well maybe you've realized that, you're getting logical with her...
the best thing to do really if you want to have a traditional relationship with her is to just be with her
no logical talking, savor the moment that you guys are having, no drama
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| Author: | someone147 [ Tue Mar 29, 2011 4:41 pm ] |
| Post subject: | A long story, quick help is required to proceed to my goal |
Met this girl one and a half month ago, she had a bf for 5 months already. Gamed her a little bit but kept her in reserve, for times to come. She broke up with her bf 3 weeks ago, 4 days later i KC'ed her. Mind that my long-time goal with her is traditional relationship. Mind also that we are both 17, she is a virgin and i'm not. She came over to my city (lives abit far) 3 days after the KC (I continued kino escalation) and we talked and this is where i made my AFC mistake, shit. She said 'we aren't supposed to date other people, right?' and I replied :"mhm, I suppose its ok, for now .." ( this was 2 weeks ago) Since then we have met more then once, few days after our first alone time and besides being more kino, we talked and she asked "what are we, undefined?", I asked her exactly what she feels to her EX - she said she still have emotions for him, but im stronger in her mind. I told her i'm not willing to get into a relationship while there is another guy in her mind. at another meeting we had she firstly wanted to tell me something then labeled "I dont trust you enough for this yet" Yesterday she has told me she will be going on a vacation for 2 weeks, and that she feels that if I want to, I can be with another girl at the parties I will attend to. once again I fell to AFC'ness .. and told her that if she believes our connection is going to be purely sexual she will have to define it now - then I will not mind being with another girl, if not then I will let things remain this way. She said that in her account this is defiantly not going to in the direction of being purely sexual, in her words:" there can be more... I dont know, thats the problem" thats where I feel like I lost some power. She did claim that she wants me to do what I WANT and not what she WANTS ME TO DO - means she doesnt want me to be with anyone else - I told her that thats not how she knows me, and I always do what is good for me. I NEED to regain my alpha and push forward to a goal i'm not used to push to and also make over the obstacle of freshly broke up long time relationship, I gave her exclusivity when I didn't need to - if that would assure me winning over her that would be ok, but thats not how I feel I need a way to fix the situation, I dont mind remaining exclusive aslong as I achieve my goal of getting into a relationship with her. but I also dont mind removing it - I would do anything that would seem right to fix my situation and push forward towards my goal. Help is extremely appreciated. |
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| Author: | Beyond Pick Up [ Wed Mar 30, 2011 12:32 am ] |
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well maybe you've realized that, you're getting logical with her... the best thing to do really if you want to have a traditional relationship with her is to just be with her no logical talking, savor the moment that you guys are having, no drama
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| Author: | Fox Aston [ Wed Mar 30, 2011 12:48 am ] |
| Post subject: | Tough Situation |
Hey mate. To me, despite your mistakes in conversation, you're doing really well. You have a girl who wants you to be with other partners. She puts up with your shit, even when you're being, let's face it, a bit of an emotional wuss. You've really got to decide if you like this being with other girls business (I would!) or if you want to be exclusive with her. It seems to me she is keen to have an open relationship but you continually push her for more. Get in clear in your mind and stop having "What is our relationship?" talks with her. Maybe you can fill us in a bit more on where you want the relationship to go. Being with another girl while she is away could help to clear your head. |
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| Author: | someone147 [ Wed Mar 30, 2011 12:02 pm ] |
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I have never entered a traditional relationship, when I first knew she broke up with her BF, I put myself a goal - to get into a traditional relationship with her. I've been in open's, one night stands and so on - right now this is my goal. I did loss some of my alpha and turned into a little of emotional wuss, but she does say stuff that still aware me of my strong position such as : " your the first one that entered my heart so fast" "my friend was stunned when she heard i progressed with you so quickly, its really not me" "my last BFs were smaller in age then me, I could control them.." (im abit older then her, means she know she doesnt control me I will not give up on my goal, so work your advices according to what I've said in here.  An update: A day after I've told her that for the while of her vacation i'm willing to remain exclusive for her, she became warmer in our talks and also told me that her double EX visited her and wanted to get back together and she denied and slapped him for trying to kiss her, and told me that he doesnt know that we are : 'sort of together' and asked if if i will be willing to 'guard' her if he troubles her again. So maybe taking this line of exclusiveness is what she is searching towards the traditional relationship? |
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| Author: | someone147 [ Fri Apr 01, 2011 10:19 am ] |
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Another update, it seems taking the exclusivity line was right towards my goal, yesterday her grandmother entered the hospital and she talked to me and labeled me as ' her last sunlight that holds her together ' , ' my friends are jealous I have you ', and regarding that secret she labeled (first post) that she dont trust me enough she said "i feel this is time i tell you the secret, next time we we will see other' Besides further advices, I need a review about my way of getting into a traditional relationship - I am new to this PART of the game. |
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| Author: | Beyond Pick Up [ Fri Apr 01, 2011 10:54 am ] |
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congrats mate. you have a girlfriend. what I could share with you is to just be the best person you can be. give her time. be responsible. have some passion with the things you do. keep yourself healthy and show gratitude towards others. I guess I can't say it enough. cheers |
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