same here dude, asked a girl out twice which i met in the bar.
both flaked for legimate reasons but in a way like: well hang out some other time.
then i just ignored her and she asked me if i wanted to hang out
im meeting her tonight
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| Author: | Ronny [ Thu Feb 19, 2009 12:58 am ] |
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Alright. Met a girl last week at a bar on Wednesday. I'm new here. First experience with some of these techniques, went great. IOI. Kino. Hooked. All the good shit I've been reading about. Now then, trying to get a date has been a slow go. I've asked her out/to hang out via text message (its the way the kids are doing it) twice now, and both times she's said no, but for actual legitimate, externally confirmable reasons (i have confirmed them), and closing with some sort of "but we should hang/go out some time!" While it may be the case that she's trying to blow me off, it's also true that she hasn't been available when I've wanted her to be. So do I go for invite number three? Do I ask her to suggest a time? Just call/text me when she's free? I'm wary that if I do the second two, she just won't bother. On the other hand, I'd really like to put the ball in her court partly so I'm not desperate-looking and just continually getting shot down (kind of) and also because it would be cool to get her to ask me out. The reason that I haven't given up here is because I was getting a really strong positive vibe from her, and hell, she's been really responsive to all my messages so far, just in the negative. |
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| Author: | LEPRECHAUN [ Thu Feb 19, 2009 1:24 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Get me this day 2 |
As you said, they were legitimate and confirmed reasons... and she said that you should hang out sometime... Call her and ask her what she is doing right now.. if she is busy, ask her when is she not going to be busy... and then tell her that you will meet her where she is at and do something with her. If she is not busy, tell her that you are coming over there right now to pick her up and are taking her to do something.. And then just hang up the phone and go over there. Don't answer the phone if she calls you back, it is her little defensive move in order to stop you from coming over there because she is a little on the nervous side of what she should wear, she has not had a chance to do her hair or some other lame ass excuse... Just don't answer the phone after you hang up with her after telling her that you are coming over there right now to pick her up. |
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| Author: | Maj [ Thu Feb 19, 2009 2:38 am ] |
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I am in this same boat here. I would try to above advice, but I think that may be a bit strange. The girl I'm working said she is busy for a legit reason and suggested another time. I said, "no worries, make some time next week or else!" She responded positively. My question is similar to the posted topic. How should I go about getting this first date, without saying I'm going to her house? No offense, but I don't think she'd like that. |
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| Author: | LEPRECHAUN [ Thu Feb 19, 2009 3:05 am ] |
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It's all about being BOLD, having balls, being a MAN, if you and the girl already have COMFORT built up with each other then you need to step up and be a pussy about getting with her. Stop pussy-footing around the situation and trying to work off of HER SCHEDULE... you're a busy guy as well, or at least this is how you need to make it appear to her... Do shit on YOUR SCHEDULE, don't be her little bitch... I know this is kind of a little OFF THE WALL, but the truth hurts sometimes. |
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| Author: | Ronny [ Thu Feb 19, 2009 3:11 am ] |
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Hey, thanks for the replies. Maj - I've been thinking about how to text her in a way that really compels her to offer me a date. I was thinking something along these lines : "Hey lemme ask you a question. Can I trust you to text me when you're free?" Ok, so that may be completely idiotic, but here's my thought process: it's evocative of some opener I read somewhere along the lines of "hey, are you friendly?" The idea is that I'm not actually asking her for a date, I'm asking her "are you trustworthy?" That is supposed to make her say yes, just as she would to the above opener, and that makes her respond to the message. The one thing, apart from potentially being a dumb line, is that I'm taking a risk by assuming that I've established enough comfort in order to even ask her if I can trust her. I think I have. It's a risk. |
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| Author: | Ronny [ Thu Feb 19, 2009 3:12 am ] |
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Leprechaun you are right. fuck this shit. |
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| Author: | AFCerik [ Thu Feb 19, 2009 3:54 pm ] |
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same here dude, asked a girl out twice which i met in the bar. both flaked for legimate reasons but in a way like: well hang out some other time. then i just ignored her and she asked me if i wanted to hang out im meeting her tonight
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