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| Author: | kaDak8 [ Wed Jun 13, 2012 12:38 pm ] |
| Post subject: | GF shit testing me |
There are 2 shit tests I'd like to ask you guys about. GF of 5 months shit test me quite often. 1. Her text message from yesterday goes: "bla bla bla...(some chit chat, than) i had moment today at work when i almost died from the feeling how much i wanted you! for now it is gone already." I replied after some time: "thank god you are telling me this! i couldnt fuck you now anyway, i m busy watching football." she replied with sending me my nickname, no smileys, no nothing else. Opinions please! 2. Its quite common of her to say things like "hey, i bought you cookies but i gave it to my dog but he was so hungry" or "i was gonna buy us tickets to this show tonight but i forgot" or "i was gonna draw you this nice drowing of you but i went to the gym instead" I don't have a reply to these (I usually reply, that i was gonna buy you a car but i gave it to another girl, but it is not working so much cause she always comes up with shit tests like this all the time) Any input is greatly appreciated. |
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| Author: | Heywood Jablowme [ Wed Jun 13, 2012 1:35 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: GF shit testing me |
Quote: 1. Her text message from yesterday goes: "bla bla bla...(some chit chat, than) i had moment today at work when i almost died from the feeling how much i wanted you! for now it is gone already." I replied after some time: "thank god you are telling me this! i couldnt fuck you now anyway, i m busy watching football." Mirror her bullshit  Send her something like: Thought of you tonight watched some porn had icecream. all better now!
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| Author: | meetjoeblack [ Wed Jun 20, 2012 11:42 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: GF shit testing me |
Quote: There are 2 shit tests I'd like to ask you guys about. GF of 5 months shit test me quite often.
I cannot see what is happening. Only random text so, it is hard to see it or how you two communicate. It doesn't sound healthy but, maybe I am reading into it too much.
1. Her text message from yesterday goes: "bla bla bla...(some chit chat, than) i had moment today at work when i almost died from the feeling how much i wanted you! for now it is gone already." I replied after some time: "thank god you are telling me this! i couldnt fuck you now anyway, i m busy watching football." she replied with sending me my nickname, no smileys, no nothing else. Opinions please! 2. Its quite common of her to say things like "hey, i bought you cookies but i gave it to my dog but he was so hungry" or "i was gonna buy us tickets to this show tonight but i forgot" or "i was gonna draw you this nice drowing of you but i went to the gym instead" I don't have a reply to these (I usually reply, that i was gonna buy you a car but i gave it to another girl, but it is not working so much cause she always comes up with shit tests like this all the time) Any input is greatly appreciated. |
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| Author: | mdeschaine [ Sat Jun 23, 2012 11:00 am ] |
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These are MINOR shit tests brother! If they can even be called that. Here's what I see...take it as you see fit. Do you do that sort of thing to HER often? Things like, "I can't F you because I'm watching football." So...what if that's just her sense of humor. Her trying to be funny with you because you do that to her all the time too? Like...it's your thing...She's trying to be cute. Women think all backwards man, she's not out to get you ALL the time. Only some of the time ;-D You need to stop thinking everything's a shit-test and trying to one-up her. By doing that you're going to get into this cycle of always having to be right and "in the lead," or always giving her that "neg" attached to a compliment. I know because I've done this...and i surpassed it. I actually run away from girls now because I'm always getting hit on (no lie...). There's a difference between, "Hey! Did you get a haircut? (Yes) Looks great, I like it!" --And-- "Hey did you get a haircut? (Yes) Where did you get it done at? (Insert Name of salon) I thought so! My 12 year old niece got her's done there recently too! You must have gotten the same stylist!....Looks good!" See the difference? Try giving her a genuine compliment once in a while without the neg at the end. Don't take it back, don't joke, just say something nice and move on. Say it very nonchalant. Don't seem like you're looking for anything, or there's a catch. If she asks you...what does that mean? Just say, "It means I like your (hair, watch, shoes, whatever). No catch. Just try it and see if you don't see a different attitude from this girl. Remember...it's not WHAT you say to her...it's HOW you say it. This is really important, I just want to illustrate the difference: Ok...take the show "Friends" The two characters, Joey, and Ross - complete opposites. Joey is full of "cool" and confidence, Ross is sappy and insecure. Picture this, Joey's out on a first date with a new girl, they just ate dinner, he's broke now, so he's trying to think of something to do for free, but still have fun, before he gets her back to his place. So when leaving the restaurant, he makes a suggestion and says this line, "Hey! I have an idea, let's go to the park and watch people." GIrl says, "What?" Joey says, "Just wait, you'll see what I mean...it's fun?" Picture HOW he would have said that line. The girl would go and think