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Author:  jay19871 [ Tue Oct 06, 2015 1:03 pm ]
Post subject:  She flirted, got number, facebook then blocks me!?
Hi,

So I met this girl at a party last Friday

She's pretty good looking and it turns out we go to the same uni and in the same faculty. I never see her since I'm a post-grad and she's an undergrad.

At the start of the party she was with her sister and their female housemate, I opened the set and started talking to her sister and said hi to the girl I liked (let's call her Alice). It turns out Alice's sister also works for the same organisation as me.

Anyways I did manage to talk with Alice quite a few times on and off throughout the night over a span of 4-5 hours and did manage kino quite a bit. She actually seemed to enjoy it and flirted with me a lot. I even had my arms around her and she couldn't complain. At one point she challenged me to a drinking contest, I told her "If I competed with you, what would you do for me? ;-)" She laughed and said "Hmm...well that depends!!"'

I told her friend 'I like your friend, the girl in red.' She basically told her that I like Alice, apparently Alice said she doesn't like me.

Regardless Alice continues to flirt. Towards the end I tell her 'Hey look, I like you, and I want to take you out for a drink.' So she gives me her number and smiles.

I added her on Facebook on Saturday and called her on Sunday to ask her out. She didn't pick up and hence begins a series of texts that I think I basically shot myself in the foot.

Here it is:
ME on Friday 11:46pm:
Hey, I had fun meeting you. Let's chat sometime soon. Jake.

HER on Saturday 2:05am:
Hey you!! It was nice meeting u too. Yep will do. Have a good night.

ME on Sunday 6:08pm:
Hey!! How's your day going?? Called to see if you're free to catch up this week.

HER on Sunday 10:25pm:
Hi!! Was at work sorry could not reply to ur text. My day was pretty good actually. How about yours?

ME on Sunday 11:23pm:
Well of course my day was better than yours ;-)

HER on Monday 2:35pm:
Of course it was :) What did u get up to??

ME on Monday 5:22pm:
I love this cute thing you do to try to be convincing ;-), but you're not convincing at all! Why should I tell you? :-)

HER on Monday 10:36pm:
Aww I wasn't trying to be convincing, that was genuine! I would sure like it if you told me. Getting curious now ;-)

ME on Tuesday 7:44am:
Ohh...Are you trying to hit on me?? :-P

HER on Tuesday 8:06am:
Not really

ME on Tuesday 8:54am:
Oh okay, well it was fun :-), but now that I think about it - you're not my type anyway.

HER on Tuesday 9:01am:
You are right. I don't like you that way anyway!

ME on Tuesday 12:56pm:
Well that ended pretty quickly. I was least hoping for a little more fun, weren't you? :-P
____________________________

Okay so at around 5pm I check my facebook and turns out she blocked me. I texted her again today (Tuesday) at 7:51pm and finally told her on text: Btw I spent my weekend recording a new song on my guitar. Actually that's what I really did.

So guys was this girl interested at all? I think she was but not sure if I pushed it too hard with the 'hitting on me' line. I guess I was preempting she would say 'Why would I be hitting on you?' When I said "you're not my type" I was preempting she might say "how come?"

Or do you think she's still trying to shit test me?

I have no idea. Advice pls on what I could have done better and what I possible could do to salvage the situation?? I was actually planning on asking her out for lunch this Thursday. It's a shame, really...The sad part is when I like someone I don't like to fool around too much and I just start being genuine. I didn't get that opportunity to show her.

Thanks!!
Author:  R.C [ Tue Oct 06, 2015 2:20 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: She flirted, got number, facebook then blocks me!?
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So guys was this girl interested at all?
Yes.
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I think she was but not sure if I pushed it too hard with the 'hitting on me' line. I guess I was preempting she would say 'Why would I be hitting on you?' When I said "you're not my type" I was preempting she might say "how come?"
One line will very rarely fuck things up. One line in perspective with the rest of the conversation will.
Your interaction with this girl was bad, because you were being a huge tryhard. You're putting up a facade, and if I as a guy can tell, her intuition will shred through it.

