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Author:  desertfox565 [ Wed Jun 03, 2009 3:20 am ]
Post subject:  Telling her about my feelings???
Hey guys,

I've been approaching the girl I really like for the last 8 months, and she's the reason why I quit meeting new girls and focusing on her. I'm thinkin about closing the deal and tell her about my feelings, at least after that I know what she really thinks about me and able to move on.

So what I want to ask to you guys is that, what should I do?? Do I have to give her the time limit?? Most of my experienced friend says (they're don't know about game, and not the ladies man type but, at least they have more experience than I do), after I tell her about my feeling, I shouldn't talk about her answer, but at the end of our meeting, I should give her time limit. Maybe 3-4 days. What do you guys think??? Let me know.

Best pal,
Steven ;)
Author:  tweeby [ Wed Jun 03, 2009 8:05 am ]
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8 months! Fuck me. That's a long time.This has got a real good chance of
Attraction is built within the first 15 minutes of interaction. If you've never kino'ed or flirted with her this has 'train wreck' written all over it.
Author:  erttfgukh2345600 [ Thu Jun 04, 2009 4:11 am ]
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8 months, wtf? I hope you've fucked her already, otherwise this is just insane One-Itis.
Author:  delmontebanana [ Thu Jun 04, 2009 8:59 am ]
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Please tell me this is a troll post...
Author:  [Vegas] [ Thu Jun 04, 2009 12:19 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Telling her about my feelings???
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Hey guys,

I've been approaching the girl I really like for the last 8 months, and she's the reason why I quit meeting new girls and focusing on her.
After 8 months are you sure she sees you as more than just friends? Have you been hooking up or have you ever been sexual? There's a chance that after 8 months she sees you as just a close "best friend" and not an option anymore.
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Most of my experienced friend says (they're don't know about game, and not the ladies man type but, at least they have more experience than I do), after I tell her about my feeling, I shouldn't talk about her answer, but at the end of our meeting, I should give her time limit. Maybe 3-4 days. What do you guys think??? Let me know.
Shouldn't talk about her answer with who? If you are on the topic with her, why would you just randomly change the subject after starting to talk about a possible relationship? I wouldn't give her a limit either. If she agrees to a relationship instantly, great, no need to wait. If she declines one, fine, move on. It's a yes or no option, so if she says she has to think about it, why date someone who is unsure if they are into you? That means she's just going out with you for the sake of going out with you and there is no emotion or anything behind it.
Author:  bitchcone [ Thu Jun 04, 2009 12:45 pm ]
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hey im in same situation sort off so ill try relate..

been my school since yr 9, was ugly fuck with pimples, so fashion sense.. and i never spoken to this girl cause she was in the popular group and was way to shy to speak to... since start of last year when i got in a good group of mates i have changed heaps in appearance and have gotten better at talking to girls and so on.. i then for the first time spoke to this girl last year and we somehow got off amazingly and i started to like her, but i never told her how i felt and eventually it dragged on until i met another girl who i went out with for a while.
i didnt speak to this girl much for a few months and when i broke up with gf start of the year i started talking to her again and we pretty much are currently best friends and everyone is pressuring me to go next step...

BUT.. i havnt told her i liked her yet

we have never kissed although have slept in a bed numerous times together before i started getting attracted to her, so i have recieved many IOIs but never had the balls to kiss..

im hoping that you like her and dont have an obsession because if she thinks you are she is less likely to talk to you...

take her out on the weekend say you want to chill, and maybe do the old, we have been friends for a long time and i have started to like you and hope we can be more then friends

if she wants to then their you go, if she says not she will say lets keep friends which isnt bad option but will give you an oppurtunity to move onto other girls
Author:  desertfox565 [ Thu Jun 04, 2009 1:33 pm ]
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Hey guys,

Thanks for the advices coming. I've seen so much useful opinion from all of you guys. The "bomb" will be dropped in the next 2 days, so she must be prepared. :)

Well, first things first, because of the cultural differences, we can't have sex and just leave with the woman have no guilty feelings in my country. You can't just "test the water" here in Indonesia. The girl will chase you and think that you have feelings toward them, therefore it's difficult for you to have random sex as many as you can, unless the girl is a super bitchy. Usually the girls you get from clubs are up to this kind of relationships. But if you get the girl from a daygame, u can't do this, or the circumstances I've mentioned will apply (My friend is a good example of this)

And second, if the girls needs to think about the answer first, it is mostly because of the social pressure that is common in my country that if a girl accepts the "bomb" in the moment I told her about my feeling, she will be considered easy. That's why they need to think about it. And if they really have no feeling for me, they'll reject it that exact moment.