nothing of it. Now, same scenario, Ross is out on a date with a new girl. Same restaurant, same deal, he's broke and trying to think of something free to do when he ultimately wants to get her back to his place. So HE says, "Hey, let's go to the park and watch people..." Picture how HE said that line, and how it came across. Kinda creepy right? I bet that girl made an excuse to leave...because he said it from an insecure standpoint and it seemed creepy. Same line...different context. THATS what I mean by it's not what you say but how you say it. I mean keep your pokey fun responses too. Just pepper in a compliment occasionally too. A REAL shit-test would be her telling you that your waiter is hot or something, and seeing if you squirm and get all bent out of shape. If you remain steady and make a joke about it, you come out unscathed and you pass the shit test. If you keep dwelling on her saying that (which is very easy to do), and asking questions like, "what makes him hot? Oh yeah? Well...your best friend is hot too.." (one-upping her), you lose. The ONLY way to always pass EVERY shit test, is to truly not care! Work on your inner game and confidence, that's my suggestion. Then you can really not care because you are confident in yourself at all times. Oh oh! Work some jealousy too! Shit test her..."Hey...is it just me or is our waitress super-hot?" That'll keep her guessing too. lol sorry about the length! |
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| Author: | leetmeat [ Sat Jun 23, 2012 11:42 am ] |
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Maybe its your fault, or she just give you suggestion on something to do . Are you guys going out often ? Are you making a surprises for her ? Do something that she haven't even seen in moovies , nor dream it . I once had a GF that did these test , but actual she made em happen . Do you want to know how i stopped em ? You have 2 ways from now .. 1. Dont be too ignorrant , sometimes ignorrance is a plus but if its used too much its a fucking big MINUS ! Ex. When she said about the cookies and the dog , you will go buy cookies and bring em to her . 2. Or continue with your contra shit and ruin the relation . |
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| Author: | DUbL-eS [ Sat Jun 23, 2012 12:26 pm ] |
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Just fuck her brains out so she stops being dumb. |
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| Author: | leetmeat [ Sat Jun 23, 2012 4:26 pm ] |
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Quote: Just fuck her brains out so she stops being dumb.
I bet that you wont do that on your gf  , you are not helping .
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| Author: | Saros [ Sun Jun 24, 2012 7:51 am ] |
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mdeschaine is probably right dude; she's probably just joking with you and it's probably congruent to her sense of humour. I think the fact that you're responding to it is creating a personal culture between the two of you to continue this; you're approving of it and it would seem that you're enjoying it (in her perspective). I don't know how your relationship is set up, but with enough comfort and intimacy (seems like you two are playful enough) you can probably re-frame what it means for her to tease you. From my past experiences I've used a higher level of playful energy to validate her fun attitude and redirect the convo thread to something else (other fun crap or sleazeball sexuality depending on her/your tastes); so that it's fun and it doesn't become annoying for you. Eventually every time she begins to tease you, the new culture between you and her could lead to sexual teasing or a fun reflection on how lame those one-liners are (Horatio from CSI Miami, anyone?); or whatever you want it to be/is enjoyable for you. eventually, her teasing may die out all together. In similar situations with similar relationship contexts I've resorted to "[pause] seriously you're an idiot." (condescending/playful) as a response - because like you, I don't always have the patience/time/brain power to respond to every clever snub thrown my way. Some of them sound pretty dumb to me anyways, no offense to her that's just my opinion (and in hindsight, I can see why you'd want it to stop). Bottom line: Just have fun with it? Or if it's REALLY bothering you can probably tell her and approach it in a fun way as well. Sarcastic semi-serious delivery..."I know we've been seeing each other for 5 months.. but there's something I have to tell you.. all those one liners you've been using are really GAY. I feel like I'm dating Horatio from CSI sometimes." the first to deal with relationship problems and issues directly (especially if they're things that annoy you) will end up wearing the pants if handled correctly; it's just the dynamic of how it works. Man I'm so tired at the moment, I could be completely wrong about this, but it's just my gut feeling/opinion, good luck |
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| Author: | Saros [ Sun Jun 24, 2012 7:54 am ] |
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Quote: Just fuck her brains out so she stops being dumb.
I was looking for a "like" button, stupid Facebook has conditioned me too well for my liking.EDIT: No pun intended, holy shit I really need to sleep before I keep rambling |
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| Author: | mdeschaine [ Sun Jun 24, 2012 3:55 pm ] |
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Let us know how it all works out man! |
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