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Author:  cagewalker [ Fri Jun 04, 2010 1:31 pm ]
Post subject:  My dating game needs some serious help.
Long term dating is my weakness. I can have intimate flings with girls, let them fizzle and I move on, but long term dating is my white whale.

Now I need to tighten my dating game. Lately there’s been this girl. Although I’m wary of one-itis she appears to be ltr material. Scholarship genius. Very independent and very quick witted.

We’ve been on 3 spontaneous ‘mini-dates’ and one proper date. The mini-dates may not even be counted as dates. We attend college at an inner-city art school so it was just window-shopping and coffee after class for an hour or two over the past 2-3 weeks.

So far, our only proper date was this wed. No kiss yet and she’s very reserved and poised- as a result kino has been tentative, but increasing. However, comfort began to escalate during that ‘proper’ date.

I should add that I’ve had several indicators of interest from this girl but she is tightly composed and difficult to read. In fact, it’s difficult to get her flustered or provoke IOIs from her. I wouldn’t be surprised if she had some ‘natural game’ herself.

After our date wed, she emailed me on Thursday with some exam notes.

She hinted that, “her computer has been playing up and if the note files don’t open, she’d arrange some other way to get them to me”. I’m not sure if she was hinting that we meet up, so I just gave a non-commital reply and haven’t spoken to her since.

Here is the issue. Due to upcoming exams, we will be incredible busy for the next 10-11 days. I have 3 possible paths to take:

1) Don’t contact her at all for a week, until mid next week. Come Wednesday, give her a call to make plans for later on.

This has the advantage of not ‘over contacting her’, but I also don’t want the iron to go cold. If I do this, it means I will not contact her for an entire week.

2) Or initiate some contact. Perhaps a quick text game to keep the ‘line alive’ and then call her later on in the week to arrange something for next Sunday.

3) Call her this Sunday and arrange another mini-date for mid-week since we're both so busy.

I’m wary of this, as we’ve had 3 mini-dates to build rapport and comfort. It was only on our proper date that things seemed to escalate. I don’t want to build a boring habit of ‘let’s grab a quick coffee’ or give her the wrong impressions.

For me, dating has always been an issue. Carrying the momentum while not eroding attraction is a picky balance. I think I need help to progress my dating game.
Author:  sinsitive [ Fri Jun 04, 2010 2:35 pm ]
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I'd say go for one. You're too busy to concentrate on PU. She is too.
She will not like you less in a week time, or a bit more. So Go casual, don't contact her, she's an independent girl and she seems clever. If she is for real, you don't need to keep the line active. Of course don't wait for years. That's a tad over the top.

Then organize something fun to do and ask her to join you. Not a date, but something to do and she can COME ALONG. Don't make her the subject of the meet up.

That's what I'd do.
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