Guys I need some good advice! There's this girl and my almost never ending story with her. She has been in a long distance relationship for 3 years now. I've met her 1,5 years ago and, damnit, she played me hard. I was totally lost, this has been the worst oneitis of my entire life. There hasn't been any escalation (I tried once or twice), only stupid cuddling in bed, lots of massaging, going to sauna together and shit like that.
Before summer break and her leaving for her hometown, staying with her bf for 2 months again, i fucked it up a bit with an afc move. I was then concerned to build up attraction again which seemed to work. Let me tell you in detail what the situation is like since summer break:

We stayed in touch during summer break, each from our home towns. We found out that both of us had plans to go to the town we live in together around the same time. The weekend before she asked me if we would meet.
Thee week started, didn't hear a word from her. Middle of the week I texted her, asking if she was already there and what she was doing. She replied she was in town and told me about her day. She wasnt asking if I was around, how I was, or anything. I got pissed and didn't reply. In the middle of the night I received another message "And you? Are you here?" I was so pissed about her still playing this game that I told her I changed plans and wouldn't come.
3 weeks later she texted me "Are you at your home town this weekend?". I told her it wasn't all clear since a was about to be on the road these days and wanted to know if she was around. She never responded.

2 weeks later she would start liking every new picture and status of mine on fb. As university started again she started contacting me once in a while. Very softly by asking "Are you here this weekend?" and shit like that. I'd never ask her to meet and she wouldn't either. She was then trying to make me host a halloween party. I told her I'd decide on that during the following days and finally asked her if she would help me set things up. "Of couuuurrsseee!" she replied, followed by asking me if our common friend was also going to make plans with us. She tried to bring him in in order to not be alone with me. When this didn't work she asked me to go for a drink instead of coming to my place. I was stupid to accept but then called her again and told her I was too lazy to leave the house and asked for meeting the next day. I didn't contact her anymore and finally texted her 3 days later that I wasn't in the mood to host a party and that I'd go to the capitol celebrating halloween (harrharr). While I was gone she texted me again, some lame bullshit, just to stay in touch. I didn't respond. I've seen her at university a couple of times then and she always seemed to try making me ask her to meet up. She even invited people to her place to hang out and told me about it the next day, trying really hard to make me jealous (she hardly invites people, I my best friend lives together with her). We then met at a party, I almost didn't talk to her. She tried to get in touch with me couple of times, even put her feet on my chair and some shit, but I ignored her. She saw me almost making out with a girl for a second and finally I left the party with that girl to go out and dance.

2 days later she called me 3 times and texted me, if I wanted to hang out at her place, playing some music (I expected more people to be there). I replied in the evening that I've been to the sauna (the one I went to with her couple of times) all day. The next day we met at a course at university and she put some effort in being close to me. She told me she also wanted to go to the sauna the day before ("Can you image we would have met there??"). In that class there were groups to be formed for working together for half a year from now on. She managed to make me join all groups that she was in (inviting me, or suggesting the group to have a guitarist - since I was the only one). I've seen her on a jam session since where I neither talked much to her nor ignored her. Apart from that I haven't heard from her since. We'll see each other tomorrow at the class again.

It feels like proportions of power have changed. Can I make use of that? Or shall I better get the hell outta there and meet her as little as I can? Part of me still wants to have sex with her (when I think back about her talking about sex it can still drive me crazy), part of me wants to see her suffer. No clue what to do... If I decide to continue the game: How do I recognize the right moment to become active?

Cheers, reas0n

She's in a relationship. If she hooks up with you or anyone else, she's a cheater. You wouldn't want that done to you. She has low moral value. disqualified.

She played you hard? Well you could've seen this coming seeing that she has a boyfriend already. Maybe you played yourself with your expectations of someone who has shown to be shady.

You are basically telling her, "I was not planning on going home but I would go home to meet up with you." You're sounding like you don't have anything going on, displaying low social value.

You had a chance to meet up and make something happen. You said you were too lazy to go out. How can you be asking others for help, when you don't take the opportunity to capitalize on a situation that will bring results?

Where do you expect things to go if you ignore her? If you want to fuck a girl, you have to make a move. She isn't going to just crawl into your bed and fuck you in your sleep.

Really you need to actually do something here, and move on. GFTOW. One girl is not worth your time. You don't even know this girl and what you do know is not a display of redeeming qualities. You seriously have not said one thing nice about her. She isnt worth your time. If you have expendable time and she happens to hit you up at the right moment, have her over or go to her place and fuck her. Or just plain lay it out on the table, "Hey I am only looking to hook up here."

You should be putting your efforts into more personal and social activity. You could friendzone this girl and use her for her social status and venture into her circles and other associated social circles.

You have to go into your situations trying to get the most out of, and offer the most to them.

If I can do that without developing feelings for her again I'll try..