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| Author: | Jiggz [ Tue Jan 05, 2010 10:46 pm ] |
| Post subject: | "I'm hanging out with my BF, please don't text me again |
This happend to me a few months ago but I'm still confused by it and trying to figure it out... I live in a college complex so one night I decided to throw a party. I met this girl named Angela, she was hot and dancing pretty sexilly(is that a word?). Anyway I approached her and started dancing with her, simple enough. We were vibing pretty well and I pushed her up against my bedroom door and started to make out with her. She was into it. Cut to a little deeper into the night... Her friend had borrowed her car and was not answering, while another friend of hers wondered off through out the complex so she asked me if I wanted to walk with her to find her friend... of course! I'm down. So we're walking, flirting, stopping at certain points to make out... we don't find her friend haha. On the way back to my apartment I get her to put her number in my phone. I text the next day saying I had fun meeting her and that we need to hang out again soon. She replies who is this? I reply back with something witty(forgot what it was) and get no response back. Whatever. I'll try again the next weekend. I text her about a party I'm going to. No response. It's okay, I'll try the next week. I text her about something awesome I'm doing and I get a response this time is... "I'm hanging out with my boyfriend, please don't text me again." I just responded with "Haha alright, you won't have to worry about that again." And deleted her number. Now my question is what do you think went wrong there? Because I've tried to figure it out for the longest time but I can't pinpoint it. Did she have a BF when we were making out? Was she just talking with someone who turned into a BF later? Why would she give me her number? I'm curious to get your thoughts on the situation. Thanks, Jiggz |
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| Author: | SeductorEur [ Tue Jan 05, 2010 11:56 pm ] |
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These kind of reactions have happened to me a lot as well. It's buyer's remorse. She was attracted to you, but the next day she started thinking about it and felt guilty about it. She's asking herself: how did that actually happen? It seems you skipped the "building comfort" step. It's very hard to get a girl back once she got buyer's remorse I'm afraid. |
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| Author: | flybeta [ Wed Jan 06, 2010 12:52 am ] |
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Don't really think girls like you to tell them that you had fun hanging out? Also dont think replying like that shows anything. cept it bothers you it shouldn't. |
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| Author: | Jiggz [ Wed Jan 06, 2010 2:29 am ] |
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Replying that way, "haha you won't have to worry about that again." was more about keeping my ego in check. No idea if it was the right thing or wrong thing to do. It definitely didn't help cuz if it did I would of gotten a response. And why would you think girls wouldn't want to hear that you had a fun time hanging out with them? It's totally innocent, it's not showing too much interest and I actually did 'have fun' hanging out with her that night! Just curious and open minded. Help me understand. |
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| Author: | Paul??? [ Wed Jan 06, 2010 12:50 pm ] |
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The only thing i can think of is that you didnt build rapport, you could say you did, but it prabably wasnt enough for her. I hope she wasnt drunk :S from not remembering you. |
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| Author: | Lodewijkp [ Wed Jan 06, 2010 1:40 pm ] |
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you had to push her away when making out .. kiss for a sec or 4 and push her away. you skipped comfort zone lol |
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| Author: | _Manna_ [ Wed Jan 06, 2010 5:59 pm ] |
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moar comfort pl0x. |
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| Author: | Jiggz [ Wed Jan 06, 2010 10:20 pm ] |
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Got some great feed back. All the advice here is pretty useful. I love the push away idea during the kiss. Bottom line, I guess it comes down to I should of used the walk we went on when looking for her friend to build comfort. Wrong head was thinking... Lesson learned! Thanks guys, Jiggs |
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