Guys, i've decided to start posting my text game as this is one of my biggest sticking points. I never know when to respond positively, neg, break rapport or reward via texting. I hope some feedback from you guys will help. Please dissect my text game and let me know where/why you would respond this or that way. Parentheses denote my thinking at the time.
GIRL 1:
Me: Hey Agnes, it was cool meeting you tonight. I gotta admin, you're pretty good dancer
Hb: he he
thanks. but i can't feel my feet today. I'm gonna sleep all day todayMe: Hey sleepy head, get up!, who's gonna make me breakfast?
Hb: No way!, do it yourself. No sexism!
Me: That's it!, i want a divorce!
Hb: Divorce?, oh really. i'm going to make myself an omlet
Me: Yes divorce!, don't worry, you will get our cats and i'll keep the house
Hb: After so many years together, how dare you!. Take the cats as well, i hate cats!
Me: Oh, and another thing, i had an affair with our maid. and yes,.. i know about you and Enrique
Hb: Maid?, have you no shame?, at least Enrique is so romantic. How did we ever get here?
Me: Well, it all started with your feminist ideas..and i thought i was marrying an angel
Hb: Angels are from heaven...i burned my omlet
Me: heh dork. maybe you should take a cooking class along with your acting (she studies acting). We would avoid all these arguments. And i would get my breakfast!
Hb: oh, no can do...the fridge is empty.
Me: Time to call home for supplies (she lives with a roomate/student). And i thought you were an independent type.
Hb: Definitely, i'm gonna have to do some shopping today. How are you with cooking?
Me: it all depends on who i'm cooking for. And yes, i can make an omlet
Hb: Super, you have to teach me then. I gotta run, ttly
Day 2:
Me: You poped into my head, so hi, now stay outta there
Hb: Hey, it's so nice that you've texted me. I'm reading a book and i'm so bored! what are you doing?
Me: On the way back home from a little trip..what book are you reading?
Hb: Wilbur Smith "the seventh scroll' about ......You're still on the way home?
Me: Sounds interesting. yep!, still driving. Are you a good swimmer?
(I thought i would go into different thread)
Hb: Yeah, my mother teaches swimming at school. I'm a great swimmer
Me; Nice!, i guess i'm ok. I wanted to go swimming in the lake today but i'm afraid of sea lions.
(I was making a joke here, wanted to tease her a little)
Hb: Where did you see sea lions?
Me: heh, i didn't, just a joke..dork. I always wanted to live the by sea
Hb: You definitely should go then. it's awesome!, oh, if you want, on sunday i could take you to this party i'm going to. wanna come?. I gotta run now, my friends are coming over.
Me: cool. as long as you're entertaining
Day 3:
Hb: sorry i didn't get to you earlier but i had a crazy night
Me: np. i went running and then met up with some friends.
Hb: Yeah, we had a blast in my apartment
Me: you're such a party girl. it's kinda cool though. I like women who like to have fun. Are you good at shopping?
(i was thinking i would seed a day 2 here)
Hb: I hate shopping. All this browsing in the store just gets me really hyper heh. why?, do you like shopping?
Me: And to think i was going to make you my personal shopping assistant. I love to shop!, I need to get some tshirts. any recommendations?
Hb: I could go with you but if i get bored i'm gonna start nagging so you better not get mad at me.
(wasn't sure if it would be good to tease her on HER asking me out, so i just played along)
Me: No, i'll just replace you heh, or send you to kids corner for 'time out'
Hb: he he, nice!, i'm waiting for my friend at the bus stop
Me: Look behind you!, quick!
Hb: i don't see anything
Me: made you look. do you always follow direction that well? I thought you were rebellious.
(Not sure but i may have been to harsh here, what do you guys think?)
Hb: I thought you were here and i didn't see you
Me: No. that would be really creepy!, to follow someone..i had that happen to me once..some girl was following me. you don't do that do you?
(i was thinking i would qualify here a bit)
Hb: no
Me: That's positive. I'm making you my new friend.
Hb: he he, cool. my friend is here. i'll talk to you tomorrow about sunday ok?, have a good day :-*
Me: cool, but no kissing on the first date. i need lots of love and comfort first
Hb: that was a friendly kiss
GIRL 2:
Me: Hey Anna, it was cool meeting you tonight. It was so random to meet someone who actually smiles on the bus.
Hb: My Pleasure Wink, i'm shocked that u texted me. have a good night and i hope you're at home by now..ANNA
Me: You seemed cool, but didn't your mom not to tell you not to talk to strangers on the bus?
Hb: You seemed nice too, so i was sure that u wouldn't do anything crazy. but you're right, mom did tell me XXXXX times.
Me: Nice?, heh. i would totally corrupt you if you only knew me. can you cook?
Hb: No chance to corrupt me..And no, i can't. i hate to cook
Me: Shoot!, i wanted a breatkfast. but now you are so fired as my personal chef. I guess i will have to settle for some MacDonalds.
Hb: buuu, how sad. you fired me and now i'm crying. besides, you should make something yourself without any help, you're a big boy.
Me: true, but i hate eating alone, wanna meet you for coffee later? (i know, i should have said that i'm going and she should join here)
Hb: I'm working today. i can't And u can eath and watch tv. no more loneliness heh
Me: Smartass
Hb: U think ?
Day 2:
Me: U popped into my head, so Hi!, no stay out of there
Hb: uuu, how scary but i'm like a virus. you just can't protect yourself
Me: I mean, it's my head you know. I need my privacy. u don't wanna know what's there
Hb: heh, it's too late..but i'm not scared at all. you're just a man, it can't be that bad.
Me: just a man??, you have no idea missy
hb: so tell me..i like to know what's in your head...it's for my research hehe.
Me: bullshit!, you're one tricky girl. i knew you were trouble the minute i met you.
Hb: men are the tricky ones..i'm so innocent. Maybe i just wanna know who's the stranger from the bus :p
Me: I'm europhreak. i'm crazy fun, i skydive, basejump, swim with sharks and drag race. i may be to big of a challenge for you, you may not be able to handle it.
Hb: you're not a challenge, you're just a boy with risky lifestyle. it's cool. and i'm not giving up easily
Me: cool. at first i wasn't so sure about you but now i'm kinda curious who Anna is.
Hb: I'm Anna, i'm a little childish, but sometimes maybe too mature. i'm lazy and i can sleep all day. i can't swim but i'm learning and i'm not gonna give up till i do. I'm stubborn and i hate to lose. I'm mean to others. SO, as you can see i'm a bad girl.
Me: It's only our second date and i already know so much about you. I like it. but we need to slow things down. i need lots of love and comfort first.
Hb: how serious. everyone needs lots of love not only you
. hehe, a date by a text message doesn't count but it's funny. You're crazy.