8 months, yeah that's damn long!! I should confess, if it's not because of her inner quality, I won't bother gaming her. I enjoy the 8 months of chasing her. The result, I don't really care. Because she rejects me, I can be free and I'll meet more and more woman. I just want to close the deal with her. That's all, guys

Thanks for the advices, more opinion coming, feel free to post

Best pal,
Steven ;)
Author:  [Vegas] [ Thu Jun 04, 2009 6:57 pm ]
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Well, first things first, because of the cultural differences, we can't have sex and just leave with the woman have no guilty feelings in my country. You can't just "test the water" here in Indonesia.

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And second, if the girls needs to think about the answer first, it is mostly because of the social pressure that is common in my country that if a girl accepts the "bomb" in the moment I told her about my feeling, she will be considered easy. That's why they need to think about it.
Ah, I respect that. My apologies for not considering that the situation could take place in another culture.

Well, you said you would "drop the bomb" in the next few days, so I say that's great you are going for it and I look forward to hearing how it went.
Author:  tweeby [ Thu Jun 04, 2009 7:49 pm ]
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Regardless of cultural differences you should know 'the game' is universal.

So I call that BS. You don't have to fuck her, but you can still do all the rest.

OK so when you ask her, the question and she rejects you, which is probably most likely - at least you will have closure.

Stranger things have happened though, and she might reciprocate, but in my opinion I'd prepare myself for that feeling where you 'just want the world to swallow you up.'

Good luck.
Author:  rainbow77 [ Sat Jun 06, 2009 2:53 pm ]
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Yo man. I don't know how things are back there in Indonesia but 8 months is 8 months. I'm sure once you've let her go or whatever. You'll feel a lot better man. I was kind of like in your situation too. Just always remember man that you should be the one making the girl chase you. In fact, there are more women than men in the world so we should be the ones being picky. But hey, whatever makes you happy. Good luck man! Cheers!
Author:  desertfox565 [ Mon Jun 08, 2009 11:41 am ]
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Hey guys,

Here's the result of the "bomb". So 3 days ago, I was texting the girl, asked her out do some fun (and to "drop the bomb" when we meet) but she said that she can't make it that day, because that day she's going to a wedding ceremony. So I just text her back and "OK, then. Who knows you'll get the handbouquet and the next lucky girl to get married. ;) Hey, how's ur eyes, recovered already? ". And then she text back " LOL.. Well, if there's anything like that. In our country, there's no handbouquet throw,right? Well yes, my eyes got recovered already, thanks for ur concern. Good nite, tepen <---- (her nickname for me).

2 days later, I text her "Hey Marshie <---- (my nickname for her), how's yesterday? U got the bouquet?".
HB: "Well yeah!!! How did u know?? I have to find a husband for me now. XD I'm just kidding. Haha.. Well yeah, I never got it before, but this time the groom is a Western guy, so there's something like this. Then when the singles and the youths were called to the front, I didn't go for it. I'm too young for that. :) (Both of us are in HS)

It's the time!! 2 points: 1. I have to find a husband for me now. XD I'm just kidding. Haha.. (LOL..Why should she say I'm just kidding?? Means that she cares about what I says?)
2. Then when the singles and the youths were called to the front, I didn't go for it. (self-explanatory ;) )

So I tried to bait her with: "So why didn't you go for it?? It's good for you if u can hook up with some handsome guys, isn't it? Or do u already like somebody else? :) But wait.. This is kinda big of a secret, so after u tell me, I'll tell u about my secret
2 hours later she replied: "Hahaha.. Why should I tell you? Who are you? Haha.. Well, u tell me first, then I'll tell u, that's d deal."

Now u might think that this is very stupid, but I let my "natural friend" to do the rest. I just wanted to know how he plays the game. He replied with this.

