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Author:  Mr. LJ [ Tue May 11, 2010 7:36 am ]
Post subject:  Man I'm Confused! Help Please!
So I was working out at the gym last Monday and passed this girl on the treadmill, she looked me up and down and smiled, i went up and started talking to her and she asked to me to put her through and ab workout. After the workout I number closed and scheduled to workout with her wednesday.

Wednesday came and we worked out and I could tell she was digging me, she mentioned how she got out of a 1 year relationship about a month ago and I didnt want to keep talking about her x-bf so I moved onto another subject. She invited me to come over the next night and I said I would. The next day around 8pm I texted her and asked if we were still on and she said she was busy and would call me tomorrow and explain. I replied "ok."

She called Friday, but I didnt pick up. I texted her alil later and said "sorry i wasnt by my phone, call me back when your free." I never got a call back.

Sunday I sent her a text "so did you cause any trouble this weekend?" she briefly replied "lol no, but i went to a party saturday night and it got pretty crazy." i replied, "ya i went to a party last night and my xgf sort of molested me, it was really awkard"

From then on I didnt get a reply. So tonight I was at the gym and sent her a text saying "Hey Im at the gym right now, you should be too." She never replied and still hasnt.

What should I do? I am still new to this stuff, so please help.

Thanks guys.
Author:  minsok [ Tue May 11, 2010 9:48 am ]
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Dude, when a girl calls you; answer. You probably lost a prime opportunity to do something with her. Since you sort of rejected her, she might have talked to her ex to soothe herself, or he might have contacted her at just the right time. You guys have only been using texting for business, to try to get together, you took a step backward trying to fluff over text. Having an ex girlfriend drooling over you doesn't build value unless your target has seen her and thinks she's smokin. That's my two cents.
Author:  Mr. LJ [ Wed May 12, 2010 7:16 am ]
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My phone was off when she called, when I turned it back on I had a text from her saying "Hey I tried calling but your phone was off."
Author:  ShadowNight [ Wed May 12, 2010 6:14 pm ]
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I agree with minsok...talking about an ex is a deal breaker...always! Girls like to talk about their ex just to see your reaction if any...and then possibly see if you can be the guy she can date or just the guy she can be friends with and unload her troubles onto.

So now, wait a week and see if she contacts you. if you meet her at the gym... let her come talk to you... if you guys pass each other... smile and see if she initiates conversation. if she does... talk, flirt and carry on with your workout. after all you are there to workout right? If she doesn't contact you... move on! If she contacts you... try to set up a date or something during the week... not the weekend!

Hope it works out bro... if not... hope you have the will power to move on...
Author:  Rune [ Wed May 12, 2010 6:33 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Man I'm Confused! Help Please!
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So I was working out at the gym last Monday and passed this girl on the treadmill, she looked me up and down and smiled
Awww, she likes you. Goody!
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i went up and started talking to her and she asked to me to put her through and ab workout.
And you didn't even think about it; you just went in.
AWESOMENESS.
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After the workout I number closed and scheduled to workout with her wednesday.
Yay champione!!!
CHAMPIONE!!!

(Is that Italian for champion? I feel so).
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Wednesday came and we worked out and I could tell she was digging me, she mentioned how she got out of a 1 year relationship about a month ago and I didnt want to keep talking about her x-bf so I moved onto another subject.
Shit test. You passed. Aww this is romantic.
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She invited me to come over the next night and I said I would.
YAY.
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The next day around 8pm I texted her and asked if we were still on...
Wow, you fucking idiot...
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and she said she was busy and would call me tomorrow and explain. I replied "ok."
FAIL.

You see that. Doing good, doing good, doing good....FAIL.

Just like that.
But, the good news is, you didn't THINK.

You just messed up, and the transition was natural. Good man.
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She called Friday, but I didnt pick up. I texted her alil later and said "sorry i wasnt by my phone, call me back when your free."
FAIL.
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I never got a call back.
Why did you apologize. You're a MAN.
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Sunday I sent her a text "so did you cause any trouble this weekend?" she briefly replied "lol no, but i went to a party saturday night and it got pretty crazy."
Second chance.
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i replied, "ya i went to a party last night and my xgf sort of molested me, it was really awkard"
FAIL, you fucking idiot.

You THOUGHT.
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From then on I didnt get a reply.
FAIL. Game over.
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So tonight I was at the gym and sent her a text saying "Hey Im at the gym right now, you should be too." She never replied and still hasnt.


Done. Game over. End of story.
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What should I do? I am still new to this stuff, so please help.
You're thinking, and mildly obsessing over this girl.
Stop.



You realize why you fucked up, right?
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The next day around 8pm I texted her and asked if we were still on...
...here's your homework: Analyze that quote, and tell me HOW and WHY you fucked up.

