(i tryed to put all the best i found in e books, videos, etc. into a short "book" of my own... ok its only 5 pages, but it's straight to the point and very organized. there is also alot of controversy in the pua community so i decided to take the most solid facts and not go to deep into theory. after creating this my game actualy improved dramaticaly. i feel like i have everything straightened out. tell me your thoughts. enjoy>)
looks:
you dont have to be a model. looks are a small part of building attraction in a woman. still take care of yourself. keep clean, smell good, dress well, excercise, eat healthy. looks will get you attention.
High value:
If you want a girl to be attracted to you then you have to hold value.
Social value:
socail value is natural among humans. we place others on higher and lower grades then our own. someone with high socail value is attractive. someone with high socail value has alot of freinds, good social skills, and does not work for other peoples aproval. you can display socail value by:
-having good communication skills
-mentioning freinds
-acting aloof as to what others thinks of you
-talking with other people around her or people she is with
-body language and voice tone
Pre-selection:
an attractive man already has options. he is desirable by many woman. communicate that you are pre-selected by:
-mentioning ex-girlfriends
-mentioning girl buddys
-being seen with other women
-qualifying her
-acting indifferent to the outcome of your interaction
Jealousy:
a high valued male does not get jealous. never act jealous. no matter what.
Needyness:
dont act needy. do not crave attention or recognition, you dont need it.
Insecurity:
dont act insecure. feel comftorbal with who you are.
Optimistic:
be optimistic, be real, but look at the bright side.
Don't try and please her:
Don't view her as out of your league. dont just do things to please her. keep your dignity. don't talk about how great you are to try to impress her. use subtle communication to SHOW her how great you are. don't just ask her what she wants to get her to like you. that includes saying things like:
"what do you want to do?"
"is this alright?"
"where do you want to sit?"
"are you alright?"
"whatever makes you happy"
"im whatever you want me to be"
"whatever you like"
hard to get:
don't just give yourself to her. humans desire and value something more if they have to work for it. dont always be available. give her the gift of missing you.
Shit tests:
sometimes girls will say or do something to communicate something that isnt true to see how you reacts. they do this to test you. she wants to see if she will get a reaction out of you. she tests:
-your attraction for her, to see if she has already won you over
-to see if your only motive is sex
-your emotional strength: if you will get jealous, if you have low self-esteem, if you get aggrivated easily, if your needy or insecure.
dont let these tests bother you. act careless, ignore it, dont let it aggrivate you, dont try and prove yourself. answer shit tests in a way that says you have know motives to seduce her, she has not yet won you over, and you are completley unaffected by it.
ex.
-she wonders away from you/ doesn't sit next to you
-she talks about other guys
-she says shes not interested in you
-she lies about having a boyfreind when you first meet
-she says she doesnt want to do something with you
-she says she doesnt want to be in a relationship
-she talks down about you
-she ignores you/ looks away/ acts disinterested
-if she has a boyfriend and trys to talk to you about something wrong with there relationship. (she wants to see if you would try to break them up so that she will go for you. instead stick up for the guy, she will then actually try and talk him down more and think better of you.)
physical communication:
body language:
physical communication carries just as much importants as the words we use.
-stand confidently, dont hunch
-relax your body
-look confident in your expresions
-dont figet or make any nervous movements
-move confident and sexualy
-develope sexual flow through body language, voice tone, expressions, touch
Physical gradients:
there is a scale of physical "gradients" for a sexual relationship. gradients are grades on a scale of accent or descent. with some women you want to start at a higher or lower gradient when first meeting them. you can then either move up or down the scale. observe her. move up, down, or make no motion depending on how she reacts.
1) facing away from her, not looking at her
2) facing away from her, breifly looking at her, disinterested facail expressions
3) facing away from her, look at her and look away fromt time to time, curious expressions
4) facing slightly towards her, leaning back, arms crossed, look at her and look away from time to time, judgeing expressions
5) facing her relaxed, leaning back, arms open, looking at her and looking away from time to time, slight interest in facail expressions
6) facing her relaxed, leaning back, arms open, mostly looking at her, interested facail expressions, eye contact, smiles.
