I got an email earlier today from one of my students. He was having a lot of trouble with texting and getting her to meet up. His common flaw was that he was over-bantering and missing the time frame to actually hang out with her.
Frame everything like it's not a big deal. What I always do is something like this-
me-"Hey are you working today?"
her-yes/no/etc
me-"Cool what time do you get off?"
-her response
me"Cool. I've got some free time later. We should meet up and grab some coffee or something before I go and do yada yada."
Most likely she will want to chill, it's low key and non threatening. Remember. We are aggressive, but only in person. Think of it this way. Sometimes my dog gets loose and runs around the neighborhood. In order to get him to come to me I have to get close, have a treat, talk slowly, and seem totally non threatening. When I catch him I'll smack his ass so he doesn't do it again, but in order to do that he has to feel safe enough to come to me.
Not that women are dogs, but you get the idea. Make it seem like it really doesn't matter. It's the same way when I'm bringing a girl back up to my place. If she comes up I know I'm going to fuck her, and she knows she's going to fuck me. But I have to frame it in such a way where I don't care either way, and it's totally safe for her. In this instance I'll say something like-
"Hey, I'm meeting a friend in about 45 minutes, but I don't have anything going on until then. You're more than welcome to come up for a few, then I have to get going."
This is on a date or whenever. Imagine yourself in her shoes, would you feel safe doing that? Yes. And as soon as you get upstairs, you start making out and one thing leads to another. A lot of these situations have the same underlying process to make them work. It's the same way when you're in a bar. You have to be sexual and show interest, but you have to be very non threatening.
Talk soon! Enjoy the winter bro
Oh also a key on texting-especially on the first text, only GIVE value, never expect a response. Anything with a question mark should be thrown out. For example a good first text would be-
"Wow, crazy night. Hope yours went as well as mine. Ciao."
instead of
"Hey, how was your night? Did you have fun?"
Never expect a response. She will be 10x more likely to gain interest and intrigue from the first text. Other examples are-
Some funny retarded line. I like to use-
"Wow...a blue whale's tongue weighs as much as an elephant. You've gotta love animal planet on the lunch break."
Anything you read under a snapple cap is good. Search snapple cap facts. Girls eat that shit up. At that point she will start showing a lot of interest and pursuing you, asking you questions, and you automatically gain a lot of value. The key to becoming valuable is constantly giving value and expecting nothing in return.
Peace! And merry Christmas bro.
Chris