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Author:  Belenos [ Wed Jan 27, 2010 6:15 pm ]
Post subject:  Nervous about first F-close
Iv been seeing this girl for a few months and shes a really good girl. Wev done some stuff before but wev never gotten to the F-close cuz we never really got the chance. Ou parents kept walking in, we kept getting interrupted by a taxi, my brother, a cousin of mine, her sister (to name a few).

Point being, she isnt a virgin (thanks to her ex-bf) and I am. We finally got the chance to do it, the condom was on and yet... I couldnt get hard! Now I have no erectile difficulties (and at my age it is impossible... I asked a doctor). Not to give excuses but the room was cold, like freezing. She would give me a handjob, I would get hard, id go to put it in and I went limp again!

Now I think there is something more to it tho, sure the cold didnt help, but I think I might be subconsciously nervous because she has experience and I dont.
Can someone give me any tips to deal with this so that next time it doesnt happen again? She took it just fine tho, I was relieved at that but still... also, any tips to be good? Im amazing at foreplay, literally, but all my game will fall apart if I cant deliver in bed.

thanks in advance
Author:  Paul??? [ Wed Jan 27, 2010 8:58 pm ]
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Dude your having SEX with a girl, get hard and enjoy it my freind.

Best advice i can give you : )
Author:  EndersGame [ Wed Jan 27, 2010 10:36 pm ]
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Get into some serious role playing or something to spice it up maybe. You are man, you have a burning desire to mate so do it!

Tips? Please her, take control of the situation. You watch porn? If you do then emulate the shit you see guys doing. Flip her over into different positions use your physical strength, demonstrate to her that she has picked a suitable male specimen. At the same time be passionate, husk your voice, tell her how hot she is and how you want to ravish her.
Author:  ExXile [ Wed Jan 27, 2010 10:53 pm ]
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I remeber my first time, and I was so nervous.
I was afraid of all the stories of it being a short experience if you know what I mean.
Turns out my nervousness led to it taking forever to finish, and it ended up not even being that great. The second time was much better because I realized it was no big deal. And I was able to relax.

If its your first time you might make some common mistakes so let me give you some pointers I learned:
  • *Foreplay is your best friend. I read a study somewhere it takes a women a certain amount of "thrusts" to cum and a man a number that's extremely lower (might have been something like 250 and 50, but I'm not positive) so if you share the thinking as much Western thinking nations, you'll want to make sure she's finished before you do. Foreplay achieves this, just try to make sure to focus on her, read up on foreplay! Foreplay will also get you excited and more comfortable so should help with your errectile problem.

    *Take your F*cking Time:You say you keep getting interrupted. Don't bother if you cant devote at least an hour or 2 to it without worry. You don't want to rush through it. Dont try to immediatly finish as fast as you can. When you feel yourself getting close, pull out, and do some oral on her or something, then after you've calmed down a bit, get right back in there. Remeber it takes less thrusts for the guy to finish, so when you feel close, take a break, but make sure your satisfying her. You might wanna practice this while masturbating if you don't already. You should be able to last at least a half hour by stopping ocasionally. It takes alot of control, but try to last a half hour first, then increase the time you last. The longer you hold out, the better itll feel in the end.

    *Make her feel loved afterwards. Self Explanatory, comfort her talk, chat w/e Don't talk about the sex unless she wants to talk about it. Go for a walk around the neihborhood (thats what me and my first did). This way she feels like you didnt just do it for the sex. And of course, don't have sex every single time you have the opportunity, unless that is, she's into that sort of thing.
Author:  Ezo [ Wed Jan 27, 2010 10:58 pm ]
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Foreplay! Nothing better if you are nervous.

Dont think about that you are gonna have sex with her, imagine that nothings gonna happen and you will be hard again in no time.
Author:  _Lothario_ [ Sat Jan 30, 2010 1:54 am ]
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I agree with Ezo here. Get comfortable with foreplay. Don't be embarrassed with the condom situation. You have a balloon on your dick. She's not going to burst out with "Make me a bicycle, clown!"
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