I had this psychology course in college last year where we learned the humanistic psychotherapeutic approach; you welcome your client, ask him/her if they'd like anything, you make sure to set a calm and relaxing SPAM and so on.
The problem arises when I use my psychology skills in the field. Normally I use them with my friends (I'm everyone's pseudo-shrink). However when I use it on girls I'm interested in, things go a bit funny. I'll explain.
Usually a girl and I will hit it off fine; I normally have no problems with openers or approaching a girl so long as I have some sort of excuse to say anything to her. Most of my interactions with girls start off rather flirty as well, so I'm not worried about getting girls to be attracted to me on first contact.
But the thing is, is that as soon as we sit down and I make sure that she feels comfortable and I start getting into her life and what-not, I feel as I end up going so very deep into her world that I get classed into the "Friends" category in the blink of an eye! Needless to say, that's to my disadvantage.
I feel that, on one hand I have this incredible skill to make people feel comfortable around me and trust me almost instantly, but on the other hand I've given up using it because I go from cute and attractive to Mr.Best-Friend.
How do I use this skill of mine to my advantage!??
To top it all off, I have no idea of how to keep a conversation going without using my psychology skillz, and often I feel that I'd rather not talk to a girl for hours on end, because I walk away feeling as if I just wasted my time.
I'm so confused man..!
I thought getting into their heads was supposed to be a good thing!