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Author:  tacojack [ Fri Sep 19, 2014 3:15 am ]
Post subject:  Girl loses interest 3 days after kiss close

So there is this girl(HB8.5) at my university who I have been friends with for a year now. I have kissed her in the past when we were both pretty drunk on a night out, which she doesn't remember (which we joke about).

After getting back from summer break I see her on the first night in a bar. I talk to her and we joke about getting married after she sees I'm wearing a ring. We tease and flirt relentlessly with a lot of kino, multiple times over a couple of hours. Later in the same night she comes over to talk while I'm on the dance floor with my mates and after talking says "are we supposed to get with each other now?".

So we kiss and flirt some more, after a while she goes back to her mates. Later in the night we kiss once more (not french kiss this time). So I walk her out of the club with my mates and her mates, who all know each other. We talk and flirt while hugging basically the whole time, but we both go our separate ways and don't fuck.

I forgot to mention we were constantly talking about going on dates the whole night and talking about the next time we'll see each other.

2 days later I text her and ask if she and her friends are up for going to a house party, she asks who else is going and agrees. My mates and I left the house party before she arrived as I told her not to come because it was dead, but she turned up anyway but we'd already left :/

Finally last night I was out again and see her a few times on a bar crawl (small town haha). I text her a few times on the night out and she doesn't reply. I see her towards the end of the night, and don't make out with her but we hug and flirt constantly on the way home. When we're talking she tells me she's not ready to date as she's still trying to get over another guy. (I think she split up with a guy recently because they lived too far away or something). She also later tells my buddy that she likes me just as friends (I didn't get this impression at all btw) after he mentions she should go and find me (top guy).

So here's the dilemma, I don't go to the same university as her anymore as I transferred to another about half an hour away in neighboring city. How do I get things going again, bearing in mind she's not super in to me right now, and I don't live in the same town. I think my main issue before was coming across to needy as she seemed to love everything else I was about.

Thanks for reading any advice is appreciated as I really like this girl. :D

Author:  In$tinct [ Fri Sep 19, 2014 9:00 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl loses interest 3 days after kiss close

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So there is this girl(HB8.5) at my university who I have been friends with for a year now. I have kissed her in the past when we were both pretty drunk on a night out, which she doesn't remember (which we joke about).

BS. She remembers, she just regrets it.

After getting back from summer break I see her on the first night in a bar. I talk to her and we joke about getting married after she sees I'm wearing a ring. We tease and flirt relentlessly with a lot of kino, multiple times over a couple of hours. Later in the same night she comes over to talk while I'm on the dance floor with my mates and after talking says "are we supposed to get with each other now?".

So we kiss and flirt some more, after a while she goes back to her mates. Later in the night we kiss once more (not french kiss this time). So I walk her out of the club with my mates and her mates, who all know each other. We talk and flirt while hugging basically the whole time, but we both go our separate ways and don't fuck.

And why exactly did you not pull her here?

I forgot to mention we were constantly talking about going on dates the whole night and talking about the next time we'll see each other.

You should have been talking about how you will ruin her wet pussy instead of how your next asexual night will go

2 days later I text her and ask if she and her friends are up for going to a house party, she asks who else is going and agrees. My mates and I left the house party before she arrived as I told her not to come because it was dead, but she turned up anyway but we'd already left :/

Not surprised at all. Not trying to be rude, but if I were this girl, I'd have had enough way before this...

Finally last night I was out again and see her a few times on a bar crawl (small town haha). I text her a few times on the night out and she doesn't reply. I see her towards the end of the night, and don't make out with her but we hug and flirt constantly on the way home. When we're talking she tells me she's not ready to date as she's still trying to get over another guy. (I think she split up with a guy recently because they lived too far away or something). She also later tells my buddy that she likes me just as friends (I didn't get this impression at all btw) after he mentions she should go and find me (top guy).

You have friendzoned yourself big time buddy by not taking things further. 3 days ago this chick wanted to ride your cock like there's no tomorrow, but you constantly took that away from her and this turned her off. Oh, that other guy is just major bullshit too. Clearly she's okay kissing and flirting with other guys. She's just not over him because there isn't a guy with a strong frame who could make her forget him. Also, don't think you're her only one. The difference between you two is that you only have her as an option, while she has a long line of guys waiting in front of her door...

So here's the dilemma, I don't go to the same university as her anymore as I transferred to another about half an hour away in neighboring city. How do I get things going again, bearing in mind she's not super in to me right now, and I don't live in the same town. I think my main issue before was coming across to needy as she seemed to love everything else I was about.

I guess right now you should wait a bit and give her some time to give you some remote chances of her missing you. Then next time, if there is a next time, you should really be pushing towards sex.

Thanks for reading any advice is appreciated as I really like this girl. :D
Also, in the meantime, you might want to find other women to avoid this kind of needy behaviour. You're bound to screw shit up when you only have one option.

