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Author:  amoresdecristo [ Wed Nov 10, 2010 1:10 am ]
Post subject:  PLEASE ONLY FOR THE EXPERIENCED! NEED SOME ADVICE

Ok guys so i have a little dilema. Lately i've been getting the same results for the past 10 girls. I get their numbers, they give me a tons of IOI's but when i get it it never goes anywhere.
Example, I got to university and i see a girl consistantly checking me out. I cgo up to her after class and open wher with so how have u been, we hit it off and walk towards the building that we live in. i get her number and stuff... then nothing! thats it, i see her in class all i get is a hello and when i invite out she is busy.
then another one I see her at the gym, we start talking SHE AKSKS FOR MY NUMBER i build some commonalities so i can set up a date, but when we leave thats it, she tends to be busy and never got to go out. another one we met outside of class, she gave me ioi's we hit it off too, got number, but we never got to go out, she is always busy.
In this college there isn't many places to go but to parties. and when i do get a number it never goes anywhere. PLEASE FOR THOSE WHO ARE EXPERIENCES HELP what can i do, what are some of your experiences with closing and with situations like this. throw me a bone or somethimg.

Author:  Atila [ Wed Nov 10, 2010 1:18 am ]
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Needs more info. Are you leading enough?
Do you want to come with me to this place at this time etc..
Please give exact samples of your questions to the girls in order to get better help from the forum.

Author:  new2game [ Wed Nov 10, 2010 1:29 am ]
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Hi there. Could you post up an example of how you are contacting these women?

Are you just texting/calling them once. Or are you constantly calling/txting?

Also how are you reacting when they say "im busy.........im washing my hair" etc.

Author:  amoresdecristo [ Wed Nov 10, 2010 1:31 am ]
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Me: oh you like yoga?
her:yup
Me: well me and my friends are planning to go tomorrow, you could tag along
Her: Tomorrow? ah i'm busy
Me: well some other time,
Her: Ok!

it doesn't go anywhere because i don't want to keep inviting and me being rejected cuz she's busy u know?

Author:  Datguy [ Wed Nov 10, 2010 2:28 am ]
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Why would you want her to come with your friends? I mean, why not going out on a date just the two of you?

Author:  amoresdecristo [ Wed Nov 10, 2010 2:36 am ]
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to make it low pressure. The lower the pressure the higher chances of coming with. I mean i've invted girls out iwht me alone too. but do you guys have any suggestions ?

Author:  Atila [ Wed Nov 10, 2010 2:37 am ]
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Yep, you're totally not being rejected. The girl doesn't feel a drop of remorse for slamming no on this one. There's nothing to reject.

You need to set it up so that you CAN be rejected, that's when the no slamming becomes uh mmm let me see, friday I'm busy but saturday I can!

Author:  -enjoi- [ Wed Nov 10, 2010 4:52 pm ]
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The girl doesn't feel a drop of remorse for slamming no on this one.

You need to set it up so that you CAN be rejected, that's when the no slamming becomes uh mmm let me see, friday I'm busy but saturday I can!
Very true. Yoga doesn't seem like a big-group event. I'd reserve group-outings for university parties or bar-nights. Then she can bring a friend along and get dressed up and all that jazz, but for going out to the movies, for coffee or for walks or w/e, i'd keep it to the two of you.

What I like to do is when you're setting up your first hang-out, just ask like you normally would. If she says she's busy, she's probably busy lol. My rule is ask at least twice. I'd use the following line for the second time (I usually wait about 4days to a week until asking again[no texting or interaction between - if she texts you bonus])

"Hey I've been meaning to text you but I've been really busy. How have you been?"

blah blah blah

"That's really cool. Hey listen, my week's a little packed, but I'd still love to get together sometime this week, does thurs/friday work for you?"

Something along those lines, put your own spin on it of course.

If she says she's busy again, it'll probably go down like this (if you're getting the right IOIs that you were talking about):

"Yea I really want to get together too, but i'm busy again" blah blah blah

In this case, you might be getting ditched you might not be, but I'd recover with:

"No worries, fb/msg/txt/whatever me when you're free and we'll get together for -insert fun date here-"

At least this way the ball's in her court and you will never become the annoying guy. - from this point I wouldn't text or put any effort in, if she messages i'd work towards it but if not i'd move on to the next.

Author:  amoresdecristo [ Wed Nov 10, 2010 6:32 pm ]
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Hey man that's great!! I'll give it a try :) I think that's what I've been looking for.

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