Ok, I need some advice. My girlfriend is an HB9 and we've been together a couple of months. When we met she was really into me but I was going away to sea for 5 months. She said she would wait for me and we would talk every day and make it work. She said she would be there for me and gave me her favourite necklace and said I could give it back after my contract to show she was going to wait for me.
I was on the ship for over a month and at first she was like omg I miss you so much I love you etc but then she became more and more distant. I got a Blackberry so we could talk on IM and I could see she had read the messages but she wouldn't bother replying for hours or even days and when she did her messages were really short and cold.
When I said it was getting too one sided she just snapped at me that she was busy at work and that if I'm gonna be controlling there's no point. So I tried not initiating any conversations but she didn't either and I felt like she was forgetting me so I started talking to her again.
Then she changed her fb status to single and I was like wtf and she said she was still with me but didn't want her ex bothering her with questions about who she was seeing or something. Anyway I had to come back to Toronto due to health reasons and I thought she'd be ecstatic but she didn't seem bothered. She was just like 'well I've got a really busy summer, I won't be able to see you much.' I've been home over a week and I haven't seen her even though we haven't seen eachother in a month!
I swear she must have read the game because she acts like a PUA. Everytime I think it's over she gives me just enough to keep me hanging on. I sent her a message saying that I'm not gonna let her treat me like this and if she wants to break up she needs to just tell me. So she sent a really short message saying 'I'm very busy, if you can't handle that find another girl. I might be able to see you Friday.'
Well it's Thursday night and she hasn't mentioned meeting me tomorrow again. I want to see her because I think if she sees me in person I can re ignite her feelings because she has clearly gone off me and maybe she's just kinda 'got over' me because I haven't seen her for so long. At the same time do I look like an AFC if I say 'so are we meeting tomorrow?' I'm scared though that the longer I don't see her the more she will go off me.
The most frustrating thing is that she's logged into msn and facebook constantly and I know she is actually there because she is updating her statuses, uploading pictures etc. She just makes a point of never starting the conversation. Even if I start it I don't get a response half the time, and if I do it's like one word.
What the hell went wrong?? When I met her she called me her princess and her queen and said she had fallen for me. The most confusing thing is why doesn't she just dump me if she doesn't want me? Please help me.
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I will try making her jealous somehow maybe with my statuses or what I post on other girls' walls. Should I try to freeze her out? or will that make things worse? Like I said, if I could just get her to spend some time with me in person I feel like I could turn things around. But I look like an AFC if I keep asking her to meet up.. and the longer we spend only talking online the more she is forgetting me and moving on I think 
I really think she is cheating on me. I can't see why else she would suddenly become so cold and distant 