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Author:  cfuzion [ Mon Nov 16, 2009 2:03 am ]
Post subject:  stuck in a strange love triangle dilemma
so i've been talking to this girl for about a month now and we've gotten extremely close, well recently i've gone to a party on a saturday night that my friend was having and she wanted to see me that night but i didnt go. she had to babysit that night. well after she finished babysitting she left to go to a party and reconnected with an old mate of hers and i wasnt there because i was still at some other party. that night she changed from the person that used to send me texts telling me how much she liked me all the time to barely texting me because of him.

but the following sunday, she returned to her oldself and flirted with me often. she then reveals to me that she is in a love triangle with this other guy and she has both the same feelings for me and him. i told her to make up her mind and to tell me when she does. i tried my best to follow pua guidelines like ignoring her but i think it didnt work this time around. it really fucked it up. i ignored her on friday night because she sent a text to me that just said "hi" and then on saturday night she texts me again and tells me to never talk to her again, to never call her , text her, aim her w/e and then blocks me on AIM as well.

I need to make this right because after all of the women i chased and dated, she has to be the hottest and the best to be around and i want to start a relationship with her. But now there arent just anything out there that would help my situation out. Can anyone help me?
Author:  TheJ [ Mon Nov 16, 2009 3:02 pm ]
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"Make up your mind" is going to translate to "I'm a wussy and will do whatever to please you" in her mind. The best thing you could have done is tell her to date that other guy, they seem so perfect for each other and that you where bad influence for her anyhow.

Right now she is testing you. Trying to see how fast/far you'll chase. Prove your value, date other women. Let jalousy make it's work.

Good luck
Author:  Energy_ [ Mon Nov 16, 2009 10:50 pm ]
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"Make up your mind" is going to translate to "I'm a wussy and will do whatever to please you" in her mind. The best thing you could have done is tell her to date that other guy, they seem so perfect for each other and that you where bad influence for her anyhow.

Right now she is testing you. Trying to see how fast/far you'll chase. Prove your value, date other women. Let jalousy make it's work.

Good luck
I totally agree with this.

cfuzion:
Why do you think she has a need to have more then one guy around?
It could be she has a very open view on relationships... but
its probably a sign of her being needy for attention and comfort.
Use that knowledge when you game her.
If you can somehowe get her to understand what a great fucking life you are living and how your obviosly do fine without the fears she has...
your value will go up.
And BOOOM- she wants you.

Dont be needy. Dont act as if you wanne own her. She'll go away and never come back.
Say: "Hey.. whatever you wanne do. The worst thing for me right now would be to have stalker..."
Author:  cfuzion [ Wed Nov 18, 2009 5:40 pm ]
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the ignore advice won't work, shes the type that if you start ignoring, she'll never ever talk back. it was hard enough as it is to get her to text me first daily, it would be too hard to ignore her and expect her to do that again.

so heres my current standing with her:
we've become friends again
she unblocked me off aim and started talking to me again
i have to initiate conversation once more
shes unsure of how she feels about me
but in turn i try to give out mixed signals

so with all of this in mind, what is the best advice for me now?
Author:  Energy_ [ Wed Nov 18, 2009 10:25 pm ]
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You need to control the frame, step by step.

Basic rule for you right now:
She has to give you something, before you return anything.

Dont ignore her, instead teach her how she needs to treat you.

Lets say she said she would call you later, and doesnt.
Dont ignore that.
Call her up, say: Hey, just calling to say I've other plans for tonight.
Its not a big deal. You dont need her. You'd like to be with her, but you dont have too. HUUGE diffrence.

Then it wouldnt hurt to take the pressure of her for a while.
If she thinks you NEED her she'll be turned off by the fact if she isnt in fact
inlove with you. (Doesnt seem that way...)

So:
-Make her think you have realised you only wanne be friends with her
(the underline you should get her to think about is: whats wrong with me?)
Of course this must seem very honest.

-Start sarging new girls, perhaps a quality girl she knows of

-When you finally find yourself in isolation with her its possible for you to start gaming her again. But its only possible if you really disqualified yourself by just wanting to be friends.
If you put her in a state where she thinks you're not attracted by her, she will wounder why. And in order for you two to get it on again you need a fresh start.
Your chance is to build a new relation with her.
Find unknown simularities between you and create a feeling of "Love and second sight..."

Theese are my thoughts. Probably a bitch to pull of in real life.
Author:  cfuzion [ Thu Nov 19, 2009 6:31 am ]
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its a challenge, but thanks A LOT for responding. i haven't talked to her yet, but i dont know how often i should since its going to take her time to be able to talk to me like she once did. I have to start from scratch because now she doesn't contact me first anymore, i had to always contact her first and finally got her to always contact me first but ever since what happened, it seems like its a task now.
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