Anyway, I'll break it down for you:
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ME on Friday 11:46pm:
Hey, I had fun meeting you. Let's chat sometime soon. Jake.
Meh...
^ Probably same reaction she had.
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Hey!! How's your day going?? Called to see if you're free to catch up this week.
Never ask about her day. You don't fucking care about that. It's boring and literally what every other guy in her phone will do. How does that make you stand out?
It doesn't.
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ME on Sunday 11:23pm:
Well of course my day was better than yours
See, this could work. If it were congruent with your personality. Which it isn't. Not yet anyway.
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ME on Monday 5:22pm:
I love this cute thing you do to try to be convincing , but you're not convincing at all! Why should I tell you?
At this point she's probably rolling her eyes.
This is where you go into try hard mode and it really comes off as cringe worthy. Why would she be trying to "convince you" to tell her about your day? You ain't that special, princess.
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ME on Tuesday 7:44am:
Ohh...Are you trying to hit on me??
I'm seriously confused as to where you got that from. How is she hitting on you? She's literally just going with your conversation attempts - of questionable quality at that -, giving you the chance to step your game up.
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ME on Tuesday 8:54am:
Oh okay, well it was fun , but now that I think about it - you're not my type anyway.
Sure. You flirt, call, text and let your intentions of taking her out be known but hey, she's not even your type right? c'mon dude. That's paper thin.
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Or do you think she's still trying to shit test me?
Shit test? dude, she blocked you on facebook! Take a hint.
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The sad part is when I like someone I don't like to fool around too much and I just start being genuine.
Were you genuine to begin with this entire situation would have been very different.

You need to tone it down with the overly "gamey" attitude. Have a look at my guide, lots of great info in there for you.

Still, congrats for actually going for it. Keep it up, adjust where necessary and you'll do well in no time.
Author:  Style981 [ Tue Oct 06, 2015 7:18 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: She flirted, got number, facebook then blocks me!?
Apart from the other things already pointed out, I'd like to add some more. I think you probably scripted some DHV routines and decided to use them anyway, just because you read or heard from some one about DHV-ing (Atleast thats how it appears to me :P )

If you are trying to use "Mystery Method" or "Style's Routines",
1. Make sure they are congruent with your real life personality
2. They are meant for HB 10s. Let me say that again. HB 10s So even if
a girl has slightest issue of self esteem these techniques are gonna backfire as they did in your case.

Your use of DHVs was unnecessary and over used.
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ME on Sunday 11:23pm:
Well of course my day was better than yours ;-)
This was enough.
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ME on Monday 5:22pm:
I love this cute thing you do to try to be convincing ;-), but you're not convincing at all! Why should I tell you? :-)
DHV # 2 - unnecessary
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ME on Tuesday 7:44am:
Ohh...Are you trying to hit on me?? :-P
DHV # 3 - Over used
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HER on Tuesday 8:06am:
Not really
At this point she was not playful any more. I can tell by the way she texted (no more smileys)
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ME on Tuesday 8:54am:
Oh okay, well it was fun :-), but now that I think about it - you're not my type anyway.
DHV # 4 - Totally opposite of what you should've done.
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HER on Tuesday 9:01am:
You are right. I don't like you that way anyway!
K.O!!!

Not only did you over used the DHV routines, you also ignored the red signs while she was freaking out.
My suggestion try to tone DOWN the cocky funny attitude a bit (tbh a lot :P ) and you'll do just great.
Author:  jay19871 [ Tue Oct 06, 2015 8:23 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: She flirted, got number, facebook then blocks me!?
Okay cool thanks guys. A question.

How come you think when she first replied with text she didn't mention the 'catching up' but proceeded with responding to the 'how was your day'?

This kind of put me off guard as I wasn't sure if she was interested via this response or not.

Thanks guys! This is a lesson learnt to stop over gaming.

Edit: would you say it's worth apologising and mentioning just joking don't take it seriously?
Author:  Style981 [ Wed Oct 07, 2015 7:55 am ]
Post subject:  Re: She flirted, got number, facebook then blocks me!?
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Edit: would you say it's worth apologizing and mentioning just joking don't take it seriously?
First there's less chance now since she's pissed to the extent that she blocked you. But still if you wanna go for it, apologizing wouldn't be the best option in my opinion.
Start a conversation casually and if she gives you another chance, try to do it right this time :)
Author:  R.C [ Wed Oct 07, 2015 8:02 am ]
Post subject:  Re: She flirted, got number, facebook then blocks me!?
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Edit: would you say it's worth apologising and mentioning just joking don't take it seriously?
No, cut your losses and move on. There's nothing to apologize for.
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How come you think when she first replied with text she didn't mention the 'catching up' but proceeded with responding to the 'how was your day'?
Read my guide, you'll figure it out for yourself once you do.
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