Hey guys. Here's my recent story with blondie HB9. You guys would be reading forever, so I'll keep it 'short' haha. I am almost desperate for advice, maybe some reassurance, I don't know. You tell me. FYI, at this point in time this target has now become almost strictly practice (which is really unfortunate) but yeah, it is what it is.
Anyway. It all starts out about 3 weeks ago, she's in one of my classes. She always comes to class right as it's starting. So the first day of this class I was all annoyed cause there weren't any good targets, until she walked in the door. I instantly knew that she was the one I was going to work, so on the way out of class that day - I kino'd her arm lightly and said hey. she says hi back all happy/surprised and i ask her what her major is? she responds as i turn half-away and by that time she is walking out of the room. btw, she's an HB9, absolutely gorgeous girl. I originally was pissed I didn't maintain a convo, but it was good cause it added mystery and confusion.
Then, the next time I saw her I chatted her up before/after class. We sat next to eachother. I asked if 'we could continue this conversation another time' and got her number. The next time we had class after that, I asked what she was doing that night (Friday) and she said work. I asked if she wanted to hang out after work and she said yes. I called her later that night (after work) and she didn't answer. Left a message just saying who I was, that I'm at a buddies house, and if she feels like getting a bite to eat let me know. No return phone call ever.
I realize that she is going to be tricky as hell, this girl loves the games. She is hard. It intrigues me, so I continue. I become more confident and use more C&F, and it's gaining more of her interest slowly. One day we were talking and all the sudden I just said later and turned the corner to leave instead of continue walking with her. Anyway, I 'asked her out' again, and she said she had class till x:00 that night but was supposed to hang out with friends afterwards, but she said she'd text me if she can. Never texted me.
So at this point (2 weeks later) i'm like fuck it all. I stop giving a shit. I keep talking to her in class but for example, once she showed up a tad late - I didnt say a word to her or give her any eye contact for the entire 50 minute period until class was over.
I'm forgetting to mention that during all of this, she was laughing at not-funny stuff, playing with her hair, maintaining eye contact, waiting for me to get up before she left the classroom, etc. Alot of IOIs everywhere, but I figured she was just being nice.
Okay so now the retarded part. Class was cancelled on Monday. I use this as my ultimate opportunity. I wait for her outside class (sneaky, waiting for her to approach the class so it looks natural) and here she comes. I'm all "dont-give-a-fuck" so I snap my fingers and point at her, and out come the words "Today's your lucky day!" and I tell her we're going to get coffee. Long story short, we get coffee. She pays for her own coffee, everything about it was alpha/a great instadate. Sweet. We spent 2 hours talking, she didnt even realize the time had passed and was late for work because of it (awesome).
I go back to school, and she calls in work.
I think this is when I fucked it up big time. Yeah. Right about here.
I get a text from her, stating she called in to work and they were slow so they didnt need her. IN OTHER WORDS - Hey, I'm available tonight, let's hang out! I text her back some bs and set up a dinner date for tonight.
The night comes, I'm 30 mins late due to traffic (I let her know before I was supposed to get there) but it wasnt a big deal. We go to dinner, and talk for almost 3 more hours. It was great, but I was totally letting my guard down in the sense that I started giving a shit. I cared. I wanted to know her feelings, her thoughts, her goals. You know. I think deep down that's what I'm looking for. It's not like I was showing a fuck ton of interest, but you know, she was comfortable as hell with me (maybe too much?). Our feet/legs were touching the entire time at the table. Everything seemed to go perfectly.
We leave to the car and she wraps my arm around her on the way to my ride. It was dark and lonely in the parking lot, I could have kissed her right before we got to the car but I didnt think about it, and I'm now fucking pissed about it but whatever, lesson learned. (ugh..)
I used the kiss-routine where you ask her how good a kisser she is, "if you were in kissing school and your kissing instructor rated you what grade... blah blah" and she obviously didn't have a direct answer so I pulled the "well you know what that means, im gonna have to find out on my own" card. She said "hmm another day" and it totally fucking killed my enthusiasm. I was pumped to kiss this girl but when she said that I dropped all that, I dunno. It sucked. I didn't show my reaction though, I played it cool like "hmm I can respect that" - whatever. none of this would have been happening if i kissed her in the first place.
Anyway, I drop her off, give her a little back pat as she leaves the car. Probably should have walked her to her door but yeah. Again, shoulda kissed earlier. Fuck. Whatever.
Anyway. 2 days pass and I see her at class (She never called/texted/etc., nor did I during these 2 days). We talk at class like normal, nothing really special but she is in a good mood, seems happy to see me. Class goes by, I don't give her too much attention during class. Afterwards I'm talkign to her a bit but theres another guy (he's gay, and she loves him, fucking annoying) talking to her. I should ahve ejected out and just left them talking, but instead I tagged along and played with the conversation. I waited till the gay guy left, grabbed her arm and pulled her to the side (in an alpha manner, respectfully) and she was like "so did we establish he was gay yet?" - just a little joke/whatever we had going. We talked for a couple minutes and then I asked her, indirectly, to come out with me again on Saturday night. She said she was working (which I already knew) but she gets off work at like 7-8 so we still could have chilled.
I just said "alright, well we'll figure it out" or something along those lines and she left for the day. I felt like shit. I know better than to ask her out like that, she is one of those on-the-spot people. Now I know better... Anyway, I text her later saying that something reminded me of her, she asked what it was, i responded with something intriguing that definitely grabbed her interest, but i said it was too long to text and to call me later. She never called (I knew she wouldn't the whole time, she is getting very predictable).
Anyway, if you managed to read all that. Now I dont know what the fuck to do. I plan on ignoring her until Sunday night (4 days) and calling her up then, being direct as hell. Asking her to hang out, and if she declines, find out a time when she will be able to, and if she doesnt have a time, just be straight up and tell her "listen, I like hanging out with you and I'd like to get to know you better, but I don’t have time to play tag anymore” and see what she says. if she bullshits again, i'll just ask her "are you interested or not?" I know this sounds a little AFC, but what else am I supposed to do? I guess I could just end the convo with a "alright I gotta go. bye." and pretend she doesn't exist. I dunno. This is where I need help.
The MAJOR problem with "cutting her off" is that it's impossible, as she sits next to me in class 3 days a week. but I could definitely stop walking with her after class, and obviously stop texting her. I haven't called her yet since that first time I tried (and right before picking her up for the date), so it's not like i'm littering her with phone calls/etc. I'm probably just trying to hard while I walk with her after class. I also don't want to kill the buzz from the date if I wait too long, but at this point it may be an actual smart idea to let the buzz die off (it already has mostly for her im sure)
Thanks in advance, you guys are champs for reading through all that shit, lol.
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