And don't think about it, just answer.
ANY answer is fine.
Author:  Winchester [ Wed May 12, 2010 7:12 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Man I'm Confused! Help Please!
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You realize why you fucked up, right?
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The next day around 8pm I texted her and asked if we were still on...
...here's your homework: Analyze that quote, and tell me HOW and WHY you fucked up.

And don't think about it, just answer.
ANY answer is fine.
Just got back from the gym and I'm bored so I want to play....You should have just assumed it was still on, you're a cool dude, she's in to you so there's no reason for you to question her not wanting to spend time with you since you're such a high value guy!
Author:  Tony Stonem [ Wed May 12, 2010 9:52 pm ]
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Rune basically summed it all up by breaking it down:

You started off well (of fire even) and you kinda fucked up as it progressed.

You may have blown it, but don't (DON'T) keep calling/texting her, especially if she's not responding.

Your like a 7.1 inning pitcher... good started, but need to work on closing.
Author:  Mr. LJ [ Thu May 13, 2010 6:11 am ]
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hey all, thank you guys so much for the help. i hadnt text/called her since monday. and today she text me saying "hey im going to be coming to the gym around 6 or 7, will you be there?"

after about an hour i replied, "yeah"

she showed up around 730 and came up basically begging to workout with me, so i complied, stating "i could only for 15 mins because I had to go out to eat with my family" which was true. When I left she told me to text her later tonight. What do you guys think? Should I text her or wait?

Ahh yes and also I kino escalated with showing her ways to do different exercises. I also stated that since I was training her she owed me a back massage, she complied and said "we could give each other massages".

Once again thanks guys! :D
Author:  Winchester [ Thu May 13, 2010 11:56 am ]
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Well done man, honestly I wouldn't text, definitely call her, keep it short and sweet, then arrange the date...and this time don't text beforehand to find out if its on, go round like a man and own it ;)
Author:  Rune [ Thu May 13, 2010 2:48 pm ]
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hey all, thank you guys so much for the help. i hadnt text/called her since monday. and today she text me saying "hey im going to be coming to the gym around 6 or 7, will you be there?"
Rift repaired. :)
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after about an hour i replied, "yeah"
You're back in the biz.

Notice, as fast as you destroyed the connection, you were also able to rectify and restore it.

Choose: A or B. Left or Right. Positive or Negative.

The moment is all that matters.
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she showed up around 730 and came up basically begging to workout with me, so i complied, stating "i could only for 15 mins because I had to go out to eat with my family" which was true. When I left she told me to text her later tonight. What do you guys think? Should I text her or wait?
Text her briefly tonight; IF you think it's appropriate.

Let the moment define it for you. If you do, don't mention past or future; just be like "Hey. What's up. I'm about to do this and that. You're coming with me".

Don't give her a choice; she WANTS to be dominated.
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Ahh yes and also I kino escalated with showing her ways to do different exercises. I also stated that since I was training her she owed me a back massage, she complied and said "we could give each other massages".
Good, but DON'T THINK ABOUT IT.

The next time you hang out, escalate the moment. LEAD HER to her house ("watch a video", "teach her moves to use as a workout", "coffee", etc...).

Whatever the moment allows, lead the momentum there. She WANTS you to create an excuse to get her into the bedroom, so you can fuck her while NOT making her FEEL like a SLUT, but rather it was "THE MOMENT" and...whoopsie. We fucked. Guilt free pass!
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Once again thanks guys! :D
Just fuck her already, THEN thank us. :)
Author:  Mr. LJ [ Thu May 13, 2010 8:48 pm ]
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Awesome thanks guys, Ill keep you all informed to let you know how it goes.
Author:  Mr. LJ [ Sun May 16, 2010 9:35 pm ]
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Hey guys so I havent heard from her since the night at the gym... Should I call her soon and ask her out or send a text? and if so ask her to actually go out or if she wants to workout sometime this week.

Thanks guys
Author:  Winchester [ Sun May 16, 2010 9:49 pm ]
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Either text something fun like, "Hey, working out was fun...I'm wondering when you have time to play :p x" Then just ask her out for a drink w/e.

Or ring up, short and sweet call then ask her out for a drink or whatever"

Good Luck.
Author:  Rune [ Sun May 16, 2010 11:03 pm ]
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Hey guys so I havent heard from her since the night at the gym... Should I call her soon and ask her out or send a text? and if so ask her to actually go out or if she wants to workout sometime this week.

Thanks guys
Drop her.
The moment is dead.

Find a new chick. Trust me.
Drop her.

The moment is dead.
No more momentum. Find new momentum.

NOW, you should be finding a new chick to build with. It truly is a numbers game.
Author:  Mr. LJ [ Mon May 17, 2010 4:54 pm ]
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Crazy how things work, right after I posted on here she sent me a text. I set up a workout session this tuesday then plan on going to get coffee or maybe a smoothie afterwards. I am just worried if I keep asking her to come and workout that is all she is going to think of me as, a workout friend...
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