Not really sure if this fits into the Closing and Day 2 category but I think it's best to put this here. I'm new to this forum so i'd like to first start off with some background with this new girl situation i've found myself in. Would really appreciate your guys thoughts.
I was introed to this girl (let's call her GirlGirl) once at a club. Grinded wit her a little bit... but chalked it up to plutonic fun... didn't ask for number... didn't really act on anything.
Month later, Was asked to come chill by this other girl who I met at another bar.. who I'm pretty sure is into me... But I'm not into her at all. She just happens to know GirlGirl and brought her along. We went for a bite/drinks and I negged GirlGirl all night. Thought it was pretty successful. Got a FB add that night.
So we started msging eachother on FB. Lookin back I threw some good negs, mixed with some really AFC shit. But those early conversations she did call me "really funny" (IOI?) and seemed to be trying to DHV me (she kept saying how focused she is on school, I always neg her on being a drunken fool). One night we were having a back and forth convo... I felt like playin hard to get so told her I'm going to sleep in mid convo.
Week later she reinitiates. She calls me a mean person (negging me?), I brush it off. Convo continues a couple days. I mention I partied last weekend.. she asks me if I was out there hitting on little girls (shit test?). All this kind of turned me into an AFC, trying to defend myself and so forth. She did ask me what I was doing next weekend though, I told her I was staying in... cause I was. Later she mentions she watched a movie with a dude... I was like is that your boyfriend jokingly. And she responds saying that he is just a good gay friend... so that's a good sign. Weekend arrives again, she tells me I should come to the club Saturday, I said I would, she then gave me her number so that I could text her when I'm there.
Saturday club night. I arrive, she's PLENTY drunk. She hugs me, we have a convo, we have some shots. Her and her gf makeout in fronta me and my wing when asked to. She even put her leg up on me at one point. And whilst partying i did ask for a kiss jokingly, she played it off. She was kind all over the place that night though... like talkin to many guys. It was like a group clubbing thing everyone seemed to know eachother that night. LATER on an AMOG comes up starts hitting on her buying drinks. I did'nt want to chase, so I ignored it. Payed no attention and just chilled wit my friends. After the club I text her that I'm going partying after with some of our mutual friends I guess we knew. She says she wants to come, BUT those plans got cancelled so we never met up.
She texts me the next day. We text now alot. Eventually I mention I need to do some baby sitting. She tells me she'd like to come along, I play it off like she probably wouldnt be good wit kids. Then she's like no I'm great with kids. Whatever. So she comes along when I babysat my little cousin at the mall. It was kind of a weird day, I was tired and really focused on the kid. We have some convos. I just kept up my negging and didn't really progress anything. She does txt me later on that night that I better come drink tomorrow.
NEXT night is critical. Saturday now shes told me to come clubbing. I ditch out, since i didn't feel like drinking that day. In fact I msg her Saturday during the day and get a no reply. Sunday now, I ask her how it was last night, she says I'm gay for not coming. Then she stops responding.
I didn't want to reinitiate. So I wait a whole week and we don't text AT ALL. Friday hits and I break the silence. I ask her if shes goin out this weekend she says she isn't but we had a good text convo. Saturday now, she asks ME if I'm going out. I say I am, she calls me to see where I'm going. I tell her to come to this club, she's like K i guess but I hate it there. Now... she calls me at like 1230.. tells me she's in line. I tell her I'm not there yet ( i got held up wit something). I got to the club really late.. like right before it closed. We had a shot, a fleeting convo and she had to go, she DID tell me to come eat lunch with her and her friends tomorow. I told her I'm going somewhere after. She texts me later on asks me to tell her where I'm going. I tell her, but she says she has to sleep now.
K Sunday now, I slept in cause I was out all night. So I miss lunch. Texted her at night... asked how lunch was and I was really hungover... and got a NO REPLY.
So this is where I stand now. Don't know where to go from here. I'm getting mixed signals, and I FEEL like I've played her off too many times and she's doing the same to me. Like a vicious cycle. I also don't want to go AFC and start chasing her. But also do not want to continue the cycle...
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