Peace,

In$tinct

Author:  tacojack [ Fri Sep 19, 2014 2:21 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl loses interest 3 days after kiss close

BS. She remembers, she just regrets it.

She genuinely doesn't but that's irrelevant.


And why exactly did you not pull her here?

How do you suggest pushing for the pull aside from asking to go back to hers? As I don't have a room in that town any longer, would asking her to show her new apartment suffice?

You should have been talking about how you will ruin her wet pussy instead of how your next asexual night will go

That's what I needed to hear.

Not surprised at all. Not trying to be rude, but if I were this girl, I'd have had enough way before this...


You have friendzoned yourself big time buddy by not taking things further. 3 days ago this chick wanted to ride your cock like there's no tomorrow, but you constantly took that away from her and this turned her off. Oh, that other guy is just major bullshit too. Clearly she's okay kissing and flirting with other guys. She's just not over him because there isn't a guy with a strong frame who could make her forget him. Also, don't think you're her only one. The difference between you two is that you only have her as an option, while she has a long line of guys waiting in front of her door...

That's exactly it man, cheers for telling me what I needed to hear. I've been acting like she's the only girl in my life when she's the hottest girl on campus and every guy wants to fuck her.

I guess right now you should wait a bit and give her some time to give you some remote chances of her missing you. Then next time, if there is a next time, you should really be pushing towards sex.

Also, in the meantime, you might want to find other women to avoid this kind of needy behaviour. You're bound to screw shit up when you only have one option.

Peace,

In$tinct[/quote]

So in brief, fuck as many girls as I can before I next see her, make her realise she isn't my only option, then push to get her in the sack?

Cheers for the response. :)

Author:  In$tinct [ Sun Sep 21, 2014 8:06 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl loses interest 3 days after kiss close

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How do you suggest pushing for the pull aside from asking to go back to hers? As I don't have a room in that town any longer, would asking her to show her new apartment suffice?
Yes, I suppose that's good enough. It's upfront enough for her to know what you're about, but since she's just "showing you her new apartment" it's also acceptable for her to agree.
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So in brief, fuck as many girls as I can before I next see her, make her realise she isn't my only option, then push to get her in the sack?
Yeah, in brief that's it. You don't need to "make" her realise that though. Your behaviour with her should give out vibes that you're not that keen on her, and that you can pass her anytime you want. So you don't need to directly or indircetly tell her that you're fucking other women. If you really do fuck other women, she will feel the abundance you have anyway. That is because you just instinctively give less crap about her.
And yes, next time you see her(which shouldn't be any time soon btw, say, at least a week would be good), you should be pushing for sex.

Last thing I might add...

You seem like you really like this girl. I should note that by pushing for sex(I mean... REALLY pushing for sex. Not hinting it, not flirting, not kissy-kissy, but actually trying to fuck her), you may get rejected and that won't do too much good to your friendship. She might come up with something like "OH my God, and I thought you were different. You're just another pig who wants to get in my pants yada yada". Aaaand ultimately she would be right too... So keep that in mind. If you want to fuck her, you MUST risk losing her. If you don't want to risk losing her, you won't be able to fuck her, but you can fuck other women, and there always IS a better one.

The decision is yours.

Peace,

In$tinct.

Author:  tacojack [ Fri Sep 26, 2014 10:35 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl loses interest 3 days after kiss close

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How do you suggest pushing for the pull aside from asking to go back to hers? As I don't have a room in that town any longer, would asking her to show her new apartment suffice?
Yes, I suppose that's good enough. It's upfront enough for her to know what you're about, but since she's just "showing you her new apartment" it's also acceptable for her to agree.
Quote:
So in brief, fuck as many girls as I can before I next see her, make her realise she isn't my only option, then push to get her in the sack?
Yeah, in brief that's it. You don't need to "make" her realise that though. Your behaviour with her should give out vibes that you're not that keen on her, and that you can pass her anytime you want. So you don't need to directly or indircetly tell her that you're fucking other women. If you really do fuck other women, she will feel the abundance you have anyway. That is because you just instinctively give less crap about her.
And yes, next time you see her(which shouldn't be any time soon btw, say, at least a week would be good), you should be pushing for sex.

Last thing I might add...

You seem like you really like this girl. I should note that by pushing for sex(I mean... REALLY pushing for sex. Not hinting it, not flirting, not kissy-kissy, but actually trying to fuck her), you may get rejected and that won't do too much good to your friendship. She might come up with something like "OH my God, and I thought you were different. You're just another pig who wants to get in my pants yada yada". Aaaand ultimately she would be right too... So keep that in mind. If you want to fuck her, you MUST risk losing her. If you don't want to risk losing her, you won't be able to fuck her, but you can fuck other women, and there always IS a better one.

The decision is yours.

Peace,

In$tinct.
That's great advice, I appreciate it. I'm visiting in a couple of weeks so I'll make the move when I next see her. I'm definitely thinking about this girl A LOT less since I moved away which can only be a good thing, especially when it comes to getting her in to bed.

Again, appreciate the response.

tacojack

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