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| Author: | Truskawa [ Sun Jul 31, 2016 2:59 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Is it possible to fix this? |
Hi guys, I decided to seek for your advice because I know I only got that one chance. It's quite a complicated story I have for ya. I had been in a relationship for a year and a half when I met this cute and kinda shy girl at the party. I didn't love my girlfriend at this point and I ended up talking with that girl all the time and kissing her. I'm not proud of it but who cares now. The next day she texted me and we've been texting for the whole day. Only after that did I tell her I had a girlfriend. She wasn't mad at me at all, but she ordered me to tell my girlfriend the truth or - otherwise - she would do it. However, I convinced her that it's not such a good idea. Anyway, she told me she enjoyed talking to me and want to continue it anyway. So we stayed in touch and texted each other for days. My girlfriend even found out about her and I told her it's just a new friend of mine (I'm a dick). She was jealous anyway, no wonder why. That new girl asked if I want to meet and we did twice. We were just talking, nothing happened there. It is clear to me that she liked me but still she felt bad about me cheating. A few days later we met at the houseparty thrown by our common friend. We sticked together, had fun and drunk some. For a moment, we ended up alone in a room. I couldn't help it, I went for a kiss, but somebody walked in and interrupted us. After that, she asked me what I was even thinking and that it can't be like this anymore. She told me I had to tell my girlfriend this time, finally. I did. I told her right after my girlfriend randomly bumped into us cuddling in a city a few days later. That felt like a movie scene. I wasn't expecting that to happen. She caught us in public. I finally told her the truth. My girlfriend got histerical, started yelling and walked away. A moment later me and that girl had to depart because her bus arrived. We didn't even have much time to talk about what happened but she was shocked and confused. Shortly after that I had to go abroad for a month. We stayed in touch with that girl but it wasn't the same. At the beginning it was quite ok, but then she started to be cold. She texted me and responded much less than before. It continued like that till I got back home from abroad, after a month. Then there were like three conversations when she ended up not responding or hardly responding after a few messages. I sent her a longer text asking what's going on and telling her to be honest because I could clearly see something was wrong and I didn't like it like that. That's exactly what I texted to her. She responded me that she likes me, but she feels a wall between us that's pushing her away. I said 'Thanks for being honest, I just don't like running after somebody'. I got a response that she can do nothing about it. Since that we've had no contact for two weeks. Untill yesterday. I randomly asked her about some aspect of her life, sent her a photo of me and a friend of mine and we did a little smalltalking but - again - the conversation was dead after a while! I want this girl but my current situation is shitty because we haven't seen each other for nearly two months and all I can do is text her on Facebook. After this time there is barely a bond between us and I fucked. Do you guys think there is still some possibility to fix this? If yes, then what move should I make now? It seems like a hard task because all that time made it stale. During the time we hung out she clearly liked me, she was the one asking me out, but she felt wrong about it. After my girlfriend caught us, it's been cold. I can assume she rejects me on a logical level, but the problem is that some time passed and there is not much of an emotional bond there once was (we used to text each other day-long). Needless to say my girlfriend is now my ex-girlfriend. Forgive me my English, it's not my native language. I hope I chose the right section. |
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| Author: | JackZero [ Sun Jul 31, 2016 4:34 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Is it possible to fix this? |
The only way to fix this is by meeting up with her. Texting her doesn't cause an emotional response. |
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| Author: | Truskawa [ Sun Jul 31, 2016 5:14 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Is it possible to fix this? |
Yup, that's what I thought too. I think I should ask her out directly, out of the blue. Regular texting won't help here. Is it a good idea? |
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| Author: | JackZero [ Sun Jul 31, 2016 5:24 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Is it possible to fix this? |
Quote: Yup, that's what I thought too. I think I should ask her out directly, out of the blue. Regular texting won't help here. Is it a good idea? Asking her out will probably put her guard up. Asking her to meet up for something simple is more likely to get a yes.
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| Author: | Truskawa [ Sun Jul 31, 2016 6:25 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Is it possible to fix this? |
Don't want to express "solve-it-all-for-me" attitude but no idea comes into my mind. What 'simple thing' can it be? Our meetings were never pure-romantic, we used to just sit by the river talking and drinking a beer or two usually. |
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| Author: | methodology [ Mon Sep 12, 2016 11:25 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Is it possible to fix this? |
Whatever is in between you two, which could be the fact that she said to tell your girlfriend and you clearly didn't until you had to, or maybe she realizes you're lousy boyfriend material, or maybe the challenge is gone without the girlfriend, but you have little wiggle room here with her fading out. Meeting with her, over something simple, is going to be difficult. Rather than being able to spontaneously ask her to something for the fun of it she is going to analyze whether she should put herself into that situation. I can't wait to hear the suggestions. You'd be better off getting active on social media and displaying attractive qualities before taking another shot you could be turned down again from. If anything, remind her of the good times before all this mess and then when she is becoming more compliant you can pull a random "hey, I was just at this place or that place, I'll order you a drink. Be here in fifteen." |
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