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Author:  Demo- [ Tue Jun 19, 2012 7:16 am ]
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Hi fellow brothers, I'm currently having trouble with a girl im seeing, in the beginning we were very attracted to each other and we did have sex in the 3rd week of seeing each other, but last week i hung out with her about 4 days and well i seemed to have irritated her sunday with a stupid comment, but anyways ever since i feel like we're both losing our connection, how can i attract her again, we usually workout together, should i become less available to her? More alpha? Should i limit myself to seeing her? Any good advice?
Author:  Dian Coetzee [ Tue Jun 19, 2012 9:15 am ]
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4 Days of the week? Thats too much, your lowering your stats bro... She should be chasing you.
Author:  Demo- [ Tue Jun 19, 2012 2:53 pm ]
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yea i figured, it's cus we go to the gym together, like we're suppose to go today, we went yesterday, should i make myself unavailable by saying I got to take care of buisness and moving it to tomorow
Author:  midlife_crysus [ Tue Jun 19, 2012 4:07 pm ]
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Hi fellow brothers, I'm currently having trouble with a girl im seeing, in the beginning we were very attracted to each other and we did have sex in the 3rd week of seeing each other, but last week i hung out with her about 4 days and well i seemed to have irritated her sunday with a stupid comment, but anyways ever since i feel like we're both losing our connection, how can i attract her again, we usually workout together, should i become less available to her? More alpha? Should i limit myself to seeing her? Any good advice?
It's a sad yet true fact, that regardless of the attraction it will fade over time.

Either you find someone new once it wears off, or you decide to love the woman for herself and not her tits.

Tough Choice :D
Author:  Ubium [ Tue Jun 19, 2012 8:51 pm ]
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I wouldn't give you an optimistic answer, attraction fades, she probably did and still finds you attracting but annoying. Give her some time off and touch base with her later.
Author:  MadTown Mayhem [ Wed Jun 20, 2012 4:50 am ]
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Oneitis. She probably sees it and acts accordingly.
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i seemed to have irritated her sunday with a stupid comment
Without knowing the comment, we can be 95% sure that she was already irritated and/or lost attraction before the comment was made. If a woman is attracted to you, you can say just about anything as long as it doesn't trigger the society-trained whore alarm.

And by making yourself available 4 days a week, it suggests a lack of independence and a lack of drive, because if you had important things to do you wouldn't be hanging out with her so often. I'd also question what "hanging out" meant, it probably wasn't too exciting for her or something she could brag about to her friends.
Author:  Demo- [ Wed Jun 20, 2012 5:10 pm ]
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@mayhem: ok well on saturday everything seemed well, she invited me to venice beach and i went, we drank and had fun, all seemed well, i messed up by wanting to be around her more after venice, i guess she wanted to do her own thing, and then i messed up on by going back to her house and hanging out with her roomates (she was asleep) i guess she was surprised to see me in the morning, and well im always making a dumb comment by saying she's fucking up on random things so that irritated her and finally to top things off i seemed to have fixed it but my idotic ass told her again that she messed up this weekend and jokingly that she's going down from booty call #11 to #10, that pissed her off lol, and well before that we had a talk about doing our own thing, she said she isn't ready to settle down and i told her i aint either, then we talked about space, she said we can still see each other, but to also do our own thing as in going out with friends and stuff, this girl thinks like a guy because most of her friends are guys and she mainly hangs out with guys, in the begining i had her on her knees, wanting to be with me, but i messed up, i feel like my confidence is dropping, im going into a depression state, im about to listen to hypnoticas inner confidence, im going into nlp, if i lose this girl il feel like a failure becuase i hate rejection and this has never happend to me. To some guys it may not seem llike a big deal losing a girl because theres plenty more, but to me it feels like a big deal, if i dont game her back i feel like my game wont go to anther level, il end up staying an AFC.
Author:  Demo- [ Wed Jun 20, 2012 5:15 pm ]
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oh and about the comment part, ye i messed up because i guess she wanted space to do something with her roomates even though she was asleep but i showed up. and well we go to the gym together, we went on monday, we were gona go tuesday but i made myself unavailable so we are gona go today, how should i act, whenever i see her i give her a kiss, should i act cocky funny, crack jokes, stupid comments about random things, i just feel like this fuken girl stepped all over me, just completely killed my confidence. MAYHEM if you can help me, il appreciate it, i won't let you down
Author:  MadTown Mayhem [ Wed Jun 20, 2012 8:14 pm ]
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she's going down from booty call #11 to #10
That could have possibly triggered the society-trained whore alarm. With some girls, in some situations, you can get away with stuff like that and more, but generally, not during a relationship's down-turn. It would make her think 1) she is being used for sex, and 2) she isn't good at it, which is like calling her a whore and then saying she's a lousy whore as well. That's probably how she took it.
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if i lose this girl il feel like a failure becuase i hate rejection and this has never happend to me
That's one-itis. you're basing your emotional well-being on the opinion of a single woman, who, let's face it, you don't really know that well (no guy ever really knows any woman that well so early in the game). Why give someone you hardly know such power over over your life? Don't beat yourself up over it, use it as a learning experience and move on.
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if i dont game her back i feel like my game wont go to anther level, il end up staying an AFC
Wrong. If you get her back your game won't move to the next level because you didn't learn enough from this experience.

