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| Author: | Larrikin [ Thu Oct 23, 2008 9:20 pm ] |
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what's the secret to just being able to talk and talk ?? i had this problem last week when the conversation just stopped and i couldn't think of anything to say... absolutely nothing. It was the most awkward pause I've ever encountered |
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| Author: | xeroxed88 [ Thu Oct 23, 2008 10:04 pm ] |
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I just look for things to talk about from what she has just said. Example being: HB: I work for blah blah... You: How long have you worked there for? HB: Blah blah... You: Woah, that's a long/short time. Do you enjoy it? Really shit example, I know, but it'll do. Just keep coming up with things to say. Then say some shit about yourself if it's appropriate... |
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| Author: | Larrikin [ Thu Oct 23, 2008 10:35 pm ] |
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yeh that's all good but when the conversation runs dry and breaks for some reason, I can't think of anything to say at all to start it again. is there something you can say if there is an awkward silence, I'm talking more about a day 2 situation or on the phone |
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| Author: | Primitive [ Fri Oct 24, 2008 9:43 am ] |
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That's what the ESP, cold reads, palm reading, ect tricks are for ; ) (unless it's online of course) when things break to an awkward silence say "here hold out your hand" or "pick a number 1-5" then of course "1-10" (and if she picks the wrong number "alright you're no use then" give a little shove and laugh a bit) or whatever trick you decide to use... hopefully that'll break it off into something else. BUT one of the best things to do to, is try and find a topic that both of you are interested in, try and find something that you two have in common, like favorite bands, styles of music, I'm a big music junkie so that always works for me unless she listens to rap, or shitty bands. Maybe you're into philosophy, break out with some deep rooted talk about pyschology or philosophy or whatever you're good at talking about. ESPESIALLY if it's something you're passionate about, if you can talk about something and seem very passionate about it that's a HUGE DHV. But here... this is ABSOLUTE FUCKING GOLD: http://thepiratebay.org/torrent/3879129 ... Extracted) like 1000 ebooks on magic tricks, bar tricks, mental games, cold reading ect ect plus a bunch of stuff on body language If you don't know how to use torrent just download that file, then download utorrent www.utorrent.com open it up, install it, then click on the .torrent file that you downloaded from the first link. amazing shit. It'll keep you occupied... as well as you're target ; ) |
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| Author: | jurupa [ Fri Oct 24, 2008 10:02 am ] |
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Sounds like you need to work on your chit chat skills. The next time your out in public start chit chatting with people in the line your in. With the person behind the counter. The server/waiter that brought over your food etc. The more you do it the better you become at it. |
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| Author: | Zuek [ Fri Oct 24, 2008 6:17 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: fluff talk skills |
Quote: what's the secret to just being able to talk and talk ??
Just be able to take what she says and compare it to your own experiences in life. That is the best way to fluff in conversation. Bring up topics you know that you can speak about yourself on, ask her about sports she played in high school and talk about your experiences in sports. You will get better with practice.
i had this problem last week when the conversation just stopped and i couldn't think of anything to say... absolutely nothing. It was the most awkward pause I've ever encountered |
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| Author: | Tasty [ Fri Oct 24, 2008 6:20 pm ] |
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This is one thing that I am good at and have a hard time going AROUND. Fluffing is particularly easy when the girl is talkative. I'd say most of the time, an attractive HB7+ will be a bit more talkative than I. So I usually just have to direct flow or elaborate one what she said. If she talks about something and goes on for 2 minutes straight, I will act very involved and interested, and rephrase or paraphrase a bit, or I will say "ah, so this really did happen to your dog?"... I'm in college so its fairly easy to start of by talking about our majors, why we chose it, our skills... where we came from (3 huge cities surrounding this college town)... etc. And it is good to GIVE before you receive I have found out. For example, instead of asking, "What city are you from?" I will STATE "I am from the town of ________..... i love the music community there.... what about you?" Then about 1/3 of the time they are from the same city... and we ask about high schools... then about people we know... what sports/activities we did.... etc etc Also don't forget that too much fluffing can get really boring. It's not like 21 questions where you are doing an interview with her. Try to find out a certain amount (enough) information about her so that you can (hopefully) stem conversation from something you have in common. I commonly stay on conversation talk too long when I NEED to move to teasing, flirty fun talk after establishing good rapport. This can range from just a 5 minute quick-convo or a drawn out, yet interesting 1 hour convo Conversation can be very complex ... "the art of conversation" or "how to conversate" on google is a good search |
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| Author: | Larrikin [ Fri Oct 24, 2008 9:54 pm ] |
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Quote: Also don't forget that too much fluffing can get really boring. It's not like 21 questions where you are doing an interview with her. Try to find out a certain amount (enough) information about her so that you can (hopefully) stem conversation from something you have in common.
see this is where i think i am going wrong, i talk for to long without escalating and i get boring...
I commonly stay on conversation talk too long when I NEED to move to teasing, flirty fun talk after establishing good rapport. This can range from just a 5 minute quick-convo or a drawn out, yet interesting 1 hour convo |
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| Author: | medicone [ Fri Nov 28, 2008 8:34 am ] |
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Once it gets quiet bust out: "Every time the room goes silent someone is thinking about Abraham Lincoln" Wait for it to get silent again and ask her if she was thinking about Abe Lincoln. You're sure to get a laugh out of it. Or a possible neg would be to shush her. |
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| Author: | Whoopie [ Fri Nov 28, 2008 10:00 am ] |
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I like for there to be silence sometime because you get into a sexual topic/conversation fast. "See its funny how we are both quiet, because you know how they say guys think about sex every 10 seconds. So when we are not talking it has time to come into my head but Women are even more sexual then guys! So if I was thinking about sex, The question is, What KIND of sex were you thinking about" It gets laugh, blushes, and sometime a girl will tell you straight up. If there like I wasn't thinking about anything. Look them in the eye and be like "Wow, Your such a cute terrible liar!" |
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