Met this black HB 8 on the bus Friday over a week ago. I send her a message and she’s answering it. I call the next day (think it was) and we’re having a short talk, but I end up leaving the phone conversation because it was so much noise in the background. After about 2 days after that I’m
calling her again. We’re having a fun time on the phone and I ask her about going to a coffe shop on Thursday. She says she has to work on Thursday, but suggests Friday instead. I tell her that I’m going out with a buddy on Friday night.
This is the messages we sent to each other after the phone call: (I think she was playing hard to get with her messages.
Me on Thursday:
I gotta know when you can on Friday, if you can’t I’ll make plans with someone else.
HB8:
At 7PM.
Me: (I would have done it, but I already told her that I had other plans on Friday night, if I dropped those plans I would just seem too interested).
My answer:
I can’t then, it only works for me early on the day (she’s working a lot though)
HB 8:Why not? I’m working before that.
Me: I’m going out with friends then, what about Sunday?
HB8: Sunday sounds good, but there’s nothing open then or?
Me: Meet me at 1 outside byporten (place in Oslo) tomorrow
HB8: Byporten, where is that? Hehe
Me: It’s on the other side of Oslo City (well known place in Oslo)
Message I sent to her today before the meetup:
I’m a little late, I’ll see you there a quarter over 1.
By a coincident I met her on the bus when I was going home from town on Thursday night. What was kinda fucked up is that I think she saw that I was trying not to pay for the bus lol. I didn’t see her on the bus, but she shouted at me and I realized she was there. We had a very playful conversation I could see in her eyes that she wanted to have a kiss by me. During our short conversation on the bus stop she asked me if I always was that silly. I just chose to ignore that question. She also asked me why I had ignored her message, what she testing me there? When I know that it’s on with a girl it just happens that I don’t write them back.
I was going to meet her today (Sunday)and I sent her a message about me being a quarter late. However, she didn’t answer it. I showed up like 1 minute late and she wasn’t there, I then waited for about 10 minutes before I called her. On the phone she said that she had been working late and that she would be there in like 10-15 minutes. I had some problems understanding her on the phone because of her dialect, but I finally got what she was saying. When I called her I wasn’t that playful as I used to be with her. I felt that she was wasting my time.
I decided that I’ll just be in the area and that she can contact me when she’s there. That way I won’t seem that pushy. By calling I had sort of crossed the “pushy line.” After about 15-20 minutes she called me and I said that I’ll be at the location in like 5 minutes because I thought she was already there. However, she said that she asked if it was cool to meet me in 1 hour if that was okay for me. The reason was because a friend of her wanted to meet her at Oslo City (big shopping center in Norway) and that her friend was calling like krazy. She asked if I was alone (which I actually was, I was going to meet her duh. I kinda fucked up the answer here though.
Me: I’m single if that’s what you’re thinking about (I shouldn’t have answered this)
HB: No, I mean are you with someone or not?
Me: Yeah I gotta fix some stuff so I’ll meet you in like 1 hour and 5 minutes.
Was I making myself too available here lol? So I’m waiting for about 1 hour and 15 minutes, but I still don’t hear anything from her. I then decide to call her. I say that I’ll be there in 30 minutes and I ask her what she’s doing and she says she’s with her friend somewhere. I say that I’ll meet her at this placed called SShe asks if I’m alone or not and I say that I’m with a buddy of mine (just making that up, I was getting ready to meet her). Her tone now is more pissed.
HB: Why are you always telling me to come to places that I don’t know where is?
Me: You know where Oslo City is right? (trying to meet up with her in a place that she knows where is, she’s not very well known in town).
I’m then saying that it’s cool that we can’t meet up, but that it will be some time till I can come back to the city (Oslo). I actually live live somewhere else.
HB: Why didn’t you tell me that you lived somewhere else? We could’ve met before then.
I’m then trying a little bit to explain why I couldn’t meet up with her before.
I feel that I’m answering too many of her questions with long answers (like she’s testing me) so I’m just saying that someone else is calling now and that I have to go.
Right now I’m just pissed that she wasted my time. Although, I realize that this was a great learning experience, I just need to analyze this. I’m sure I could have done something better.
