PUA Forum :: Where do take it from here

Well here it goes, i'll try to make things short but sweet.

A friend of mine mentions to me that her single friend thinks of I'm cute/funny (she's seen me in public before, we never met but she must have seen me at some point) and that she would try to arrange a get-together at her house in which we can meet.

So basically a few hours after having drinks doing the old push-pull routine, we end up in my friends apartment downstairs fooling around (no sex, but other fun stuff ya know) Afterwards, we go up and have more drinks, by this time the night is over and she tells me she had an awesome time.I slept downstairs at my friends apartment, she slept upstairs.The next morning, I call my friend who owns the apartment upstairs to ask him if he wanted to grab breakfast with the fellas, but instead of him answering the phone, the chick from last night (who slept on their couch) answers it, she must have seen my name come up! So she starts talking playfully, and invites me up to chill with everyone (there's like 6 people hanging out having coffee) and I hang out for a bit. When I decided to leave, she laughs and says "well, I already have your number, get your phone out, here's mine" and we both have each others numbers.

She tells me she is super busy, but to call her next week sometime.

Here is the problem.. What do I tell her ?! I've never got stuck in this situation before, it's kind weird. She's super cool, but I don't wanna make the wrong impression. I'd love to hangout/go out with her again, or even just talk to her again.

If it means anything, this girl has been wanting to get to know me since September,but she thought I had a girlfriend, that's why she never mentioned it to her anyone.

PS plus it's xmas, this week if that means anything.

Author:	getchapull [ Sun Dec 20, 2009 3:44 pm ]
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Well here it goes, i'll try to make things short but sweet. A friend of mine mentions to me that her single friend thinks of I'm cute/funny (she's seen me in public before, we never met but she must have seen me at some point) and that she would try to arrange a get-together at her house in which we can meet. So basically a few hours after having drinks doing the old push-pull routine, we end up in my friends apartment downstairs fooling around (no sex, but other fun stuff ya know) Afterwards, we go up and have more drinks, by this time the night is over and she tells me she had an awesome time.I slept downstairs at my friends apartment, she slept upstairs.The next morning, I call my friend who owns the apartment upstairs to ask him if he wanted to grab breakfast with the fellas, but instead of him answering the phone, the chick from last night (who slept on their couch) answers it, she must have seen my name come up! So she starts talking playfully, and invites me up to chill with everyone (there's like 6 people hanging out having coffee) and I hang out for a bit. When I decided to leave, she laughs and says "well, I already have your number, get your phone out, here's mine" and we both have each others numbers. She tells me she is super busy, but to call her next week sometime. Here is the problem.. What do I tell her ?! I've never got stuck in this situation before, it's kind weird. She's super cool, but I don't wanna make the wrong impression. I'd love to hangout/go out with her again, or even just talk to her again. If it means anything, this girl has been wanting to get to know me since September,but she thought I had a girlfriend, that's why she never mentioned it to her anyone. PS plus it's xmas, this week if that means anything.

Author:	Energy_ [ Sun Dec 20, 2009 3:50 pm ]
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So maybe she has a lot on her plate.. And maybe.. so do you! Since she has been pretty open with you; making out, phonenumber, time-bridge etc. I think there is little need for a push/pull game now. Just call her and tell her you made plans for you and her to something. If she's busy then, just say you have other things you need to do aswell, but if she throws another day at you - you might be able to squeese her in. Dont make this harder then it is. Just call her.

Author:	getchapull [ Sun Dec 20, 2009 3:55 pm ]
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Quote: So maybe she has a lot on her plate.. And maybe.. so do you! Since she has been pretty open with you; making out, phonenumber, time-bridge etc. I think there is little need for a push/pull game now. Just call her and tell her you made plans for you and her to something. If she's busy then, just say you have other things you need to do aswell, but if she throws another day at you - you might be able to squeese her in. Dont make this harder then it is. Just call her. Thanks, appreciate the advice! I'm a big fan of Texting/flirting, but if you guys think a call is more appropriate, then i'll do that.Hope Saturday (one week later) isn't too late to call.

