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Author:  Musterion [ Thu May 19, 2011 10:11 pm ]
Post subject:  When To Make The Move?
Allo chaps, ain't posted here in a while after a long stretch out of game but am now starting to get back into it again and have a minor query. Though I should warn I tend to ramble on a bit so bare with me here.

Basically I fancy a girl in work, I haven't worked there very long but we've been getting on like a house on fire and I think so far my game with her has been pretty solid, only reason I haven't "gone for the kill" yet is precisely because we work together, however I've just learned she is leaving the company soon :D which should make everything that little bit easier.

Bit of recent history, after working together for a few weeks I suggested we go for a night out, some drinks etc and she invites me to come out with her and another guy that works there (he's gay with a boyfriend so no threat) I agree but tell her I'm going to house party first (being the busy sociable guy etc) and while I'm at the house party she keeps texting me asking where I am/how long I'm gonna be yada yada, by the time I meet up with her it's 1am and we're both pretty drunk so not much happens (I know, my bad), we exchange a few texts and work together once more about 3 weeks ago, since then I decided to do a freeze out just when things are going decent because I knew we weren't gonna work together or see each other for a while coz she was out of town, so to avoid becoming "that friendly guy from work I always speak to/text on the phone" I figured I'd freeze out and make absence/lack of attention make the heart grow fonder. Anyway found out this week she's leaving the company so sent her a text basically saying I heard about that and that we need to have a leaving party for her, she responded very positively with her seeming 'excited' to have got a text from me and says we'll arrange something on saturday in work.

So thanks for reading this far, here's what I'm a little stuck on. I'm not sure whether to go all out for a proper 'date' when I see her in work, so like invite her out just the 2 of us where she knows it's a date. Or alternatively arrange a leaving party/night out or whatever and make the move for k-close etc then.
I have 1 or 2 other girls 'on the go' at the moment as well anyway so not throwing all my eggs in one basket here but as I'm sure you all know, even when you have got a few options there is always 1 that sticks out as your first choice, this is the case here.

Any advice greatly appreciated guys, cheers.
Author:  slimsta [ Thu May 19, 2011 11:08 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: When To Make The Move?
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Allo chaps, ain't posted here in a while after a long stretch out of game but am now starting to get back into it again and have a minor query. Though I should warn I tend to ramble on a bit so bare with me here.

Basically I fancy a girl in work, I haven't worked there very long but we've been getting on like a house on fire and I think so far my game with her has been pretty solid, only reason I haven't "gone for the kill" yet is precisely because we work together, however I've just learned she is leaving the company soon :D which should make everything that little bit easier.

Bit of recent history, after working together for a few weeks I suggested we go for a night out, some drinks etc and she invites me to come out with her and another guy that works there (he's gay with a boyfriend so no threat) I agree but tell her I'm going to house party first (being the busy sociable guy etc) and while I'm at the house party she keeps texting me asking where I am/how long I'm gonna be yada yada, by the time I meet up with her it's 1am and we're both pretty drunk so not much happens (I know, my bad), we exchange a few texts and work together once more about 3 weeks ago, since then I decided to do a freeze out just when things are going decent because I knew we weren't gonna work together or see each other for a while coz she was out of town, so to avoid becoming "that friendly guy from work I always speak to/text on the phone" I figured I'd freeze out and make absence/lack of attention make the heart grow fonder. Anyway found out this week she's leaving the company so sent her a text basically saying I heard about that and that we need to have a leaving party for her, she responded very positively with her seeming 'excited' to have got a text from me and says we'll arrange something on saturday in work.

So thanks for reading this far, here's what I'm a little stuck on. I'm not sure whether to go all out for a proper 'date' when I see her in work, so like invite her out just the 2 of us where she knows it's a date. Or alternatively arrange a leaving party/night out or whatever and make the move for k-close etc then.
I have 1 or 2 other girls 'on the go' at the moment as well anyway so not throwing all my eggs in one basket here but as I'm sure you all know, even when you have got a few options there is always 1 that sticks out as your first choice, this is the case here.

Any advice greatly appreciated guys, cheers.
first thing that came to my mind is, she is leaving soon anyways, what do you have to lose? worst case you will get rejected and then she is gone anyways ;)

point is, its a win/not-lose situation
Author:  Musterion [ Thu May 19, 2011 11:26 pm ]
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Yeah hear what you're saying dude, as I said to a friend today it's not a question of IF it's a question of WHEN. There is no question that I will make the move because as you said I have nothing to lose, what I'm looking for here is advice on the sort of 'optimum strategy' if you see what I mean? Wanna tip the scales in favour of the 'winning' scenario of course.

I just wanna approach this with a little more than an all guns blasing approach you know lol.
Author:  kinorc [ Fri May 20, 2011 6:43 am ]
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I seem to say this sooooo many times...but ill reiterate...the right time is after u have escalated kino n sexual tension. You will feel the moment, n remember we don't want to kiss girls, we want to fuck them. So don't plan on aiming for a kiss, plan on fucking. Don't do a 'proper date'. Have her meet u for drinks or go to a party. Also, I wouldn't buy her drinks either...I think its better to have a casual situation w/escalating sexual tension than it is tohave a 'proper' date where u put all this bullshit pressure on each other n kiss at the end of the date. Instead, meet her for drinks, run some routines, build up the tension, capitalize. Also, be the man. What I mean by this is when u r out don't ask her shit tell her. Ie. You have build the kino n tension up she is good to go, maybe you made out a little bit in the bar 'its getting late, let's go to my place' not 'hey would you like to go to my place?'. Girls absolutely love adventure and especially a sexual adventure with a guy they r digging. As long as u keep the sexuality high n escalate properly there really is no way u can't get with her. It sounds so simple, n it really is once you know how to progress. Im sure u will be fine. Remember too you want to be different than every other guy you meet. Normal guys take girls on dates n kiss them. Puas hang out n fuck. You feel me?
Author:  Musterion [ Fri May 20, 2011 10:12 am ]
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So go for the party not date, cool that's all I needed to be reassured on as that was my initial thoughts. I know how to progress to closing etc once I'm in the situation, I've been doing this for a couple of years now on/off and my escalation/closing is definately the strongest part of my game, sticking point has always been transitioning, generally if I can get past the first say 10-15mins in an interaction it's a done deal because by then the convo is following etc.
Yeah of course I'm not just going for the kiss lol, but that's the first step and I think with this girl once the kiss is sealed, so is the rest.

Appreciate the thoughts, now to get this gravy train rolling.
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