Dear pua-community,
first of all excuse me for my englisch, I'm actually german but I don't like the german forums.
A few weeks ago I tried online-dating, just for fun. I(18) got 3 numbers and than I deleted my account.
There is one HB9 (on pictures)(17) that I like more than the others.
On the dating platform I approached her with a simple "hi how are you?" She texted back 1 or 2 days later.
1 Week later I was about to delete my account so I gave her a massage: "Oops, give me youre number this wouldnt happen on SPAM
" She instantly gave me her number and we exchanged 3-4 massages each.Than i sended her a voive massage, she replied with a text, I replied with a voice massage, and she again wit a text. At this point I stopped doing voice massages because she didnt invested enough. This is also the reason why i canceled the text-conversation after 2 more massages. A few days later I texted her again, after her reply i started doing voice massages again (I know youll say that its better to call her but girls in this age usually only text with guys so i feel like they get uncomfortable if i directly call [also the last conversation wasnt the best] so I decided to build up comfort with voice massages first [Its special enough because most of the guys in my age doesnt do that, they only write texts]. This time she also started recording voice massages and we "talked a little bit". She always answered instantly so I did the same to keep the conversation flowing. After a while I stopped answering for 3 hours (I had other things to do).
Then I thought whether its better to not answer and call her a few days later or try to get a phone call now.
I did a mistake: I recorded a textmassage saying: If youre still home (she had plans, too) I have 15 minutes time to talk on the phone than I have to go". She didnt replied to that one, maybe she was mad because i didnt answered before (she can see that I red the text) and decided to "take revange".
Well that was 1 week ago and now I'm not sure how to start a new conversation, but I think in this case its better to text or record a voice massage (or do you think I should call? the problem is if she doesnt pick up I have to leave the ball in her corner and there are 100 of guys that text her every day so she wont contact me. Im sure she will reply to a text/voice massage)
I thought about 2 options:
1: something like: "oooh you dont have to be shy its fun to talk to me" or "oh i see you dont like phone calls"
2: the classic method: act like nothing happened open a new theme and try to set up a date.
I appreciate if you give me some examples how I can approach her again.
Thanks.
Elcnit