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Author:  desertfox565 [ Tue Oct 13, 2009 10:50 am ]
Post subject:  1 year in game, made a mistake, what to do?
Hey guys,

This month marks my one year in game. I have grown and changed so much, though I'm still not the guy who's in full control of my dating life. There are times that I see a beautiful girl and didn't approach her because of excuses that I made inside my head. Yet I learned fast, if only I practiced more just like all of you guys do, I'd become much much better.

I met about 15 girls (I know that's very few) for the last 1 year. Some of them are the ones that I won't even believe I could attract. But after all of those, I still liked the very first girl I approached. The first girl I approached with AFC Adam's simple method.

Since the time I met that girl, I met more and more girls, and I keep changing. My game got better, I became better at socializing, but still this one girl is the one that suits me the best... YET. This girl will change her character and behavior for me, yet she play games and won't make it easier for me. She likes me, but she wants to hold her reputation. Something common in girls.

I started to write down my standards in my cellphone notes last week and I recognized that about 70% of these qualities are already inside this girl. Things that I don't find in other 14 girls. I know I could meet somebody who's cooler, but still things with this girl is different. We shared sooo many things in common, that I also can't find in other 14 girls. Severe one-itis, eh?

If only we can meet up for once more time, I know she'd be mine. We only hung out once (and that's after 6 months of persistence and logistics dealing!). She's moody but in a very tolerable level, which I actually found out in the community, is common.

Now this girl is very closed about her private life e.g guys she like and she only shares it with her sisters, though they're very far away, so her friends can't help me much either, but tell me that there are big chance that she loves me.

But,she shared all private things that she doesn't share even with her closest friends. She even asked me to build her confidence. Now you guys will think that these will lead to LJBF speech, which I also think that there's big chance of it too, but I realized it's like one of the characteristics in breakthrough comfort that Sinn had developed.

Now, our relationship is about long distance relationship, because she's far away in another province in my country. 4 days earlier, I added her friend in Facebook, and we had a great chat, and jokingly told her that my girls should be more confident in the front of a man.

Apparently, I made a very big mistake that "being awkward in the front of a man" is a very big insecurity that she has, and she only shares with very few people, including me, that even her closest friend doesn't know. And bad thing is that, I made it into a joke!! I can imagine how she feels though.

So last night she asked me in MSN and I know she's upset about this, so I told her "hey, let's talk about this later, when you feel calmer, OK? I know that I made a mistake. Bye ;)". I know it's useless because in that time, her head is hot and wouldn't be able to see things clearly.

Am I doing the right thing,guys?

Thanks a lot guys

Best pal,
Steven ;)

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Author:  Compliments [ Tue Oct 13, 2009 6:07 pm ]
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She's in a different province and YOU added HER on facebook.

Already you're showing too much interest.

You should assume that she's with other men right now. You need to focus on other women at this point. Men and Women will 'creep' a photo album that appears on their news feed if it appears interesting to them. If you're tagged in photos or posting pics with you and some nerdy guy friends sitting around playing video games with no attractive women around she'll know you're just another Average Frustrated Chump.

If on the other hand your profile indicates that you're pre-selected by other women... Photos, wall posts and tagged pictures indicating that that you're a fun guy with options other than her. She will take notice.

70% is a good match... But is she into you? If the answer is no then she's far from perfect.

Personally I wouldn't even apologize to her. Being awkward IS a turn-off. You're not insulting her by telling her that you're turned off by awkwardness. You're simply stating fact. Sounds like she's being over sensitive.

I would tell her, "I was a bad boy, and I deserve a spanking." Put a little 'wink' smiley face and that's it.
Author:  desertfox565 [ Sat Oct 17, 2009 4:17 pm ]
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Hey compliments,

Thank you so much for your opinion on this matter, and I should say it'll work in normal situation, if only the girl's nature is a little bit MORE playful than now. I got to say she's quite sexual and playful, but when I took some time to calibrate to the situation, I find that it's this girl's nature that is sensitive. There are times that I teased her so hard and she still accepts it, but I recognized that it's a secret that she trusted to me to keep, and I made it into a joke! What a bad boy I am. :)

I know everybody will say "move on", but still I want to leave the girl in the positive state. As positive as it could be. I've tried to apologize with no response. I think I'll just wait.

Guys, please tell me if I'm doing it wrong, it'll help me to make the decision and correct my mistakes.

Best pal,
Steven ;)
Author:  Musterion [ Sun Oct 18, 2009 8:24 pm ]
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When she told you she feels awkward in front of a man, she is crying out for you to jump on that opportunity to connect with her by saying something like "You don't need to feel awkward infront of me" there may be an opportunity to do this again but for now you need to re-build comfort, just keep things a little simpler and slightly even generic and build back into the playfulness. Try to get away from this topic because right now she only has negative feelings associated with it, eventually I think she may bring it back up so if/when she does just say something like what I said earlier then quickly get off the topic again.

I don't think it's time to move on just yet, you can recover from this. There is no point going "i made a mistake, oh well i'll just give up on this and start over again" you are always going to make mistakes, it's how you deal with them that counts though. Don't get hung up over this girl, still go out and meet new ones but don't disregard her completely.

Hope this helps.

Musterion
Author:  desertfox565 [ Fri Oct 23, 2009 2:54 pm ]
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When she told you she feels awkward in front of a man, she is crying out for you to jump on that opportunity to connect with her by saying something like "You don't need to feel awkward infront of me" there may be an opportunity to do this again but for now you need to re-build comfort, just keep things a little simpler and slightly even generic and build back into the playfulness. Try to get away from this topic because right now she only has negative feelings associated with it, eventually I think she may bring it back up so if/when she does just say something like what I said earlier then quickly get off the topic again.

I don't think it's time to move on just yet, you can recover from this. There is no point going "i made a mistake, oh well i'll just give up on this and start over again" you are always going to make mistakes, it's how you deal with them that counts though. Don't get hung up over this girl, still go out and meet new ones but don't disregard her completely.

Hope this helps.

Musterion

This one suits the situation the best. There are times that we also fought, but we still get managed to reconciled. I"ll try one more time.

So guys, it's been a week and I think her mood could be more chilled now, what's the best way to re-open?? Need you guys opinion..

Thanks

Best pal,
Steven ;)
Author:  Cowboy_09 [ Mon Nov 02, 2009 2:38 am ]
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You think she loves you?

Dude with all due respect, you are fucking crazy if you think this is the case.
It doesnt sound like she is giving you anything at all.
I stick by a strict system, if they are too much trouble its straight on to the next. You have already wasted months here.
Go out, get more girls and once you do that she will want you more anyway
Author:  desertfox565 [ Wed Nov 04, 2009 10:11 am ]
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You think she loves you?

Dude with all due respect, you are fucking crazy if you think this is the case.
It doesnt sound like she is giving you anything at all.
I stick by a strict system, if they are too much trouble its straight on to the next. You have already wasted months here.
Go out, get more girls and once you do that she will want you more anyway
Heya man,

In my opinion, no man has full authority to 100% says that a girl loves him until the point that the girls says it by herself. And she doesn't say it, so I can't literally say that she loves me.. Only God knows :)

In my personal experience, there are times that when I didn't give it up easily and things start to get better by itself, which I also think is funny and non-sense. Some guys might say that I'm a drama guy, which is about 50% right. Haha...

Still, I really respect your opinion, bro. U got strict rule and solid personality. ;)

More advices coming?

Best pal,
Steven ;)
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