You might want to look up some of DJ Fuji's material on the importance of practice and getting blown out of sets. He's been a guest on numerous PUA podcasts and on one of them he talked about how he makes guys in his bootcamp deliberately push the envelope in order to see how far you can really take things (verbally), and how little the social cost of failure truly is when rejected by a girl. It's something you sound ready to hear.

Social dynamics and pickup is a complicated subject, especially considering it deals with communication, perception, and personalities. No man will have a 100% success rate, but the better you can learn from experience the better chances you'll have at success in the future. Besides, she's already told you she wanted space. Any attempt to "win her back" is going to come off as needy and lacking in confidence, which are major buzz-kills to women.
Author:  Demo- [ Thu Jun 21, 2012 12:12 am ]
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@ mayhem thanx alot for the advice i will look that up, i actually have a smile on my face right now, i just listened to hypnoticas stuff about inner confidence and man, it just opened my eyes, gave me a better view on things, im going to keep following this, reading on, and asking for advice, i ignored her all night yesterday and didnt text, she ended texting me b4 she went to work, i texted back and now im ignoring her again the whole day, and well i feel good
Author:  NikAFC [ Thu Jun 21, 2012 12:30 am ]
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Freeze her out and show pre-selection, maybe hit on her friends or girls that approach you when you are with her.

Good luck
Author:  TheNamesDrew [ Thu Jun 21, 2012 5:55 am ]
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Well I'm fairly young at this point, not sure how young you are, and my current relationship is far from perfect, I have alot of doubts which I'm sure I'll ask for help about soon. But more sex. More sex makes things better 9/10 times. If you can get her to orgasm twice in a row by eating her out, if you can bang her really, really good. If you can tell her how good she makes you feel when she gives you a blowjob, or how much you love being in her, shit like that, it definately helps.
Me and this girl I'm with bang every day about 1-3times, sometimes take a few days off, but it feels like sex always helps everything. From arguments to attraction. Sex releases alot of hormones and feel good chemicals in girls. At least to me it seems like the more sex you have the more she'll like you/ want to stay with you. I'm paranoid/ have some anxiety by my genes so I always think the worst about my relationship, but we still have sex all the time, which can't be a bad thing. And every time we have sex its absolutely amazing unless it hurts her too much which has happened before I'm not sure why.
I could be somewhat wrong here, who knows, but it's my opinion. Maybe try for more sex? See if you can eat her out/finger her/get her off next time you hangout or some shit?
Definately helps in one way or another that's for sure. Maybe it'll be of some use to you. Goodluck either way man!
Author:  Demo- [ Thu Jun 21, 2012 8:23 pm ]
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im gna be real here..but i need help on making women orgasm..any reccomendations of good material, also on helping me last longer
Author:  NikAFC [ Fri Jun 22, 2012 12:52 pm ]
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im gna be real here..but i need help on making women orgasm..any reccomendations of good material, also on helping me last longer
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Author:  Loveu18 [ Fri Jul 06, 2012 6:00 pm ]
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I dont think there's Anything wrong with see her 4 times aweek as long as ur having lots of fun.
Like I say to every other guy... Get out of your head, pay attention to the girl and have fun, stop thinking about if things is going right or wrong. When those things starts to happen and u dont know where if ur in attraction or confort just justify her: eg: what's the favorite place u like to be kiss other then ur lips
That is an example of sexual justification ( there s 3 types of justification but I'm not bout to explain all of it on here but I learn this from SInn)
justify her base on the situation.
Also what ever u use to attract her, use it if u feel like she's losing attraction.
There is 8 types of women and they all works differently n maybe that might not work on her because that's not how to attract her type but give it a try. I cant explain much on here but.. Hope I help a bit!
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