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Author:  skibum_99 [ Tue Feb 09, 2016 3:46 pm ]
Post subject:  txting over a month after I got a number
Hey guys, just wondered if anyone has had this situation. I had a good interaction with a girl and she gave me her number and said we'd hang out sometime. Only thing is, about a day or to later I got distracted by another girl and decided that it was best not to be playing two girls at once. I live in a small town, people talk, I don't want a bad reputation.

Anyway, this was probably over a month a go and since then, the girl I started seeing has screwed me over. and I want to move on. I would like to get in touch with the girl whose number I got back then but I feel a bitt awkward about txting her now, I see her about a bit so I'm wondering I should let it go until I see her again and have another good interaction and mention meeting up then... Any tips?
Author:  lonerx14 [ Wed Feb 10, 2016 1:38 am ]
Post subject:  Re: txting over a month after I got a number
best way to make the girl mad is by befriending her friends and build attraction causing your social value to skyrocket. Live in abundance with the ex's friends.
Author:  R.C [ Wed Feb 10, 2016 7:20 am ]
Post subject:  Re: txting over a month after I got a number
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Hey guys, just wondered if anyone has had this situation. I had a good interaction with a girl and she gave me her number and said we'd hang out sometime. Only thing is, about a day or to later I got distracted by another girl and decided that it was best not to be playing two girls at once. I live in a small town, people talk, I don't want a bad reputation.

Anyway, this was probably over a month a go and since then, the girl I started seeing has screwed me over. and I want to move on. I would like to get in touch with the girl whose number I got back then but I feel a bitt awkward about txting her now, I see her about a bit so I'm wondering I should let it go until I see her again and have another good interaction and mention meeting up then... Any tips?
Sure, let it go and just hope to randomly bump into her at the mall. Come on dude, is this a serious question?
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Wed Feb 10, 2016 2:44 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: txting over a month after I got a number
The 'ol "Who's number is this." Random text still works.
Author:  skibum_99 [ Wed Feb 10, 2016 2:47 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: txting over a month after I got a number
I'm not bothered about getting back at my ex, in fact I'm already good friends with everyone she lives with, they're already pretty mad at her. As for bumping into girl two, well like I said, I live in a small town. I saw her on the bus today, got chatting and we ended up going out boarding all afternoon, with a few other friends too which resulted in us saying we would have to do it again.

All I was really after was some advice on messaging someone who I hadn't bothered to way back when I should
Author:  skibum_99 [ Wed Feb 10, 2016 2:47 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: txting over a month after I got a number
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The 'ol "Who's number is this." Random text still works.

haha, that's actually perfect
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Thu Feb 11, 2016 7:15 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: txting over a month after I got a number
You can't get a bad reputation for dealing with two girls at the same time unless you've decided to make a commitment to anyone of them. Its fair game until boundaries and lines are drawn. It would actually give you the appearance of someone who is more attractive and further push you into the position to be seemed as someone a girl wouldn't want to "screw over".

As far as the girl.. How far did things go before you cut her off?

You can try, but you also have to enter with the mindset that you dropped her for someone else and you are only returning to her because things didn't work out with you and the girl you dropped her for. If the shoe was on the other foot, how would you take it? Contact her, but do so from the position and things will go a lot smoother.
Author:  skibum_99 [ Thu Feb 11, 2016 9:47 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: txting over a month after I got a number
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You can't get a bad reputation for dealing with two girls at the same time unless you've decided to make a commitment to anyone of them. Its fair game until boundaries and lines are drawn. It would actually give you the appearance of someone who is more attractive and further push you into the position to be seemed as someone a girl wouldn't want to "screw over".

As far as the girl.. How far did things go before you cut her off?

You can try, but you also have to enter with the mindset that you dropped her for someone else and you are only returning to her because things didn't work out with you and the girl you dropped her for. If the shoe was on the other foot, how would you take it? Contact her, but do so from the position and things will go a lot smoother.
Hey man, that's some good points you have there. I was on a bit of a roll and was starting to get a bit over whelmed and wasn't too sure what to do. I guess I'm not used to dealing with more than one woman at once, in my head it seems like the wrong thing to do... maybe I am wrong though.

So let's call the girl with the number girl A and the girl I was seeing girl B. I only met girl A once, got her number when I was out with mates on a walk. I just never really got around to pursuing her as girl B came along a day or two later and I slept with her... I actually had a brief thing with a girl C, a past flame who had come to visit and is still a very good friend, but that was OK with girl B because as you say, no lines had been drawn. After that though over the next few weeks I continued to hook up with girl B and we started talking more and more about where things were going until... She kissed someone else. That's actually topic for another discussion though.

Anyway, you seem to know your stuff. Your last point is so true. I think I will let this one go and just make friends with her. Lesson, don't put all your game into one girl too soon!
Author:  thephenom [ Mon Feb 15, 2016 8:52 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: txting over a month after I got a number
Glad to hear everything worked out, as it usually does.

For future reference though, I travel a lot so I actually reconnect with people I haven't seen in forever quite often. My go-to line which has never failed me is simply: "Hey just checking to see if you're still alive." (or some variation)

It's simple, neutral, funny, and sets the tone for a positive conversation.
Author:  lonerx14 [ Tue Feb 16, 2016 3:43 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: txting over a month after I got a number
skibum_99 it sounds great you were pushing yourself, great post!
Author:  skibum_99 [ Tue Feb 16, 2016 9:14 pm ]
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skibum_99 it sounds great you were pushing yourself, great post!
Cheers mate, the last few months have been eye opening and over whelming. More on that soon
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