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| Author: | DIAMONDS J001 [ Thu Apr 21, 2011 9:36 am ] |
| Post subject: | Date 1 (second meet) How do I escalate? Really need help lol |
Hey Guys, I´m pretty new to this so I just need some advice on the second meet scenario. I was on a date that went pretty well but im just kicking myself that i didnt k close! Basically I met a girl whilst out doing street game and successfully got her number and we arranged a date. What I would like to know is, on the second meet how exactly should I escalate things in order to eventually get the kiss close. I think last night I did ok with kino escalation etc and I think it was pretty much on and that I could have kissed her but I didn´t. I think two things happened, firstly I´m not sure how to introduce the kiss and secondly I think I actually need to grow some balls to move into the kiss. I´ll just explain how the night ran so that maybe if anyone would be so kind as to offer suggestion or advice they might have more information on which to base such advice and to maybe explain how close to a k close you think I got... Well, basically I met her at 6:45 and we left each other at 12:35 after I walked her home. I took her to different bars around my city. I ran some of my dhv stories and told her jokes etc. (Date too long?) During the night I constantly kinoed by touching her hands, shoulders, and guiding her to where I wanted her to go by putting my hands on her lower back and directing. I also did compliance tests such as pulling her towards me leading her onto a dance floor and spinning her and making her do various dance moves with me. (with this level of compliance how close to a kiss close am i?). I also held her hand as we walked the street to find another bar and I joked about taking her to a church nearby so we could marry there and then. She was really laughing which I take as an IOI right? I´m not sure but I think she gave other IOIs during the night: She played with her hair alot. But it wasn´t necessarily always while she was looking at me or while I was looking at her. (i asumed it may still be an ioi, am i correct? How will I know if it´s directed at me or whether she’s just randomly fixing her hair) As we were standing side by side with our backs to bar a watching some live music, i felt the u upper part of her arm touching the upper part of mine. At points I also felt her hair brushing my arm as I stood beside her. (ioi or wishful thinking?) She commented a few times that i had "beautiful hands" (huh? is this a shy compliment? or wishful thinking again?) She was telling me about getting free drinks at bars and i said to her "oh it´s easy for you girls hehe..." and she replied that she was surprised that i havent ever gotten any free since i am "cute". She was telling me that she doesn’t usually give numbers out to guys in the street but that she felt something about me; that I was sweet and kind hearted… ( hmmm ioi? Good to know or is she just being friendly) She bought me drinks. She was talking alot about "next time we meet" At a couple of points in the night I felt an electricity in the air as we looked into each others eyes… As i was walking her back to her place we sat down outside a br and i said that my hands were cold and asked her to hold my hands to warm them. She complied. (i guess that´s a solid ioi...) She texted me after i left her asking me my second name and said thanks for walking her home. I replied "It´s no prob, thanks for the great night." to which she replied..."i had a fantastic night too...thanx alot..." She also wanted me to text when I got home so she knew I was safe. (politeness or being sincere?) The reason I ask all this guys is because I´ve never had ANY confidence with girls what-so-ever and whenever i see these IOIs there is ALWAYS a voice telling me that I must be mistaken. I have only ever had girls initiate the kiss close on me lol, so obviously I´m trying to knock this voice out of my mind! Well based on what I wrote how close to a k close am I and how should I initiate this? It is a big sticking point for me. I was reading something by Richard la Ruina saying “just switch on mr seducer” : slow down, whisper, look at her in the eyes like you want her and just go for it. Is it really that easy?! |
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| Author: | jruler [ Mon May 02, 2011 4:10 am ] |
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From what you wrote, it seems like you have a good shot. I can't remember who said it, but in my experience, fortune favors the bold. I wouldn't make it a big ordeal though. Did you make plans to go out again?? I'd suggest the next time you take her out, get somewhere where you can share a drink and sit next to each other so you can talk naturally and get close. If she is going with your kino which it sounds like she will, just go for it- and by go for it I mean keep it natural and keep the conversation flowing but slow your speech down and as you start to lean in, work off her reaction. Most likely you'll be just fine. If she isn't comfortable yet but likes you, it won't really blow your chances- It's not a bad thing to show a girl your intentions... not acting is way more frustrating and you'll kick yourself if you just let the opportunity pass. |
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| Author: | Jesus_PT [ Wed May 04, 2011 1:28 pm ] |
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if you think about it too much you are overthinking... so... plan a bit and act. how about next time you meet... before you kiss her... allow the tension to rise... and then.. if she kisses you on the cheek... wait a few secs and say... "wait... this is more what i had in mind.." and then you go for the kiss. be bold, be brave, be the one in charge. if she rejects or plays to hard to catch carry on with the date and then be nice ans smile to other girls. always remember to not to focus all your energy on only one girl.... you are the prize not her.... she's the one that have to win you over not the way around... regards Jesus |
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