Alright...
So we all know how it goes, you match a really hot girl on Tinder and send some messages back and forth, got her number and now you wanna arrange a date. She keeps on texting you but every time you suggest meeting up, see makes up some bullshit excuse why she can't. I had it a couple of times that girls honestly told me they are kinda scared to meet up because they have never met someone of tinder in person. So I tried and asked that girl I was texting the other day that was again making up some shit why she can't meet up, if she ever met some one of Tinder.
The answer was quite interesting. Even though not what I excepted.
The conversation didn't end in the best way, but at least it shows me how hot girls are being approached on Tinder. What are your opinions on that conversation, did it save me from even wasting more time, because if she would have been interested in meeting up she should at least show some afford.
Me:
btw did you ever meet someone of tinder?
Her:
Yeah I've met 3 brazilians off tinder. Ended up becoming really good friends with all of them.
Me:
haha I’m curious how did you end up making friends of tinder?
Her:
Hahaha what do you mean?
Me:
i mean its such a superficial app, you’re either looking to date someone or to hookup. don’t you agree?
Her:
True it is superficial. But if you hang out with someone and the chemistry is not there does not mean you cannot be friends.
I think they like me because they don't have a lot of people to speak Portuguese to haha.
Me:
and I guess you really appreciate practicing your portuguese too
I don’t know i had dates with not a lot of chemistry and it just ended that we never ever met each other.Her:
Hahaha that is fine if you do not believe me.
Me:
no i think its just a different mindset, I just had the feeling that you’ve never meet someone of tinder in person
Her:
Oh no I have haha but it is hard because everyone wants to meet up so you have to distinguish between the people who are genuine and who aren't
Me:
I agree, you don’t want to end up sitting at a dinner table with a total creeper
so what is a genuine person for you?
Her:
Hahaha exactly.
To me a genuine person (from tinder) is someone who is honest about what they want. I've met up with guys before (besides the brazilians) who we hang out and because I didn't hook up with them on the first date they stopped talking to me or the next time they asked to hang out they would ask me to come over and watch a movie which I know what that means. So basically someone who isn't just focused on fucking haha.
And acts like they are interested in talking to me when they really aren't.
Me:
Damn girls finally cracked that “movie” code :/
but at least theres a little honesty in “lets watch a movie” as everybody knows whats going on and if you’re not on the same page is pretty much over
*its pretty much over
Her:
Exactly. But it is annoying that I wasted my time. which don't get me wrong, I know I'm not going to find a boyfriend off tinder. But that doesn't mean I want to hook up with randos who take me to dinner one time and expect me to put out haha.
Me:
I agree probably not the best way to find a girlfriend, depends how it goes tho. I guess it takes girls a little longer to feel comfortable enough to take it to the next level. I feel like if you’re having a good time and enjoy spending time with someone why leaving out the fun part
Her:
Gahahahaha "a little longer" as in not within the first 30 minutes of meeting like most guys
Me:
well if you give the other person a heads up right away and its clear its just a hookup thats alright but if youve been texting a little bit and agree to hangout its a pretty ballsy move to aim for sex on the first date
Her:
yet a good majority still do it!
Me:
might work sometimes... but i think theres nothing wrong with saying it out loud, because if the girls is down she might signal that too
Her:
Sending me pictures of guys asking her on tinder right away if she wants to have Sex
Me:
I see you get what I’m trying to say
Appreciate your honesty tho, If you still want to hangout let me know. I’m not gonna push it further as I’ve been asking you a couple of times now. and my time is also valuable to me
Her:
Ha okay.