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| Author: | ajp101 [ Sat Sep 05, 2015 7:10 pm ] |
| Post subject: | I can't close for shit..... |
Two situation where I know I should have closed, one was solid and the other not so. Situation 1 I've been seeing this girl on and off for the past year, but I've known her for over 5 years. We've got extremely close over this year. Being on a gap year with little money has really limited me to the girls in the town. Most girls around my age are either in college or at uni. So me and her would often go for coffee, cinema or general shopping. It's got to the point where we go out so much my parents, her parents and sister believe we are dating. A few weeks ago our friend group went out drinking, and because we live in relatively the same area, it was cheaper to get a cab together. the girl i like and me had just seen our two friends make out and as we got the her house i gave her a proper hug (trust me there is a difference) her hand/purse ended up behind my head, either slapping me to let go or to push my head in for a kiss. I'm guessing i totally misread the signs because i apologised(Looking back on it, it was definitely a mistake and I should have kissed her then). Which brings us to August. I actually don't have a clue what happened...we still see each other, a lot has happened that has had an effect on me. I've been accepted into uni about 1 hour 30 away from my home town. A few things have happened between me and the girl. It got to the point where the sexual Tension is through the roof...and then I made her really jealous and upset. We were at a party. (for reference lets call the friend V and other people Ly, J and L) I was socialising and talking to a new girl Ly. Why? Because I thought that nothing was happening between V and me. Ly was digging me, totally interested. I look left and talk to my two friends J and L who were both saying "Go on! Pull Ly". Trying not to be a oneitised by V, I carried on. I didn't pull Ly, but I should have. V was sitting there staring at me the entire time, trying to figure out what I was doing and asking J and L if I was going to pull or not. I know it's only been just over a week since that party, but she seems to not want anything to do with me. Why? Because I was talking to another girl and made her jealous, even though we aren't together? It's a messy situation SPAM, I really need to clean it up before I go to uni. Situation 2 Because nothing was official between me and the girl in situation 1, I was flirting with another girl at a party. I didn't pull the other girl but the girl I've been seeing seemed to get jealous of me talking to the other girl. I am so confused and don't have a clue what to do. Why? Because I go off to uni soon and me and the girl I'm seeing are on separate holidays between now and the time I leave. What are some kino techniques I could use? The thing is I really want to be certain that the girl in situation 1 likes me, because I (not trying to big myself up too much) know there will be more girl like situation 2 in uni. What are some IOI's I should look out for? And how should I close? Thanks, your help and opinions are appreciated, good or bad lol |
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| Author: | Dragula [ Sat Sep 05, 2015 7:23 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I can't close for shit..... |
That was a tough read. Sounds like you're just making out with a girl or 2 at a house party. But you're not leading it to anywhere private - thus, cockblocking yourself... Also, you keep saying that the girls are long distance, you got no money bla bla - just get your shit together, be organised and then optimise your life so that you only have your game to work on. |
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| Author: | R.C [ Mon Sep 07, 2015 7:26 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I can't close for shit..... |
So did you ever kiss the girl from the first situation? Did you do anything sexual what so ever? I don't understand. |
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| Author: | ajp101 [ Tue Sep 08, 2015 10:15 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I can't close for shit..... |
No unfortunately  she held my hand once, this whole girlfriend/boyfriend thing is new for both of us...I'm probably gunna see her once or twice before I leave for uni, I think she likes me, but I gotta be sure before I make any sort of move...do you know any escalation techniques?
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| Author: | R.C [ Tue Sep 08, 2015 10:33 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I can't close for shit..... |
Dude. You don't make moves when you're sure she's into you. You make moves to find out if she's into you. Look up David DeAngelo's escalation ladder. I never went over it myself but people say it's good for someone in your position. My guess is you've successfully friendzoned yourself. But I still encourage you to find out. You'll get over a rejection in a few days. You'll get over "what if I tried" in months. |
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