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Author:  Silence101 [ Sat Mar 14, 2009 9:12 pm ]
Post subject:  Too casual with a girl?
Hey guys - I'm a long time lurker but I have a situation that I was hoping to get some feedback on.

I work for an accounting firm - it's not a huge office, but we have about 34 employees. The company hired a new girl a few weeks ago that I've been trying to hit it off with. I don't consider myself an expert at gaming women, but I'm a decent looking guy and I generally know what AFC behavior is and how not to do it. I'm naturally C&F as well.

I've taken this new girl (HB 9.5) out to lunch once and I occasionally see her around the office and we seem to get along well. We've also talked on the phone occasionally, and it's typically easy, fun conversation. I believe there's mutual interest.

I think I may have made a mistake though, and I'm not sure how to correct it without looking needy. I'm in the process of reflooring the entry to my place and I was on the way to the store to pick up some supplies when I decided to call her to see what she was up to. I invited her to ride along with me and that it'd be fun, but I think she was a little taken back by the fact that I was asking her to run an errand with me. She didn't seem angry at all, but I had the impression that it might've come off as a bit of a let down... maybe even a turn-off if she thinks I'm just not interested in her.

I was hoping to get other's opponion on this - Do you think that I screwed up by asking her to do that, and if so, how would I recover without overplaying my hand, so to speak. I thought about trying to play it off as a joke, but I think she'd see through that. But I'd appriciate any advice that you may have.
Author:  Charlie0 [ Sat Mar 14, 2009 9:43 pm ]
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Ask her out.

Move forward, always, always, always.



Worst case scenario is that she's not interested in you in that way, and you move on and waste no more time or effort.
Author:  Silence101 [ Sun Mar 15, 2009 2:09 pm ]
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Ask her out.

Move forward, always, always, always.
Ideally, how long after that phone conversation should I wait before asking her out - if I do it right away, doesn't that come off a bit desperate?
Author:  smartass [ Sun Mar 15, 2009 4:59 pm ]
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Errands IMHO are a good opportunity for D2's and adventure dates.......

The fact that she didn't want to go demonstrates that she isn't attracted to you yet. Think about it - if a HB10 asks you to go to walmart with her, do you go??

A 9.5 is going to require a lot more work than a 7.. to me it sounds like you need to take it up a few notches. Don't call her again for a while.
Author:  Charlie0 [ Sun Mar 15, 2009 8:51 pm ]
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Ideally, how long after that phone conversation should I wait before asking her out - if I do it right away, doesn't that come off a bit desperate
You'll come off as desperate if you are desperate.

Ask her out whenever the hell you feel like. I think doing it in person would be better, it shows you have balls. Though it'd be a good idea to ask when you've put her in a good mood. Be super casual about it, "Hey, know what? *insert*. Let's grab a coffee or something after work."

Have the mindset that you're offering her a cookie. "No? Okay. Anyway, so..." and change the topic. "Okay great, let's meet up at ____ at 8. Anyway, so..." My point being, it's not a big deal.



*insert* = A light compliment about something that she's made you feel. i.e., I feel really comfortable around you, it's kind of nice. :)
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