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| Author: | JaydeeStryder [ Wed Jun 25, 2014 10:19 pm ] |
| Post subject: | I can get numbers but I am stuck in a rut |
In the past few weeks I have had some serious bad luck with girls. I don't have approach anxiety and can hold a conversation without pauses easily. Every time I ask for a number I always get it, thats the easy part, it just seems like none of the girls want to text me back. Here are a few scenarios; I went to the hookah bar a few weeks ago, I opened a 4 set and was able to score two of the girls numbers. When I try to text them the both are too busy to reply and I have considered them both lost causes at this point. I got a girls number from work, when I tried to be friendly and ask her if she is enjoying her job she stopped texting me. There was a girl from Tinder that I was having an awesome conversation with, we exchanged numbers and after two days everything fell apart. Here is the one I need help with now. please critique me and tell me where I should go with it to prevent a bad habit I clearly have. I met this girl at taco bell the other night, she was really into me and I told her I was going to text her later. I decided to wait and text her the next morning (yesterday). Here is how the conversation goes; Me- What's up taco bell girl her- who is this? me- the guy you gave your number to the other day, is this kayla? her- It is, I am at work (i fucked up hear clearly) me- my bad, do you work alot? she hasn't sent anything back to me since and I have been losing a lot of confidence lately in my game. I never go through slumps like this, and it has been pretty bad lately. What should I text her next? I was trying to start incorporating natural game and it has helped me get numbers, but nothing ends up happening. |
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| Author: | Chris101 [ Sat Jun 28, 2014 7:29 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I can get numbers but I am stuck in a rut |
No need to lose any confidence, getting stuck in "ruts" is completely normal during the long-term journey. Ups and downs, things are random, different plateaus and new realities to reach, etc. And sometimes the same ruts come back from time to time. Big deal, just keep going! Regarding this particular issue that seems to be recurring, like many things, it can be difficult to determine how much is your fault or how much is the girl's fault (your behavioural "errors" vs the chemistry and her natural flakiness, for example). But in terms of what's in your control, in terms of shifting the odds more in your favour, it sounds like you're not developing enough rapport and thinking she's into you more than she is, getting more disappointed and surprised when the connection isn't as strong as you think it is. But you need to assume rapport and attraction; in that texting example, there should be less "hi, do you remember me?" and more callback humour and unique references to your interaction - in other words, assuming she'll remember and maintaining the same vibe, rather than trying to get back on the right page and make it work. It would help to know what you're talking about the first interaction, but the impression you're giving off might be "entertaining nice guy who's cool talking to but not really interested in seeing again" - compared to "well-developed authentic and intriguing guy who can communicate on different levels". Don't worry, this still happens to me a lot and explains why girls flake compared to meeting guys they form a better connection and can trust - not just building attraction, which can be a fleeting thing. |
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| Author: | NaughtyNapoleon [ Sun Jun 29, 2014 11:29 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I can get numbers but I am stuck in a rut |
Hey Chris101, Natural game is not about no aggressive, intead a Natural is quite aggressive in his game. WHat you should do is set up a date with a girl at the first time you meet her. Don't wait to text her to set up a date, it doesn't work this way. Set up a date with her within 2-3 days of your first meeting with her, you will hardly get any flake from girls! Hope this help, NAughty Napoleon |
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