. do what feels right for you.

it sounds like your still not over your first girl. take things slower with girls you meet dont jump straight to sex. get to know a girl better before you get sexual. this shouldnt be a problem because you already arent. sounds like you need a nice girl thats sexy. try and find that. go find those types of girls at coffee shops, bookstores, outside , etc. not bars
I feel 100% confident in a nightclub or bar, still haven't got my head around day game and AA is still high.
Author:  Lockdown [ Thu Apr 12, 2012 4:14 am ]
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Interesting to read your experience just because it's so different from what's typical.

Sounds like you have a certain value attachment to full sex which just doesn't exist for me and I guess a lot of others guys. If I've understood you correctly you think along the lines of "this girl isn't special enough for me to have sex with". I think along the lines of "I'm about to get pussy and it's going to feel great".
Author:  Wheels88 [ Sun Apr 29, 2012 8:58 am ]
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hmm very interesting (says the doctor) hahaha. well i dont know much but maybe have like a value test sometime during the night with her to see if she is up to your stands of having sex with her.
Author:  "The Gift" [ Sun Apr 29, 2012 4:27 pm ]
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Interesting to read your experience just because it's so different from what's typical.

Sounds like you have a certain value attachment to full sex which just doesn't exist for me and I guess a lot of others guys. If I've understood you correctly you think along the lines of "this girl isn't special enough for me to have sex with". I think along the lines of "I'm about to get pussy and it's going to feel great".
I agree. I think I've met about only a few girls in 2012 so far that I would have sex with. I've now gone back to nearly 20 girls houses since November. I usually get everything else but sex. I'm currently gaming a couple of girls who I would have sex with, and the fact that I want sex with them my game doesn't seem as strong. Usual case really.

Oh well, I'm very happy with how I'm progressing as a PUA. I'm in this, so if I see a beautiful woman. I can approach, and get her. I'm not in it to rack up my numbers of the girls I've fucked.
Author:  Wheels88 [ Mon Apr 30, 2012 9:29 pm ]
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that is good to hear man, congratulations and keep doing PUA the way you want to
Author:  lovelopez [ Mon Jul 16, 2012 11:59 am ]
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Hello,

This is not from experience view but from theoretical part of it. Biologically women sex drive become higher several times at 35 years and above so you can check your age and compare.

But the worst thing this study has proved is that many men cant match with their wives speed and lead them to cheat with young girls .Because for men as they grow their sex drive become lower than before especially if they have started it at younger age.

Lastly the study has proved that one of the reason old women cheat with younger boys is because of their high sex drive which is equal with young boys and not their age mate.
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