You rejected her multiple times and you wonder why she lost interest? Girls don't handle rejection like men do and there are other ways to act hard to get. If a girl invites you out, go out with her! There's a fine line between active disinterest/non-neediness and you probably crossed it. There are lots of posts on the forum about neediness, I suggest you do a search. I used to be very guilty of this as well but remember "two steps forward, one step back" as a rule of thumb: show a girl some interest twice, then take some away.

^ agreed.

Call her in a few days, don't mention anything about her not taking your call...act like nothing happened and just continue gaming. You might have to build back up a bit of attraction over a day or two, then when you feel that you are back at a high point, ask her out.

your problem is that you didn't make it sexual from the get-go. you have to establish early that you are not the kind of guy that needs more platonic female friends. bust her chops a little bit and joke with the idea that she's falling for you, but it won't work out because she's too ___.

Be teasing, but put some sexual tension behind the teasing.

Thanks ChiefBX, I LOVE THIS SITE because it seems you were right. I called her today and was a bit more assertive. She didnt reciprocate but she did laugh a bit. Here is the dillemma though. She told me tomorrow that shes going out to a comedy show with some dude thats been trying to get at her for the longest but shes not really feelin him like that. She invited me but i said well i aint tryin to be a 3rd wheel. She said her female cousin is also goin and i can tag along with her. She also said "oh dont get it twisted my cousin is fine". I told her thas cool but im not superficial like that and im trying to chill with you, not her." She laughed and joked well you gotta take one for the team" I said ill think about it. Should I go????????

I'm fairly new to the game and how it works and haven't been in a situation like this before so maybe don't take my advice too literally.

To me, rejecting her invite to the comedy club sounds like the final rejection, and saying I wanted to chill with just you makes you sound a bit needy of her - "If I can't have you I don't want anyone!..."

I would go, making it look like I'm going for the night rather than because she asked you to. Check out the comedy acts before, find one you might like and keep saying ''can't wait for this guy, he's pretty funny". Make sure you pretend to get a bit excited about her cousen by saying "Looking forward to meeting your cousen, did she get the funny/good-looking/fun genes in the family?" Or something lighthearted maybe. Then when you're there, make friends with the guy and appear to get on really well with the cousen whilst paying little attention to the target.

The hope is she will find it hard that you don't see that bloke as a target (portrays alpha male confidence - she already told you she doesn't like him so he is no threat!). This way she will not see you as needy for her. Also, by getting along with them both, particularly her cousin, she will more than likely start to really question you and whether she should get in whilst she still can, and in my experience girls get the most jealous when it's a family member you're getting with (or appear to). Remember girls like this share everything, so you're more than likely going to be the BIG talking point of the night if you play your cards right.

If all fails and she likes the bloke instead, then at least you tried. It sounds to me like the thing is slipping away from you and you sound like you're being hard on yourself asking yourself so many questions.

Good luck!