Another Me (AM): Well this is a secret, but I think I should tell u now and I should only tell u. I can't keep the secret anymore that I love you. And I hope that I could be the "u" on ur Facebook status (OMG needy!!). How about u?:) (few days before she wrote on her FB status "I wish I could shout to d world that I luv U, but I just can't)
Her: Whhaat??! I don't understand. What Facebook status? Are you kidding or what? Haha.. XD
AM: It's up to u whether u want to take it as a joke, but honestly I never thought about this before, so I hope that u can understand what I've said. Not because another people, but it's FROM ME.
Her: Umm, I still don't understand. So u're "dropping the bomb" to me?? Whew.. You're not romantic at all, doing this via text. Haha.. Kidding :P. But umm... but I've no feelings for you. We're just friends. Besides we just met twice, how come can u love me??
AM: I'm not dropping the bomb. I'm just telling what I'm feeling right now. And the number "2" doesn't matter to me, but what I got from those 2 meetings make me so. So here's what I'm feeling right now.
Her: Ahh, sorry then. Haha.. So that's why I told u that I don't understand :3 Even until now I stil don't understand :3 Well, what I can say is thank you. LOL.. OK then, good nite tepen. ;)


Now is this a shit test??? Or it's true that she has no feelings for me? My natural friend told me to leave it for few days, just behave like there's nothing happened, text her as usual. The purpose is to let her forget the "bomb" and she has no preparations to give more test. And then ask her out for fun, and strike like the thunder that I want to explain things

PS: U can say that the text is just to measure her interest. ;)

Best pal,
Steven ;)
Author:  rainbow77 [ Tue Jun 09, 2009 2:31 am ]
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One, something tells me that she just ain't the girl for you man. I mean it's been 8 months. Plus the way she reacted to what your friend said. I don't like what he said though I don't think that was a good move. It is quite irrational to admit to a girl that you love her after just meeting twice yeah?

I think you shouldn't have let your "natural" friend do the talking man. He was too straight forward for me. You gotta let the attraction build man. And it has to come from you. Let's say, she did like what your friend said, even if she clearly wouldn't, then she'd be falling in love with his words.

If I were in your your place I'd move on. But it's really up to you buddy. Just wait and see what happens. There are so many girls out there waiting for you.

Good luck man!
Author:  desertfox565 [ Sat Jun 13, 2009 12:38 am ]
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One, something tells me that she just ain't the girl for you man. I mean it's been 8 months. Plus the way she reacted to what your friend said. I don't like what he said though I don't think that was a good move. It is quite irrational to admit to a girl that you love her after just meeting twice yeah?

I think you shouldn't have let your "natural" friend do the talking man. He was too straight forward for me. You gotta let the attraction build man. And it has to come from you. Let's say, she did like what your friend said, even if she clearly wouldn't, then she'd be falling in love with his words.

If I were in your your place I'd move on. But it's really up to you buddy. Just wait and see what happens. There are so many girls out there waiting for you.

Good luck man!

Bingo man!! That's what I kinda regret now. His talking doesn't really make sense to me, I don't know maybe it's because we have different style of playing the game. Well, I should confess that he's much more advanced, because he's already learning how to approach women since 3 years ago (not via the community, but just natural and hard long road of making mistakes, learn and fixing stuffs, which we should compliment :)

Now a little bit problem is that I can't play it in my style now, it was too direct and now I can't play indirect anymore. But still, it's a challenge for me to continue. I'll post up the result for you guys after I meet her again.

Thanks

Best pal,
Steven ;)
Author:  kcdclan [ Sat Jun 13, 2009 10:49 am ]
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Dude you need to leave that... work on your gamming..
That is bad news man... nothing in 8 mon... ya.
Author:  desertfox565 [ Sun Jun 14, 2009 11:18 am ]
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Yep thanks for all the advices guys! That's actually my mindset. If I failed this time, I'll game like there's no tomorrow. I mean just meet more and more people. Too gamey and I'll sacrifice my study. Hahaa... But that's the only bad thing about game I think. The rest are good.

Well,I'll just enjoy the ride and see what happens. Wish me luck guys!!

Best pal,
Steven ;)
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