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Author:  abcdef123456 [ Fri Jun 04, 2010 9:27 am ]
Post subject:  What to do after a bad first date?

Basically I've been talking to this girl on Facebook for a few months. We agreed to meet up quite a few times, but things got in the way. We finally met yesterday. Before this we were both very excited to see each other, and I could tell she was very attracted.

Yesterday morning though, I kinda got cold feet. I told her that maybe it wasn't such a good idea, since she'd told me she was really shy, and I'm not that great of a conversationalist myself, so I told her I didn't want to come if it was going to be awkward. She said she would try her best not to, she sent me quite a few texts, and said she really wanted to meet me. Obviously I went to go and see her.

We met up at the bus stop and went back to her place. Both of us are quiet normally, so obviously there we weren't very chatty. This is the first time we've actually spoken, we met online. I'm not this quiet with people I've gamed in person, as I've spoken to them already before I've started to give a shit what they think of me.

We got back to hers and went straight up to her room. We hadn't touched each other yet, so I decided to start poking her and tickling her and stuff, getting us touching each other, and I took the piss out of her, just making her laugh and shit. We put a DVD on and kept play fighting and stuff. I wanted to kiss her, but I didn't want to say "kiss me" and verbalise it, and whenever I got close to her face to move in for it she either moved, covered her face, or slapped me and starting play fighting again. And then her sister came in the room, so I gave up trying.

I hugged her before getting back on the bus, and didn't move in for the kiss because her sister was there and her friends, which was fucking annoying. Is that weird?

Anyway she texted me when I was on the bus asking why she didn't get a kiss, and I told her exactly what I've told you. She said she wanted one. We texted all night, she didn't seem as interested as before, but she says she wants to meet me again. I jokingly invited her to join me in bed, and she said she was on her way, so she must still like me, but I'm not 100% sure.

I have plenty of other options, but I really like this girl. This isn't oneitis, I just think me and her could be good together.

Guys, be honest with me: from what you've heard, where do you think I went wrong? And what should I do to make sure this goes the way I want it to?

I think the things I need to work on are:
-conversation skills
-maybe have a few routines to start off with, to get the conversation flowing
-maybe I lack confidence


Thanks :)

Author:  cagewalker [ Fri Jun 04, 2010 2:30 pm ]
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The date didn't sound bad at all.

Sounded like you were trying to bang her without any sort of build up and got disappointed. In fact, it sounds like she's into you.

Author:  sinsitive [ Fri Jun 04, 2010 2:39 pm ]
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Dude you did frickin' better than you think yourself.
1: she likes you, it's obvious.
2: she knows if you DO kiss her that you mean it. You apparently aren't the type of guy who just kisses all girls he meets on facebook. Invite her along with you to some party or so and then do it in a very nice, memorable way. Don't forget to invite us to the wedding.

Cheers!

Author:  tweeby [ Fri Jun 04, 2010 2:50 pm ]
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Wtf. Compared to the dates i've had this is fantastic. All you have to do is make sure to kiss her next time and you're in there.

Author:  abcdef123456 [ Sat Jun 05, 2010 5:03 am ]
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Cagewalker - no I wasn't trying to bang her.

Haha thanks guys. Like I said, I lack confidence. It was probably just me thinking it was bad, cos thats how I felt afterwards. I feel like that a lot of the time after dates actually, I get paranoid that it went badly, which is why I wrote this post. I need to sort it out. Anyway I'm at her sisters party next Saturday, I'll sort it out then :) haha okay sinsitive I'll make sure to invite you, don't worry mate ;)

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