Okay I am at University, and this has happened twice in a role, where after spending a night with them, I get the friend talk.
Let us take one example, after a bit of wine, and I knew her from before (a few coffee dates), and we had dinner, wine, made out, went to her place; I slept overnight, did not have sex but did other stuff close to it. I leave to go to my lectures, exchanged a few text, finally met up again for a drink about a day and a half later. She was immediately different, more closed, we chatted, we said bye, and I kinda leaned in for a kiss, and she said no...And then gave me the white rose, friend speech, ‘not sure what she wants’, not ready yet, etc etc. She said it was all her fault and that I was very ‘nice’ – damn I hate that word...I was quite amicable of course, a little annoyed but played it cool, and we are ‘apparently’ still friends. I don’t find the arrangement satisfactory though, she is a international student.
What did I do wrong? How can I improve it, it’s a lost cause right? Should I have lost my temper? Shall we still be friends? My game was good enough to get back in her room, but how do you keep it lasting beyond just a single night of passion?