7) being close (do not lean in), freindly looks, formal touches: kiss, hug, handshake, light touches
being close (do not lean in), sexual looks, deep breathing, sexual touches: neck, thighs, hair, hands, wrist9) being close, sexual looks, deep breathing, light petting, light kissing,
10) being close, sexual looks, deep breathing, heavy petting, making out
11) intercourse
Verbal communication:
indirect:
when first meeting a girl you may want to be indirect. have a reason for starting a conversation with her. you are not displaying sexual interest. this appears more natural and has her geussing as to whether you are attracted to her or not.
qualification:
qualify a girl as to see what she is like. this says that you are slective ,and have options, and that you are after more then sex. if a girl is interested or not she will try and prove herself. she now has to put time and effort into winning you over. this gives you value in her mind because she is working for your approval. the frame should be "are you right for me?" not "how can i please you?"
listen:
dont talk about yourself to much. ask questions, actualy listen to what she is saying, and be interested. dont try and think of what to say next.
pull:
tell her things you like about her when getting to know her
push:
push a girl by saying things that make it seem like shes failing to win you over. this again shows that you have options and are after more then just sex. it makes her trust you about other things you tell her because you seem not to have a motive. it gives her dought and lets her know she needs to prove herself to be with you.
verbal gradients:
also follow gradients with verbal communication. the lowest gradient would be not talking at all.
ex. 1
1) talking about something other then her
2) light conversation about her
3) deep personal topics
ex. 2
1) tell her things that communicate you're uninterested in her
2) tell her things that communicate you may become interested in her
3) tell her things that communicate you're interested in her
ex. 3
1) talking very little
2) talking more
3) talking alot
sex talk:
never bring up the topic of sex unless she brings it up. she may communicate negative sex talk, talking about sex negatively. if so you want to agree. negative sex talk is just the lowest gradient in sex talk and may later transition into positive sex talk, talking about it as a good thing. if she talks about sex possitively then do the same.
Good topics:-interesting facts
-relationships
-drama
-analysing phsycology and the world around you
-her (what kind of person she is, her views on life)
-games, palm reads, personality tests, horoscopes
simularitys (oppisites do not attract):
find girls with simularitys. we feel attracted and closer to people who are like us.
Be unique and interesting:
you dont want to try hard to be interesting and unique, you don't want to look like you're trying to impress her, but youdon't want to be like every other guy, you want to stand out, you want to pique her interest.
1) hot girls get complimented on their looks all the time. never tell a physicaly attractive girl she is beautiful until you have been dating for a while.
2) be unpredictable, dont always be exactly the same its un-natural, suprise her.
3) instead of giving a direct answer, getting right to the point of a story, or telling her something right away, first add some mystery and some pauses before telling her more, to build tension and captivate her interest.
ex.
"wanna know what they said?"
"do you know what it is?"
"geuss what"
"i just found out something very interesting"
4) all girls think that all guys want from them is sex. so show her other wise. show her that you want more than sex. slightly withdraw from sex, but not completely. in the begining have a "not yet" or "not now" attitude to build tension and leave her wanting more. you will also show her your not all about sex.
5) law of assosiation/emotional arrousal/nlp: do fun things. be funny. be fun. bring up topics or do things that make her think positive, put her in a good mood, and give her good feelings. she will anchor those feelings to you. you don't even need to be the one making her feel good as long as somethings putting her in a good mood when shes with you.
Not all girls are the same:
every girl is unique do not group them together. not all girls are the same. there are different girls with different personalitys. dont get to stuck on only doing something one way everytime with every girl.
love girls:
some girls that are emotionaly arroused or horny dont require much more then a confident man who will approach her and start on a higher sexual gradient.
beautiful teases:
we all know the girl who flirts with guys and as soon as they flirt back they run the other way. these women are scared shitless of men who come onto them sexually. she is used to being called beautiful and being hit on. this girl wants you to stay at a very low sexual gradient and let her do all the work. let her seduce you. you want to communicate that you do not find her physicaly/sexually attractive but that you realy like her personality and feel good around her and admire her friendship. never come onto her. always let her be the one to make a move on you.
ugly girls:
usualy you can pretty much say and do anything. just be nice. although you might not want a sexual relationship with an ugly girl it help to be friends with as many girls as you can.
Observe her:
observe what turns her onto you and what makes her withdraw from you. if something works with a girl do it more to her. never stop doing what gets you the girl ...ever. if you notice something you do makes her withdraw then stop doing it, do something else. observe her body language, there is a difference between her being polite and being attracted.
Creating future:
when talking make plans for future events instead of just randomly one day asking "hey, wanna hang out". dont ask just mention "hey we should do that sometime" then dont say anything else to try and persuade her. find reasons to get together other then "getting to know eachother" or "catching up". constantly create future throughout a relationship, never stop.
Do not fear the aproach:
do not fear rejection. usualy the worst doesn't happen, and if it does then you will realize it isn't that big of a deal. the more you approach the better your chances. the better your chances the more options you have. the more options you have the more experience you gain.
