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Author:  clazz [ Thu Sep 16, 2010 3:47 pm ]
Post subject:  I don't know how to close
Ok I really need help. Every single girl i've ever gotten with has either made the first move on me or straight up asked me if I was dtf. Even when I know a girl is in to me I just don't know what to say or how to say it to let them know I want to hookup. For instance i'm at a party (a major US university) and i'm talking to a girl for a while. Instead of getting with her I usually just walk away because I HAVE NO IDEA HOW TO TELL HER. I feel like if I just said "wanna get out of here?" I'd be a huge creep. I was really fat when I was in my mid-teens so I never really learned how to close with girls (the first time I got with a girl was when I was 18.) Please help me out, thanks.
Author:  RedThirst [ Thu Sep 16, 2010 3:52 pm ]
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I think this is the wrong section for your question.

The best advise I could give you from my limited experience is try reading some PUA books. They ll cover all, from the attraction stage, to the comfort and seduction stages.

You need to change your mindset. Think of yourself in a more positive manner.
Author:  clazz [ Thu Sep 16, 2010 3:53 pm ]
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Which section would be more appropriate? I feel that my problem centers around closing because I have no problems with talking to girls, just closing.
Author:  RedThirst [ Thu Sep 16, 2010 4:00 pm ]
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I though mid-game might be more appropriate. But never mind, you are right :).

The trick I use for getting number is not asking for it. Obviously from the books, but it works for me. So not "Can I get your number", but more like " Hey, lets exchange numbers". Of course, you ll need a reason to exchange numbers, so you should set up for it. Suggest an activity or something you could do. Again, dont ask, assume. So not "Would you like to hang out?", but "Lets hang out sometime". If you dont bring it as a question, it is easier for you to ask and she is more likely to accept.
Author:  clazz [ Thu Sep 16, 2010 4:46 pm ]
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I'm not really looking for how to get a girls number, that's not a problem for me. I just don't know what to say to a girl to get her to know I want her without sounding like a creep/geek.
Author:  RedThirst [ Thu Sep 16, 2010 5:12 pm ]
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You dont tell her directly. This is what qualifiers are for.

Anyways, if getting a number isnt the problem you can close. Next step is day 2.
Author:  universe90 [ Thu Sep 16, 2010 8:20 pm ]
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I understand what you are saying. You are pretty social and have no problem to get girls numbers but even when you know they are attracted to you you do not know how to get them to bed? what to say etc.
I had this problem before (still have it sometime I guess) and I went with reading about the kiss-close routines. There are some pretty good ones out there.
I also felt like after I have k-closed it is much easier to suggest having sex. Just like after the kiss just say "so, we going to your place or mine?" or something along those lines.
I would also love to hear what other people have to deal with this problem since I feel it touches alot of us.
Author:  clazz [ Thu Sep 16, 2010 10:14 pm ]
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Number closes don't mean much, I don't know why you emphasize it so much. Alot of the time I actually get the number after the hookup, its really not that important. All I can say is just be chill about it lol..

Really though. Alot of guys think having a phone number=sex.

You seem like a social guy but I think where you are lacking is that you arent being sexual enough with woman. You need to subcommunicate your sexuality better; kino, sex eyes, ect. but I'm not going to go into detail about that right now.
If you read my posts carefully, I think that it's pretty clear that I'm not emphasizing getting numbers at all. What I'm trying to communicate to you guys and get help with is how to go from talking to a girl at a party to bringing her back to my room across campus (or her room :lol:). I just don't know how to let girls know that I want to get with them without sounding weird/nerdy.

Some more background info:
18
Not a virgin.
Attending a major U.S. University.
Have hooked up with girls as high as a 9 but hookups come infrequently due to my lack of closing skills.
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