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| Author: | Chris101 [ Wed Jan 13, 2010 1:26 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Best Day Game close. Now to prevent flaking... |
I thought about posting this in Field Reports or Sticking Points, but thought I would get very specific about the situation and what help I'm looking for. Basically I can regularly get number and Facebook closes, but for some reason or another, seeing the girl again is a very rare occurrence. Any pointers would be much appreciated. So today I was out and about, in Day Game mode... I had a few interactions but none went too well. Then I spotted my moving target and started going after her, almost in a trance but I had to walk quickly to catch up. I came along on the side; she had headphones on, so I physically nudged her. Direct approaches usually make me nervous, but this time I was surprisingly calm, controlled and she was showing a lot of interest back (we could have kept talking even longer but I thought it was best to wrap things up when I did). Number swap. Perhaps the best I've done in-field. But now we come back to what I mentioned in the first paragraph - flaking. I'm still trying to get my head around why it keeps happening to me, seemingly more than others here and in the community. Any interest gained in interacting with someone dissipates too quickly when we separate. I'm thinking my phone/text game is still too weak? Or perhaps too much comfort, not enough attraction? In this case, I specifically said I would text her soon and she was open to the idea of meeting again for a drink, but I want to play my cards right this time (and any future times). |
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| Author: | TheJ [ Wed Jan 13, 2010 2:20 pm ] |
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Good work on getting that smooth number. BTW, when you can, spend more time with her. Don't cut it short just to cut it short. Make her invest more time and she is less likely to flake. If you felt like you could of spent moe time with her do so. Get an insta date right there. Invite her over to a coffee shop, take her shopping on the spot.. whatever. Can you look back at the other interactions you had with the 'flaky' number and extract some sort of patern that you might be doing? Do you get her interested in you? Is she investing? Does she fell that you are finding her interesting? Are you setting up a more solid time bridge then 'have a drink some time, some place'? |
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| Author: | nofear [ Wed Jan 13, 2010 6:38 pm ] |
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If you truly want to understand why women flake and what you can do to decrease the chances of a woman flaking on you, then read this article by Vin DiCarlo. This guy has cracked the code on flakes: http://www.bristollair.com/inner-game/u ... value.html |
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| Author: | Chris101 [ Thu Jan 14, 2010 11:49 am ] |
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I think subconsciously I didn't want to spend too long talking to preserve value and "end things on a high note" so to speak, instead of ploughing away until I started losing focus, losing the good vibe or going quiet and creating an awkward space between us. But the insta-date thing is something I didn't even think of; moving and sitting down together obviously tests their compliance and forces them to invest more. D'oh. As for the other questions, they can be hard to answer... but I'm actually thinking of going back and looking at each approach I've done over the last year, and writing down what happened and the outcome. I already make a record of every number close that happens, so it shouldn't be too hard to remember some vague details. Then I might start to see some problems and mistakes I didn't realise. As for this latest, particular case, it's already been a day but I'll give it another day before I text anything. What have others done that has been effective in retaining contact and mutual interest after the initial approach/meeting? Some joke? Asking a question? This "Implied Investment" thing I've heard about recently (or maybe that's better when meeting people in Night Game setting)? |
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