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Author:  nosferatu [ Fri Mar 27, 2009 6:52 am ]
Post subject:  TONS of mixed signals, thoughts?

so i met this chick last summer, we met through mutual friends, saw each other on ocassion more and more the past few months, the past few weeks she's been coming over to hang out/drink beer/make dinner/listen to records.

she's had a boyfriend which she is still living with, of which she broke up with a few weeks ago. we hung out after they broke up and she told me the whole story whatever.

i went out of town for a week and tonight was the first time we met up. she was texting me all day and i was being super flirty (as always). i told her about this cool bar close to my house and she asked if it was classy. i responded along the lines of "you know how we do. i've got a suit, i hope you've got a cute little black dress". when i picked her up, she was SUPER pumped to see me and kept hugging me stronger than she ever has before.

we go to said bar. good times, constant conversation and very friendly. i definitely kino escalated throughout the night. during our time at the bar she tells me more about her ex-bf situation (shes still living with him, seperate rooms) which is f-ed up and i can understand it's weighing a lot on her mind. she mentions other dudes that she's kinda seeing that are douches. and texts them and tells me what she's saying (ie: "i'm wearing heels"). she also brought up several times how she made a bet with our friend of who could make out with a dude first. so LOTS of mixed signals. but i really feel i did a great job of being a cool guy/DHV'ing/good stories/etc. HOWEVER, i really feel all these dudes in her life is already fucking her up enough, idk if i'm the answer.

by the end of the night, we're real close in the booth being real friendly. she mentions things like if i would bring her home to my mom, whatever.

walking back to my car, she asks if i can walk her back to her apartment. i agree, and my arm's around her the whole time. about to get to the door and she's saying how she had a really good time tonight and how she's glad i'm not some douche causing more drama in her life, etc.

now i really feel like i could have gotten the *close, but definitely getting totally mixed signals throughout the night. she's a really cool girl that since we've started to hang out/she had a bf, i've come to appreciate her as just a cool hot friend. but now i fear i'm getting deeper and deeper into LJBF zone. i feel from some of the things she said tonight she digs me, but really didn't feel i had enough for the close.

anyways. any advice from this? we're hanging out tomorrow again and cooking dinner, etc.

thanks so much for your help guys. i've been super AFC the past few months and really need to get back into the game. although tonight i really tried being observant and picking up signals and i'm just totally lost :(

Author:  Buccaneer [ Sun Mar 29, 2009 7:23 pm ]
Post subject:  problem

Hi Nosferatu,

see my post a little up, I have the exact same problem. Can you tell me how it went... learnt anything.

Love the share the info bro.

greetz

Bucc

Author:  samex [ Sun Mar 29, 2009 10:46 pm ]
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I was in this situation a while ago, and now that I look back, it was all very simple. It came down to a very easy question.

Do I want to make this girl my girlfriend or do I want to go around as friend to scared to ever kiss her?


So one night I said fuck it, told her straight up, A B C....she told me it wouldn't work out, and I thanked her for being honest.

Move along... lol very simple

Author:  pier39lab [ Mon Apr 06, 2009 6:49 pm ]
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Looking back at myself, I used to be a super AFC too :lol:
It really keeps you on heals specially when you're on the AFC to Recovering-AFC transition! Why? Cause you're still learning the differences between an AFC and a nonAFC.

Well, with this girl as you mention she's already living with her boyfriend and is in a cracked relationship, I would not completely show her that I'm into her by means of constantly texting her on details or striking a conversation everytime all by myself...instead I'd play it not-a-big-deal, kino escalate whenever I'd meet her and and Kiss Close ;)

On one hand, it does look like she's interested in you but it could also be that she's fishing for shoulders to cry upon... Don't show her the "I'm the guy to console you with your ex" attitude (even if she says guys treat girls like shit) or it'll be a direct door to the dreaded LJBF zone!
It's all about being plain YOURSELF!!

Author:  faiz1 [ Tue Apr 07, 2009 5:33 am ]
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hey man,
i just experienced something similar to this but not identical
just make sure ur attention is not fully towards her,
and convey ur interest ASAP if u want to go somewher.
in mi situation, turns out she did like me but i was a bit late, so
we r stilll friends but the confusion of her feelings and mine are out of the way

lol lots been on mi mind, and i dunno if this makes sense but
dun waste too much time on this one chik
make sure u go out and meet other gurls.

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