Author:	PUA Kenny [ Sun Dec 20, 2009 4:00 pm ]
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Well,since you've esablished that she's alredy feeling you,there's less you need to do. Oh yea,you mentioned that you don't want to mess it up next meeting. Well news flash,that mentality will inevitably cause you to mess it up. You need to be more care free and not put much empahsis on how day 2 will go. Don't be a wuss to not take risk. Playing it safe means a night of no sex. Keep doing push/pull and be a dominant man by not being scared to mess it up.

Author:	getchapull [ Wed Dec 23, 2009 3:18 pm ]
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Quote: Well,since you've esablished that she's alredy feeling you,there's less you need to do. Oh yea,you mentioned that you don't want to mess it up next meeting. Well news flash,that mentality will inevitably cause you to mess it up. You need to be more care free and not put much empahsis on how day 2 will go. Don't be a wuss to not take risk. Playing it safe means a night of no sex. Keep doing push/pull and be a dominant man by not being scared to mess it up. Man This girl is hard to get a hold of. Shuts her phone off,doesn't text, and voicemail is full. Should I just message her on facebook ? I'm not worried about messing it up, but how can I even talk to this woman when she won't allow basic forms of communication, lol.

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Author:	PUA Kenny [ Wed Dec 23, 2009 5:59 pm ]
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I hear you man. I've met many girls who are unattainable and it even led me to desperations(lol);fom calling many times,texting many time. Well at least that was in my romantic/AFC days. To try reaching her on fb would be sought of desperate but go for it if you have no other avenue.

Author:	Energy_ [ Wed Dec 23, 2009 10:55 pm ]
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Send her a C&F message on FB. Hey! Im just writing to say Im totally breaking up with you. Its not you.. its me. Sometimes when I think about all the goodtimes we had (especally that super hot romantic trip to Mexico) I really miss you. But I'll live. We should hook up for Ice-cream and talk about this. You could go bankrupt paying for a therapist. Take care;)

Author:	PUA Kenny [ Thu Dec 24, 2009 1:16 am ]
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I like your fb-thread example Enrgy. I forgot which master PUA had similar thread(I don't know if it's Mystery).

Author:	jarmin [ Tue Dec 29, 2009 12:16 am ]
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dude, you are over thinking this. This is the easiest place for you to be, just chill. She made sure you had her number and told you WHEN to call. Maybe send her a text in the mean time to say you have a great idea to hang out but it's a secret, leave it at that...then call her next week. You are set, just chill, and roll with it, be yourself.

Author:	kalm7979 [ Fri Jan 08, 2010 7:09 am ]
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Quote: Well here it goes, i'll try to make things short but sweet. A friend of mine mentions to me that her single friend thinks of I'm cute/funny (she's seen me in public before, we never met but she must have seen me at some point) and that she would try to arrange a get-together at her house in which we can meet. So basically a few hours after having drinks doing the old push-pull routine, we end up in my friends apartment downstairs fooling around (no sex, but other fun stuff ya know) Afterwards, we go up and have more drinks, by this time the night is over and she tells me she had an awesome time.I slept downstairs at my friends apartment, she slept upstairs.The next morning, I call my friend who owns the apartment upstairs to ask him if he wanted to grab breakfast with the fellas, but instead of him answering the phone, the chick from last night (who slept on their couch) answers it, she must have seen my name come up! So she starts talking playfully, and invites me up to chill with everyone (there's like 6 people hanging out having coffee) and I hang out for a bit. When I decided to leave, she laughs and says "well, I already have your number, get your phone out, here's mine" and we both have each others numbers. She tells me she is super busy, but to call her next week sometime. Here is the problem.. What do I tell her ?! I've never got stuck in this situation before, it's kind weird. She's super cool, but I don't wanna make the wrong impression. I'd love to hangout/go out with her again, or even just talk to her again. If it means anything, this girl has been wanting to get to know me since September,but she thought I had a girlfriend, that's why she never mentioned it to her anyone. PS plus it's xmas, this week if that means anything. don't forget to look at the idea that she was also gaming you into an interaction...she had your number, but made sure you got hers! she was basically begging for you to turn it up, and when you didn't SHE had to improvise with your lack of bravado. now she's doing what you should do in the same situation...making you chase, even tho you were supposed to be the prize to begin with. be blunt that since you're both busy it probably won't work cuz you can't find time to contact most times and if she NEEDS to, she can get away to contact YOU. she's been waiting for her chance, she'll take it.

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