Quote: We've been texting a lot all day every day and things were going well
This is the first problem. You'll find yourself in the friend zone quickly by being too available.
Yeah I totally see what you mean - that's definitely a mistake.
Quote: Since then (two weeks ago) we've met up for coffee once and again went well.
Did you close here? If not, this is where you went the wrong way again.
Yeah I did k-close here, same as the first time.
Quote: Problem is she's started to get a bit flaky. We used to txt each other a lot every day, now she will text me back a couple of times then I won't hear from her for a few days, it seems like its fizzling out. Doesn't seem as keen to arrange another date as before.
This is all the result of simple maths. 1+1 = 2, you're not reading the IoI's/escalating + you're too available = flake
You're right I think making myself too available has caused the problem here.
Quote: My dilemma is this: I've got a party I'm arranging on Saturday at a mates place I'm staying at. Should I invite her to it and hope she agrees to come along?
Tell her that you're doing this and it's gonna be a lot of fun and tell her that she can join. That way she knows that you're already having fun regardless of her company.
I've just text her that and I'll let you know how I get on, if she doesn't respond or doesn't seem keen I'll just leave the whole thing I think.
Thanks for taking the time to reply man, at least I can start to understand where I've gone wrong so that next time I can play it a bit differently.
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" shes now a mabey but thats not good enough for me. Ive also tried using emotive language to get her to come and simple psychology "Remember all the past partys youve been to and how awesome they were , well this is exactly the same just better , dont be a goober 
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