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Author:  masonj135 [ Thu Oct 29, 2015 7:40 am ]
Post subject:  Teased girl too much, kinda resolved it and then no response
Hello, I've been texting with this girl I matched with on my hookup tinder profile(with funny sexual profile). She agreed to meet up with me for you know what a spesific time and date. But then she said she got sick and cancelled. I talked with her some more to keep her warm, she told me she likes to cook and don't like the traditional food in my country. When she was well again, she told me about her fantasies. About wanting to be really submissive and do BDSM. She wanted to do what I'd do to her, I gave her a well written text explaining in detail(not written by me). She again agreed we should meet up but she couldn't yet cause she was busy.

A few days went by and no text from her. I sent her a photo of a dinner I made and expressed how great traditional food from our country is, and added "suck it". She said wtf is that. We talked some more, she said oh that's not traditional food from our country, i made some silly arguments for why it actually IS. She then got really mad and wrote a 3 paragraph text saying things as "what the fuck do you have on top of it, it looks fucking disgusting (it was a standard mushroom sauce)" and "just stop it you're for fucks sake not getting anything when you're just trying to irritate me. Just shut the fuck up and eat your damn food. Bloody hell"

The whole text was so exaggerated that I thought it was like 50% chance she was just joking so I said: Haha, I like how you're playing along.
You're not so bad

She said: Just stop it

I said: så så (what we say to kids when they cry for not much so they will stop)
and then changed subject. She was gonna eat at her grandmas
I asked: Asian food? ;) (she likes asian food)
Then she got irritated again: Just go away now, you're just irritating me.
I decided she actually was hurt or something, so she's crazy and stupid but whatever, it was just for fuckfriend so I went into the oh I didnt knew you took it personally, grew up with two sisters its how we show affection for each other I went a little far. She said yes, and "you don't fucking need to irritate me when you know I hate that food. And besides ITS NOT TRADITIONAL FOOD FROM OUR COUNTRY". I responded, asked why she was taking it so personally
She told me about how everyone thought she was weird for not liking the food. I said oh then I understand you better, then I related with something similar that has happened to me for not liking something, and how I didnt like it either, and then I gave her some slack for not liking the food. Like accepted her.
This is 3 days ago, and she has not replied.


What did I do wrong? I teased her, which I always do. I give everyone "a hard time" and no one gets mad because I can say whatever the fuck I want. People know I'm not attacking them. But not this girl. So what do?, i didnt give in at once like a chode by saying sorry sorry please forgive me. Instead I did it once more because how could this be serious. When I saw how she was not just faking it, I related to her, showed some slight vurnerability mark manson style, and told her I was not judging her. THEN she didnt answer.

​What should I do now, and what can I do different next time?
Author:  R.C [ Thu Oct 29, 2015 10:11 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Teased girl too much, kinda resolved it and then no resp
Nothing. You should do nothing differently next time. Your incompatible. Personalities don't match. At all, it would seem.

Personally I wouldn't put in the effort just to get a lousy lay. Find someone who gets you.

Or if you really want this chick re-initiate contact and tone down the attitude.
Author:  ChocolatePUA [ Tue Nov 03, 2015 7:16 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Teased girl too much, kinda resolved it and then no resp
Quote:
Hello, I've been texting with this girl I matched with on my hookup tinder profile(with funny sexual profile). She agreed to meet up with me for you know what a spesific time and date. But then she said she got sick and cancelled. I talked with her some more to keep her warm, she told me she likes to cook and don't like the traditional food in my country. When she was well again, she told me about her fantasies. About wanting to be really submissive and do BDSM. She wanted to do what I'd do to her, I gave her a well written text explaining in detail(not written by me). She again agreed we should meet up but she couldn't yet cause she was busy.

A few days went by and no text from her. I sent her a photo of a dinner I made and expressed how great traditional food from our country is, and added "suck it". She said wtf is that. We talked some more, she said oh that's not traditional food from our country, i made some silly arguments for why it actually IS. She then got really mad and wrote a 3 paragraph text saying things as "what the fuck do you have on top of it, it looks fucking disgusting (it was a standard mushroom sauce)" and "just stop it you're for fucks sake not getting anything when you're just trying to irritate me. Just shut the fuck up and eat your damn food. Bloody hell"

The whole text was so exaggerated that I thought it was like 50% chance she was just joking so I said: Haha, I like how you're playing along.
You're not so bad

She said: Just stop it

I said: så så (what we say to kids when they cry for not much so they will stop)
and then changed subject. She was gonna eat at her grandmas
I asked: Asian food? ;) (she likes asian food)
Then she got irritated again: Just go away now, you're just irritating me.
I decided she actually was hurt or something, so she's crazy and stupid but whatever, it was just for fuckfriend so I went into the oh I didnt knew you took it personally, grew up with two sisters its how we show affection for each other I went a little far. She said yes, and "you don't fucking need to irritate me when you know I hate that food. And besides ITS NOT TRADITIONAL FOOD FROM OUR COUNTRY". I responded, asked why she was taking it so personally
She told me about how everyone thought she was weird for not liking the food. I said oh then I understand you better, then I related with something similar that has happened to me for not liking something, and how I didnt like it either, and then I gave her some slack for not liking the food. Like accepted her.
This is 3 days ago, and she has not replied.


What did I do wrong? I teased her, which I always do. I give everyone "a hard time" and no one gets mad because I can say whatever the fuck I want. People know I'm not attacking them. But not this girl. So what do?, i didnt give in at once like a chode by saying sorry sorry please forgive me. Instead I did it once more because how could this be serious. When I saw how she was not just faking it, I related to her, showed some slight vurnerability mark manson style, and told her I was not judging her. THEN she didnt answer.

​What should I do now, and what can I do different next time?
Firstly, either not enough comfort or not enough attraction for her to want to meet you. Your mistakes made were at the beginning of your interactions. Her saying that she was "sick" for your date was most likely not true and she was flaking because she didn't really want to meet up, although she seemed to have a good time having you as a text buddy. THAT was the main problem.

Secondly, you spent waaaay too much time and effort trying to start a "textual" relationship and ended up fucking up. She was obviously irritated by the whole traditional food thing yet you kept bringing it up. For me, I like to keep things simple, NOT overtext, and leave something for when we meet to talk about.

Thirdly, if a woman disrespects you, and you weren't out of line, you should not allow it. She went overboard with her comments yet you kissed her ass. What you should have done was ignore. No arguing, no trying to prove your point. Just ignore her ass. She will get the point. If she cared, then she'd apologize. If not, then move on.
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