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Author:  jet_speed [ Thu Aug 14, 2014 10:16 pm ]
Post subject:  Made out after first date and now she has cold feet
Made out with a girl last night after we had drinks. I built attraction and she was about to come over but the attraction sexual tension was strong for her and she did not know how to react. That is when I went in for the kiss. She was into the kissing , when I stopped she would come in for more. She left and then texted me flirty texts late at night.


I just asked in txt her if she wanted to come by for steak tonight and she replied instantly and said it made her uncomfortable that we kissed.

I think she does not want to come across easy and she is into it but does not want to move things to fast to seem like a slut.


I responded I concur and I enjoy her presence and conversation and just want to hangout with no "KISSING in a tree"..

How should I strategies this one?

I am calling her after work.
Author:  WillEdward [ Thu Aug 14, 2014 10:59 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Made out after first date and now she has cold feet
You should have sealed the deal when she was in the moment. Now she is getting buyer's remorse after you guys left on such a high sexual tension but no sex. She is not in that same horny state and she thinks that may be all that you want. Now that she is having second thoughts, you have to build more comfort. I recommend sending a text instead of calling because she may not pick up and now she has a missed call. You are the one chasing and investing more than she is, which should be the other way around.
Author:  jet_speed [ Thu Aug 14, 2014 11:14 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Made out after first date and now she has cold feet
She would not come into my place last night. She said her gut was telling her no and said "what would my (meaning her) sister say". She said she would just want to F me . I could not budge her and she told me not to pressure her. But she continued to make out.


She responded to my last text instantly saying "whats up I am still at work"...

I am just going to tell her to call me. It is easier than texting.
Author:  Lionheart213 [ Thu Aug 14, 2014 11:41 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Made out after first date and now she has cold feet
The date sounded to me like it was good. And right now It might be too early for me to say what she is thinking. But what I will say I noticed is that.

When you asked her back out for some steak and she told you she was uncomfortable with kissing. Rather than head the other direction like you said:
Quote:
I concur and I enjoy her presence and conversation and just want to hangout with no "KISSING in a tree"..
I would of attacked the issue head on. And questioned why it made her uncomfortable. Sometimes women just don't know what the fuck they want and you have to question them on that. And get her to admit that in fact she DOES want to be intimate with me or else she wouldn't of fucking kissed me. You didn't force her to kiss you. If girls don't want to kiss, she could have easily pushed your face away as you came in at her. By not attacking the issue at this time could of put you in the (friend zone) instantly because you already agreed with her by telling her:
Quote:
just want to hangout with no "KISSING in a tree"..
That statement put her at an advantage over you. Now she can really shut the door in your face. She can us your VERY statement against you every time you meetup and make a move on her.

2-3 weeks from now after meeting up with her and taking her out for more steak and shrimp you might try to make another move and she can just shut you down again and say.... Hey Hey Hey... you said... we could "hangout without kissing in the tree" and That's the very reason why you get all the BS out the way in the beginning. I could save you a lot of money and time.

Now you maybe right that it's just a matter of her not wanting to rush into things too fast. And that's ok. But at least get her to admit that to you, so that your not guessing what the fuck is wrong with this bitch, and wasting a whole bunch of time. Girls like men to be direct and to the point sometimes. It shows that you know what you want in life and you are in fact an Alpha male.

All the girls that I hangout with that I don't have the ability to kiss are all in the (friend zone) with me. And all the girls I do kiss if I press to fuck, you best to beleave we fucking.

So my advice is .. press the issue and find out why before going forward.
Author:  jet_speed [ Fri Aug 15, 2014 6:20 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Made out after first date and now she has cold feet
Great feed back.

She called me and explained she does not want to rush things and she felt uncomfortable that we just met and we made out. I can tell she is uncomfortable since she enjoyed it and feels comfortable with me and she never been seduced like that before. I have lot of confidence and escalated her easily since she is attracted to me.

She did not want to get off the phone with me this evening. I told her I enjoy her presence and talking with her and just want to chill no expectations. She told me all her old bfs call her and beg her to go out with them. And she always gets flowers sent to her at work and she received some today. (I call BS) I negged her on this and she did not know what to say. haha.

I told her I had a call coming in and I will call her later.

I plan not to call her back until next week. I bet she contacts me again in the next few days.
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