Hello gents!
So this is the situation.
I've been quasi gaming this girl at my new uni, I've been to multiple high schools, and another uni already, so I'm used to this game, but she isn't.
As is common with first year students, she had a bf in high school (maybe a sweetheart I don't care) the fact is. She has moved to a foreign country, and will be here for at least 3 years. The relationship is dead and the kids don't even know it.
Alright, so... I've taken some obvious precautions in doing this. I understand that she is fighting a little moral battle right now... to "cheat" or not to "cheat". I was at a party with her two weeks ago, I managed to get her separated and isolated from the group, and kiss closed there. She liked it, but I could see that she was concious of others seeing us (so am I.... secrecy is the best policy at school anyway).
Ok... so a week passes... we go out to some gai latino bar... I hear some of her room mates are visiting a friend that lives near me... ( I immediately start planning) I tell her to call them, see what's up, and that we want to visit them.
fast forward.. I have her at our block of flats, her room mates are just next door, during the journey I mention a bottle of whiskey that I want to take... but then again it's expensive so I don't want her room mates to drink it all. (excuse to go to my room). Once in the room, start kissing etc, and I tell her that I'm not going to sleep with her tonight ( so she relaxes, drops defences). Things start getting heavy... she stops, I break away and go cold, tell her that it's time to go next door. (mission accomplished, got her to my room, showed her that it's safe)
We chill there for a while... made friends with a bunch of lame stoners.... ok... I say it's time to leave.. early in the morning already, she has to follow me, (because I sneakingly told her to leave her bag in my room... after all it's just next door!
)She comes into my room... after a long battle of indirect sexual build up, I sleep with her.
Ok now... here come the problems... I want this girl to become a fuck buddy...
but she has obvious issues... she has a boyfriend (that I purposefully haven't let her tell me about).
She's worried that her roommates (who's she's known before I think) will find out about us... so it 's a guilt thing...
How would you guys negate this? Get her out of the situation... should I start building a frame for her to fill? That she's a naughty chick having fun at college? Good approach?
THANKS SO MUCH GUYS! I appreciate every comment! The post is long so that you knew what's up... letting you give better advice.