i took out a hb 8/9 about a year ago, we went 10 pin.. there are so many good op's with bowling, if she gets a strike, or you, u can give her the whole "hi 5" angle it will get some contact, and she will relax, or is she plays well run the "are you sure your not a closet bowling freak" angle also if shes completly hopeles you can neg the shit of her.. the one i did, was as she bowls, and it goes in the gutter, she will turn around with her back towards the pins, and walk back disapointed...you still looking forward, point and go "oh my god it bounces out, and you got a strike"!! , she will turn around all excited only to see your payin out, do it once though, she will think its funny, while neging her.... but my best advice is play 3 games..play the first game and loose to her, then into the second run .. "okay were warmed up, wana make it interesting, lets have a bet"
she should agree as shes still high that she won the 1st game and is having a good time.."the loser cooks the winner dinner, and the winner chooses" (it will set up a dinner date either way) the whole time while playing the game make jokes about what you feel like to eat, eg: "are you any good at cooking steak?" bit of light banter.. loose the game, and make it look like u really cared, carry one with the whole "not fair your a closet bowling champion, ive been robbed" then into the 3rd game say "RIGHT im gona try now, this time pretend to think of a bet for a while, then run "okay, the loser has to buy the bottle of wine to the diner?" (dinner is always good with wine
) try win this game so she owes you something, otherwise its easy for her to go, look dont worry about dinner and wine, you dont owe me anything.... it worked great with me, i got full close, alot of fun... good luck mate