So theres this girl who was a foreign exchange student at my high school last year and I know am going to school in her country(norway) for one year. We've met up just three times. The first time we went out we went to a bar and had great rapport. We could both relate to each other as we went to the same school and I was now experiencing all the ups and downs of being a foreign student just as she did. Later on that evening I used the palm reading routine and was able to k-close and make out with her in a park. Communication was sparse after that. I called/texted two or three times when I was drunk and also ended up canceling meeting up with her last minute another time.
I saw her again about three months later. This time I met at her friends house where she and two of her other good friends were pre-gaming before they went in to the city. I made a great impression on her friends. Had them all laughing and was able to tell stories to capture their attention. We went to a bar where I met another of her friends whom I had a great conversation with and who soon became very attracted to me. At one point I asked her if it was ok if I spent the night at her house and she said it was just fine. We got back to her house and her parents and younger brothers were home. I thought I'd have no chance of going anywhere with her after realizing that but she didnt seem to care and I started making out with her once we were alone in her room. I began to escalate to f-close but she stopped me telling me she had a "kinda half boyfriend" and that she'd feel bad. An obvious LMR but I was to drunk to go any further at the time. The next morning I was able to make out with her and get her shirt off while her parents and brothers ate breakfast downstairs. I tried to go further but she stopped me saying her family would hear us and she was probably right. I spent the rest of the day hanging out with her and her brothers building great rapport with all of her family members. We kissed and held hands through out the day and up until I had to leave. After I left I once again kept communication minimal.
This time I returned to hang out with her it was just after a little less than a month (last friday to be exact). Earlier in the day, I asked if I could spend the night again and she replied "haha yeah you can for sure I'm home alone so that shouldn't be a problem
" I get to her house that night and its a similar situation as last time, pre-gaming with a few of her friends before hitting the town. And just like last time, I entertain and keep the attention of her friends. At one point though I think I hear something about her having a relationship with some guy and about to get together with him and my ego takes a hit. We go to a Karaoke bar where I meet more of her friends. I end up dancing/grinding a bit with one of her friends who later goes out of her way to tell her what I great dancer I am. I put more attention on her friends than her. We return back to her house and go to sit down in her living room. I put on some music and we sit together on a one person sofa chair. After very brief convo I push her hair back and kiss her cheek. She turns away saying "naw aw awn" in a non-joking tone with a very serious face. My ego takes a huge hit at that point. We go to her room to watch a movie and I make minimal effort with kino. Its very late at that point so I turn the movie off so I go to sleep on a mattres on her floor and she sleeps in her bed. The next morning I find out her parents dont get back till late sunday so I decide to stay until sunday afternoon (its now saturday morning). She leaves for work at 12, comes back at 4. We then lounge around surfing the internet and watching tv. I mainly just converse with her and make minimal attempts at kino. We watch a movie that evening and once its over return to her room. She changes and lies on her bed and I lay on a mattress that is at the foot of her bed. At this point she begins to comment on how shitty it is to sleep on the floor and why I was keeping my jeans on. I took my jeans off and made an excuse to sleep in her bed which she was fine with. I start to spoon with her, kissing and lightly bitting the back of her neck. She tells me in a joking almost teasing manner "come on control yourself" and remarks that she's to tired. I stop and go to sleep. The next morning I try the same thing and get the same results though this time she doesnt say anything she just doesn't physically respond. She allows me to stay in her bed and spoon with her but wont respond to any kino. After we both get up, we have breakfast, and just talk with each other until the late afternoon when I had to leave. As I leave to get on the train we hug, I try to hold her tight but she lets go quickly like a friend hug.I have now spent the last three days wondering what went wrong. Why couldnt I even K-close this girl with her parents gone for the weekend when I could almost f-close with her parents and brothers downstairs eating breakfast? This girl is special to me. After the first time I thought I really liked her so I follwed mystery's advice and hooked up with four other girls yet I still though that this girl is special and means a lot to me. I'm asking for people to diagnos my situation and maybe offer where I can go from here. Where did I go wrong? What happened between getting invited to spend the night at her house to getting denied from k-closing? When should I see her next (I will have to see her at some point I have some of her clothes with me that she wants back)? Was it my ego that ruined me? Should I of kino'd and tried to escalate harder? Any interpretation of what I've told you and any kind of advice that people can give to me would mean a lot to me.