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| Author: | thinkpad [ Thu Feb 04, 2010 9:09 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Setting Up the First Date |
I'm probably overthinking this whole thing which is why I am even posting here at all. First, a bit of background, I don't really consider myself a PUA, but I have read 'The Game' and Mystery's book. I don't usually cold approach girls, most of my past girlfriends have been people I've met through friends or at parties. Anyway, I was at a random event last week and spotted a gorgeous girl so I just walked up and started talking to her, about the event. I made a mistake and took a phone call and stepped away for a minute and some other guy of course started talking to her... so I just kept my phone conversation going til he left. At this point I figured it was now or never so I said I had to get going but we should get together sometime since it turned out we live around the corner from each other. At this point we started exchanging numbers and I felt myself losing control of my nerves so I cut it short, said goodbye, I'll give you a call and left. I didn't even give her my number so I probably made mistake # 2 and texted her as I was walking out so she would have my number in her phone. Anyway, I called her the next day in the evening to try and set something up, got her VM, left a brief message saying I'd like to take you out later this week, guess I missed you I'll try again later or tomorrow. At this point I figured she would just flake because of how I practically blew myself out of the water originally, but she texted me the next day asking what my schedule was like. I texted back saying I was busy that night but could do a late dinner the next day (thurs) with a little joke about walking her home after. She texted back (laughing at my joke) but unfortunately couldn't make plans for thurs, and was going to be busy over the weekend with a friend visiting from out of town. She suggested Mon. or Tues. instead but unfortunately for me I had a dentist appointment to get my wisdom teeth pulled on Monday !!! So I text back to let her know I couldn't do Mon/Tues on account of having stitches in my mouth and suggested the following thursday again. That brings us to today, I never got a response from my last text, so I called last night, got the voicemail again and left another message saying hey just calling to set something up but I guess you're busy I'll try to catch you some other time. What to do? Is there enough interest to give it a few days and one more go or just move on to the next one at this point? Damn my wisdom teeth I should've gotten them out years ago! |
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| Author: | Nesho [ Thu Feb 04, 2010 11:02 pm ] |
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i wouldn't contact her first anymore, would seem kinda desperate. If she contacts you first then set something up, till then go meet other people. Cheers |
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| Author: | thinkpad [ Fri Feb 05, 2010 4:35 pm ] |
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Yeah, I figured that's the smart thing to do. Though part of me still wants to try one last time because really what do I have to lose? She'd definitely be a good catch, gorgeous and intelligent and lives around the corner lol. What's the best way to go about it? In the mean time I am going to keep myself occupied with other girls, friends, life in general. |
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| Author: | abbacus [ Wed Feb 10, 2010 8:44 pm ] |
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Quote: What's the best way to go about it?
By not contacting her first. I promise; if you do, getting that first date to go well would take all the talent of a mPUA.I'm also a guy who mixes PUA with "oneitis." I've hooked up with a decent number of girls since my last serious relationship, and playing just isn't as satisfying (to me) as being with a really cool girl for the long-term. That being said, our instincts are often shit. Save the nice-guy stuff for relationships. Up until then, I prefer cocky-funny, even borderline rake. |
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| Author: | Leeroy Jenkins [ Fri Feb 12, 2010 2:54 am ] |
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she didn't want to meet you for dinner because that's gay the game is linear, you can't just skip steps because you think she might be in to you. dinner is mid to end game content and even then its sketchy. too old fashioned, too unoriginal, too constrictive. by asking her to dinner you've basically consigned her to spend extended units of time with a person she barely just met. making matter's worse is that she knows that you know where she lives so now her shields are fucking UP <a href="http://s918.photobucket.com/albums/ad30 ... fail-1.jpg" target="_blank"><img src="http://i918.photobucket.com/albums/ad30 ... fail-1.jpg" border="0" alt="Photobucket"></a> you showed your hand before the game was over. she knows you want to fuck her, but she's hesitant now because you live so close. any PUA worth his weight in condoms will tell you: never straight up ask a girl out. |
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