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| Author: | jaminv [ Mon May 16, 2011 3:49 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Moving Forward |
So I met this girl online (via OKC), and I've been on two short dates with her. The first was a brief coffee to get to know each other. That went really well, so I set up a second. Well, I forgot to find out what kind of things she liked to do, so I picked two things that she didn't care for. I wanted the second date to be something active, but after my two failed suggestions she suggested dinner. Despite this set-back, dinner went well and I did manage to find out that she does like pool. So as the date was ending, I set up the next date to go out and play pool. She mentioned a few things she liked, but I picked the one that was the most active. So last week I saw her on Saturday afternoon. I didn't call her until Wednesday, because I was busy on Monday and I have work/classes all day on Tuesdays which she is aware of. I actually meant to call her on Monday, but I got carried away with errands and it was 10pm before I realized I hadn't called her yet. So when I called on Wednesday, I wasn't able to set up a date until the following Saturday afternoon again. So question number one is, should I call her this Monday (today) and try and set up a date for Wednesday night? We both have busy schedules, and Wednesday night and Saturday afternoon seem to be the times where neither of us are usually busy. Personally, I'd like to accelerate things a little bit and see if they are actually going anywhere, but I don't want to come on too strong. I think I answer my own question by saying "I want to see where it is going", but I just want some affirmation. It seems to me that if I want to accelerate things to see where they are going, then that's exactly what I should do. The last thing I want is for things to move too slowly. So my second question deals with keno. I've done really badly with it so far. Still, things seem to be going pretty well anyways, and there might be some situations to slowly introduce kino in the near future. That's largely why I wanted a more interactive date - it's easier to introduce kino while doing something active than when sitting across a table. So far though, I'm doing pretty abysmal. I've gotten a hug so far, and that's pretty much it. Considering we've spent a total of maybe 3 hours together, that's not horrible, but I'd like a little more. She fell while walking and I couldn't even put my hand on her shoulder for some reason (I have weird hang-ups about touching people). It actually seemed like a supportive hand on the shoulder would have been more appropriate in that situation than not touching her. Also, I wanted to hug her at the onset of the second date and didn't for some reason. I wasn't able to land the hug until the end of the date. Yes, I understand that I'm moving way too slow, but I have some experience in this realm so I think I'm ok as long as I can move it forward. I do warm up to people and then I have no problem with touching whatsoever. I just need to break that initial barrier. Any suggestions on how I can do that? I'm going to be playing pool with her, so any ideas on how I can incorporate kino into that? Please try to come from the viewpoint of someone who's going to have a lot of trouble making that initial contact. Once it lands, though, and I'm fairly confident that it is well-recieved, then all bets are off. Third question goes to setting up a following date and trying to accelerate things a little more. I came up with an idea for a date yesterday and I wanted to know if it seemed like a good idea. I put in my OKC profile that I know how to cook, and that's been the topic of a few conversations (she knows how to cook too). So yesterday I was at the grocery store, and I realized I haven't had a good pot roast in quite a while. Pot roasts are really easy to make, but kind of pointless if I'm the only one eating. Based on our previous conversations, I'm pretty sure she'd like pot roast. So I was thinking of inviting her over for some pot roast and maybe a movie (I have a super-awesome projector that she is not yet aware of). It seems like a good way to DHV and also get her over to my house. I wouldn't directly try to F-close, but I could definitely set a sexual frame and leave the option open. I just want to make sure it won't come off too AFC. Really, I'd like to somehow get her to cook for me. I'm not sure if me doing so first sets a bad tone and maybe she won't feel like she needs to. I want to make sure that she's doing stuff for me, and it's not just me doing things for her. Still, making a potroast is virtually effortless, and I'll probably make one regardless. I appreciate any advice you can give. Please avoid any mention of "oneitus", that's the topic of another discussion and not really the case here. I've met a girl that I like and I want to see if I can make it work or not. I'm fulling willing to move on if we're not right for each other, but I don't want it to not work out because of something stupid I did. I've got a few other pots on the fire, she just happens to be the one I've moved the furthest with at the moment. |
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