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Author:  Hengman [ Sat Apr 05, 2008 4:31 pm ]
Post subject:  Hengman On Appearance -- And Why It Affects So Many People?
Appearance -- Why does it effect so many people?

So, I'd thought I'd contribute a little idea over here and give the 411s on how appearance work in social everyday interactions.

1. In order to look good, you MUST know, not think, you look good. So, you might be asking yourself, "How does one look good?" or better yet, "Why does one look good?"

Let's start of with the Whys:

Reasons:
1) Looks are all genetic, unless born under special circumstances. Some guys have pretty boy looks like Brad Pitt or Tom Brady, and all of them other women getters. These are from a genetic outcome. Cultural background counts, too.

2) Looks take at least a quarter of a lifespan of one's presence lifeline or even half to take place mentally. By this, I mean... Think about your age. How long did it take for you to get a girl to either call you ugly or cute? I'm not talking about grandma talk either when they say, "Aww, you're such a cute baby!" to you when you're like four years old. I'm talking about when you are aware of your social surroundings (example would be in high school, etc.). Usually around your teen and junior high years, correct? This is where your self esteem issues play its role. Your decisions come from this.

3) Looks are artificially made. Hey, let's face it. If you aren't born with looks, you HAVE to make yourself look good. I'm going to tease your brain for a second, but think about a girl who you thought was ugly in the past and when you just seen her recently, she's like HOT as fuck? Crazy, huh? Well, that person has been working herself to look that way. You can, too. It takes years of control in order to do so. Ever wonder how some of the hottest girls that you see have fake boobs? Yep... Artificially made like the juices out now.


Let's address the Hows:

Ideas and how each idea works:

Alright, so, I remember having long jet black hair. My hair was very prepped up and had a lot of vitality showing. I remember when it used to make who I was as a person. I've got to admit that I was a pretty boy back then, and it wasn't long ago. I used to wake up extra early for school just to go to the bathroom, wash up, wash my face to make sure that there weren't no pimples, shave, and style up my hair. It was my daily routine. I used to go to school and like Dorian Gray in that famous book, I was flattered for how I looked as a person. It affected me. I started to become OBSESSED with the fact that I went with a hot ass model when I was only 16 years young and my looks. It affected me negatively and it was her who taught me how to use my self esteem to become positive with it. Here's what I learned:

First, think to yourself: Why do I look the way I look? What do everyone else think about how I look? How should they look at me? Why should it matter to me?

1) Girls like clean men. I don't give a shit what you say. If your breath and your body odor smells like you been fucking dead cats while giving fistings to old women going through menopause, you are in deep shit. Girls HATE dirty guys.

2) Don't get ahead of yourself. Many guys would be dickheads (I was one) who become conceited -- not cocky. One of the biggest turn offs that I found from girls was that they hate guys who think they were the shit because they have the good looks. Usually, it makes your appearance drop and make you look like shit.

3) Who you are as a person. As stated in number two of the hows, who do you think you are as a person? Answer that to yourself and then ask yourself why you are like that. The person you are makes up your image, if you didn't know that.

4) Why should you make yourself look better if you already don't look good enough? Easy. Who you are as a person is usually what you are, as I've stated before. Let's say you're one ugly ass fucker who looks like Sam Cassell of the NBA. That motherfucker is one UGLY ass motherfucker. He plays in the NBA and is usually taunted for his face... I understand why. However, did you know Sam Cassell donates A LOT of fuckin' money to charity. I did charity with him before and this guy literally DROPS money. What does this say about his value as a person to society? That he's a good person, correct? Yes. Now, think about a guy who is an asshole. Would he do the same as Sam Cassell? Probably, but I'd doubt he'll be like Sam Cassell. He'll just be an asshole. In Sam Cassell's face (not really), he is a good man. Get the point? You better.

5) Racism. Alright, so I remember not too long ago talking with these two white chicks at Club 27 in Philly. I approached them with, "Hi!" First thing that blurted out of their mouths was, "Fuckin' Chink! Ching chong chang!" and that other good stuff. Guess how I felt? I was pretty damn, "WTF just happened?" In return, I just said, "Yeah, that means that you like me." They were like, "OH SHIT!" like it was some fuckin' stupid fire in the building. Funny thing was that I pulled that one chick who said that and fucked her the same night. So, the way I handled this was just to agree with her and then flip the script on her. Don't let race fuck you over. Last time it fucked me over was like last month (it's in my blog in the history). I vowed to myself to NEVER let it happen to me again. When you don't get fazed, it's sexy. Trust me. :O Let race play a factor into your daily life and you'll get NO girls.

6) Addressing the problem. Alright, in this phase, people shouldn't be blindsided to know where their fuckin' flaws are. If you're fuckin' ugly, admit that shit. Any logical fuckin' flaw that you fuckin' see on your body or within yourself (personality), just admit it to yourself. Fix that flaw. How? Alright, this is where you should be "addressing the problem". If you're ugly and have shit looking clothes, buy new fresh looking clothes and style yourself to look good. I'm sick of seeing people who fuckin' follow trends, especially n00b ass fuckin' people who want to join the community. You DON'T have to peacock. Peacocking is just a minor step into creating yourself. You could still dress like a dickface and still get laid. Any flaw you see that you can fix (besides looks), fix it or make it better.

7) Here's a myth I'm going to bust and it's a myth about social conditioning. Ever saw a teacher tell a student, "You're a smart kid." Then the next day, the kid doesn't do jackshit? Exactly. This is a negative effect. If a girl calls you cute, don't just take it personal and be like, "Yeah, I'm the shit," just as I pointed out in my other points. That'll be negative and detrimental to yourself. Instead, take her words and reframe it, so it makes sense to you and have a positive effect on YOU.

8) Age. Orleans said it best and Heartwork proves it pretty well. Age doesn't mean jackshit. If it did, then why the fuck can we watch an old ass movie and still say it's good? EXACTLY. Age doesn't matter. Well, to an extent, it matters (like some of the fuckin' PEDOS out there...) in a way. If you're young physically (and I ain't talking about dick sizes...no homo), make it like you're older if you want older women. Your personality has to be congruent to EVERYTHING around you that you want to attract. Now, I don't believe in the magnet theory with opposites attracting (and I'll write about this soon), but just like a magnet, you would want to attract things.

Magnet theory:
Now, congruence is all about one thing, and that is being able to vibe with EVERYTHING around you. I don't believe that attraction is based on the, "Opposites attract," but rather making yourself appear genuine to attract. Think of yourself as a cool ass metal magnet compared to them other steel, or whatever the fuck they are made out of. You'd attract everything because you're so fuckin' cool. Every other metal would want to be with you. Even the gay ones! Yes, what a fuckin' cool ass analogy. Thank me, but anyways... As I've said it and I'll say it again, your identity and avatar should be congruent with each other until it becomes one. After this, you should use that congruence that was summed up to have EVERYTHING else become attracted to you. This is a form of pre-selection and social proof. If you're cool with this one group, another group might see that and be like, "Oh shit! He's the fuckin' shit!"

Well, I don't feel like typing anymore. The more I type, the more I just duh out. But anyways, yeah... That's my little rant on appearance. Hope you enjoyed. I don't care about critiques or so on. Just read.
Author:  Lumpy [ Wed Apr 09, 2008 7:00 pm ]
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Thats a really good post, how does one make their personality conguent with older women, cos im 16 and so bars and stuff i assumed were out of my league due to the fact that women would tease me about not being able to drink and also they wouldnt be looking for a 16 year old, perhaps i am pushing how young you mean?
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